February 16-2019

And hope this is so we caregiver are you putting yourself between impaired love one. And even worse disaster. You push the wheelchair you stayed up in the hospital throughout the night are you doing laundry for somebody who was bedridden or you taking care of a special needs child. Do you have an alcoholic in your life.

Somebody do with addiction issues as mental illness in your orbit and you are affected by this you are helping with this you are putting yourself literally sometimes in danger by caring for them if that's you, then this is the show for you. 888-589-8840 is the number to call Fuller's robe at 888-589-8840 for those you watching on Facebook live. We do stream the show. There's an audio input problem.

So were going to go off of that is just a little bit, but you be able to stream it@afr.netafr.net. We got some kind of audio problem that so I apologize for that. You could certainly log in to see me at hope for the caregiver if that's something that you feel important to do but you there's a reason to have a radio show is not a television show. Just saying I have a hair for TV, but the face for radio and I will ask about getting but I do have the here for TV 888-589-8840 America has a growing problem with family caregivers and they're not even recognizing I know that everything else gets the attention right now and so many things deservedly so. But when you have a population as big as this, and some people say it's 43 million other states. Over 65 million that the numbers are all over the map. I could tell you that it is a vast group of people who do not truly see to their own needs as they rush to put themselves between the lovelorn and even worse disaster. Now how do you help these people. What does it look like to help these people and it is help even possible for the order they just have to just white knuckle it until their loved one passes away, and then they get on with their lives. Well if you got a special needs child. This is your life if you get somebody that is not terminal. This is your life.

A lot of people think of caregivers they think of your nursing homes or they think of you know that kind of thing. No caregiver since I was 22 for wife who's had traumatic injuries from a car and you to both legs amputated 80+ surgeries that I can count hundred doctors that treated her 12 different hospital seven different insurance companies. This is been going on since Reagan was president so caregiving comes in a lot of different forms. A lot of people are are struggling with somebody in the family who has an addiction issue.

You know that's a chronic illness, and if you are if you are dealing with that. It's it's that they're not to get better. They're going to have to go to recovery program and if they're not doing it. It's going to get even more out of control. If they do it and if they going to recover from the program.

They're still dealing with these issues for life. You don't work it the ultimate recovery program is is the sanctification of Christ and that's what were going to be doing for the rest of our lives and our Christian journey is going to that sanctification program from with Christ were going to have relapses of sin and that's what we need grace, and so the principles that we talked about on this.

You are all biblically rooted and they make just absolute common sense but common sense gets thrown out the window. Sometimes when we are dealing with an impaired love one in that impairment could be something as simple as is a is a diagnosis of a disease or or some type of ricotta addiction issue or could be Alzheimer's.

It could be no trauma and Mike my wife's case on. There's all kinds different scenarios, but they have lifelong implications for us as caregivers. So what we do, how we function what does it look like an these are the issues that we want to talk about on this you will talk about with you like start of the Scripture Proverbs 3536.

You will know this Scripture trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.

In all your ways acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight.

I think that is for us as caregivers, we are we are dealing with a lot of crooked paths we don't know where to go with it seems like we just constantly being buffeted around. But as we trust in God with all of her heart and lean not on our own understanding. We find ourselves able to navigate more smoothly and this was that look like and by the way, lean not on your own understanding. There's a reason it's in Scripture. Your because we lead on her own understanding. It's important for us to not just go with what we don't believe everything you think that's another way to say that don't believe everything you think it it's like the it's like the guy that went to the televangelist went up on stage with the televisions to pray at the beginning to preform and ask you to pray for his hearing. So the televangelist on and shake him, stuck his fingers in his ear shout that it would always go to Stefan after a couple minutes of just just loud, boisterous prayers of televisions working up to frothing things is how she hearing his a lot of know is not till Tuesday at the courthouse.

He didn't get any clarification. He leaned since it's funny out. That's what were looking for is to stop and get some clarification.

Don't just believe everything you think because when you get a situation as a caregiver. It can take you down some. Some very, very dark paths and you can get your mind can play all kinds of tricks on you and in in that isolation that caregivers feel we make terrible decisions. How do I know this because on the crash test dummy of caregivers. If you could fail at it.

I failed it, and yet you can learn from these things as well and you can learn from my mistakes. 888-589-8840. That's what we do the show not because I have the answers. I don't have the answers but what we do is we bang around ideas here together so that we can safely navigate and help each other get to that place where we can catch her breath and then hear those answers and find those answers and find those pass of solution.

That's what we do is the body of Christ we pull together and help each other in this manner and encourage each other. Those of us who been down this road a lot little longer time. We have a responsibility of stewardship opportunity to assist others the way we been assisted Paul says that in Corinthians we comfort one another with the same comfort we ourselves are received from the God of all comfort. We don't lean on her on the own understanding. It is, it is a incredibly disorienting thing to go through this long, often very long valley of the shadow of death, it is it is it incredibly disorienting process and how do you safely navigate through that.

What does that look like and are you feeling that way right now.

Are you struggling with that. Do you feel like you just you just lost every turn you take is a wrong turn. Is that where your heart Lord. This is the show for you. 888-589-8840 plus plus. If you have been down this road for a while. Take a moment to call in and just offer some insights you've learned along this journey.

What have you learned from from this this long journey. That's how we do build each other up and we strengthen each other in this journey is a hard thing to care for somebody with I know it is a difficult difficult thing to do. It's even worse if you try to do it alone and you're not allowed American family radio with the nation's number one show for you as a family caregiver, a Peter Rosenberg 880-589-8848 885-8988 for the phone lines open will get your calls a little bit away will be right back you ever struggled to trust God when lousy things happen to you and Gracie Rosenberger in 1983 I experienced a horrific car accident leading 80 surgeries in both legs and became I questioned why God allowed something so brutal to happen to me. But over time I questions changed and I discovered courage to trust God that understanding along with an appreciation for quality prosthetic limbs led me to establish standing with help more than a dozen years we been working with the government of Ghana and West Africa, equipping and training local workers to build and maintain quality prosthetic limbs for their own people on a regular basis. We purchased ship equipment and supplies and with the help and inmates in a Tennessee prison. We also recycle parts from donated lambs. All of death is to point others to Christ.

The source of my help and strength, please visit standing with help.com to learn more and participate in lifting others that standing without.com. I'm Gracie. I am staining with help show for caregivers about caregivers hosted by caregiver, I am Peter Rosenberg bringing you three decades of experience to help you stay strong and healthy as you take care of someone who is not, and you as a family caregiver are at risk individual. Make no mistake about this. If this is your life and you have somebody in your life who is dealing with some type of chronic impairment from special-needs children to aging parents some type of chronic impairment from addiction to Alzheimer's. If this is you and this is your show 888-589-8840. We are interested in helping those who are pushing the wheelchair.

Those were standing in the hospital room corner. Night after night having a meltdown in the hospital Park parking lot. Been there, done that. Those who are staring at the ceiling fan every night having a conversation with doing laundry. I wrote an article was in several publications this week about Valentine's Day and here's a something to that. I want to just address quickly.

I know Valentine's Day is over. However, I thought I throw this out there to you and then we'll get to the phone a lot of lot of men. I'm finding out now are dealing with this with their wives who are caregivers for aging parents and the traditional roles of women in the home of taking care of the household duties and so forth. Those things get thrown out the window when you're caregiver if you're clinging to those type of stereotyped roles then that something of change because it is unfair for you as as a man speaking to me and right now it is unfair for you as a man to expect your wife to spend the day taking care of her mother bathing her wiping her. Whatever it is, or father, and come home to a house with dirty laundry and a messy kitchen and delivery or take out, at best, for dinner.

There is no reason why you is a man cannot do the laundry and do it well change make up the bed, go grocery shopping and pick out heart healthy things and and properly stocked pantry's. You don't just go to Costco would buy a pallet of toilet paper and come home and think you've really done something spectacular.

You don't need a gallon of mustard to do better shopping. Get the bills paid on time and and take care of it when your wife went. When your Valentine is a caregiver and I know it's the the days past, but remember this for next year and end year-round to have her come home to a messy house and your wanting to somehow have romance and she's been watching her mother or father or loved one die and deal with the subtypes getting cussed out while doing it because of dementia. Whatever else is going on and it and then to come home to a a clueless and needy husband. That's unconscionable. Stop it. Just stop it.

There's no reason coming in and for balance under my will to give chocolates over or over flowers or lingerie and I say if you're if you're caregiver if your Valentine is a caregiver, then yeah you can get chocolate but let that be a box of chocolate on a freshly folded or put away pile of laundry that's done in a sparkling clean bathroom, put some flowers and that it be clean that bathroom make up that bed, change the sheets.

All of the above adult layout lingerie layout very comfortable pajamas and help her get to bed and go to sleep. That's the kind of thing that you do for your caregiving spouse because this thing that's that's what our Savior does for us for his spouse for for his loved one, which is us the wounded bride of Christ.

When you start putting demands on your loved one who is serving as a caregiver to somehow meet your needs.

Just because you never took the time to learn how to do the laundry and cooking iron. All I can stuff while that's a whole different level of clueless and selfish is working to help change that on here that is no way to treat somebody who's caring for someone the emotional exits going on a caregivers heart is beyond what you can really understand unless you've done it. Let's be kind to each other on this. Let's care for one another in this let's do it with with specificity list.

Don't just say hey will let me know if I can help with anything or doubt bring home. You don't pizza for dinner. That's a nice dinner and by the way, dinner's not over until the kitchens clean and pristine condition that a guy: Windows earlier but I worked to jot it out and he stopped to realize who to talk to a been doing this for a long time I cook I clean and do laundry help you I do it all and sometimes I do it with a glad heart. Sometimes the cutter grind my teeth a little bit. But the point is is we pick up whatever tools are necessary to get the job done in these in this not about gender equality. This is just about consideration. This is just about kindness. 888-589-8840 888-589-8040. If you don't know how to do laundry because it will tell you how to do it and by the way the iron is not some magical device you could pick it up and use it iron some close you can do that for your caregiving spouse you can do that. It's not hard to iron. The instructions are right there audit you look at the tag of what you're dealing with and you could do it. I promise you can do it right.

Erica New Mexico good morning Eric, hi Phil and Eric are doing wonderful, fantastic. Thank you for me on your show well limitations of the similarly where you are. New Mexico is yes sir I usually get up around 330:40 morning purpose years will love in Montana so it's it's a little early here to what's what's on your heart month with all my heart mind today is certain of your show yours. What about addiction and how some folks have to go through programs and centers you deal with it might deal today is I have gone through with alcohol battle with it is about the age of 15 and in 2011 on 3 July 2011 I had one of those things.

Alcohol referred to as a moment of clarity and I decided to stop drinking and I went back to school finish college with a two month program and it will be going on nine years this July 3, 2019 and I have not touched a drop.

I'm as sober as a preacher on Sunday will. That's not necessarily always the best analogy is there's a lot of preachers of every sober on studies that all that notwithstanding, congratulations on that and congrats congratulations. All that would let me ask you question Eric, are you married yet hello you been married 13 years now you been sober for how long, big 109 July is your wife doing wonderful. She go to any kind of recovery program for spouses or family members of alcoholics no man don't hurt me. No ma'am thanks thanks for recognizing I'm sorry to have a blog with drug or alcohol notice she go to a program for family members of people with alcoholism as she considered some of that for herself and asked if she would like to do that because you know she had to watch you go through all this stuff and she had to deal with that roller coaster of your life. What about you kids you get kids, one child with autism. How's he doing she or he she's doing really well. In fact, here's an AVR honor roll student to start school withheld to see 11 so sheep. She missed the worst of all the stuff but your wife did not. Don't underestimate the impact of something like this on a family member on the spouse.

In fact, have you seen you know Russ Taft is the singer name again Russ Taft. We played a good morning at one of his songs come into this break and he and his wife have a movie out guys want all kinds of Dove awards, Grammy awards alike instead of just amazing singer and he and his wife have a movie out called us to believe it details his journey through alcoholism and her journey through his alcoholism and I would recommend the movie and I think it's coming out is a book you get the DVD public and download it but I would recommend it for your wife maybe to two of you can watch it together because don't underestimate what this journey did to her. She loves you and Edward were all pumped for you we would be pumped for both of you. The worst thing about alcohol and/or drug is how it isolates one it does in your addiction. Think about how it isolated her right is an isolation process. You will want to get away and not me saying I will really, really, started to really eat at me when you credit you don't want to do it. Comfortable children I get that door in your backup backup anyway backup just a minute Eric I get all that but I want you to start thinking of her now and how it isolated her part of your recovery program.

Are you still working recovery program.

111 going to need well I would I would I would challenge that that it's it's in alcoholism is is a is a chronic condition and you get delivered of it but there there are opportunities for you to participate in the recovery program of understanding the journey of how you got there is not just to stop drinking. It's a start living and explore why you will see alcoholism. I alcohol was your medication will review Medicaid okay what so what were you medicating the following day I got a break. I want to go to BRCA1 continue this little bit 888-589-8848 885-8984.

When we take a substance like alcohol, it is it is a medication were medicating something what are we medicating that's the part process go with the recovery program working a program to make sure that you stay in that place where you understand the journey and also don't underestimate how this affects the people around the track and not just always about you disease affects a lot of you ever struggled to trust God when lousy things happen to you. I'm Gracie Rosenberger in 1983 I experienced a horrific car accident leading 80 surgeries in both legs and became I questioned why God allowed something so brutal to happen to me. But over time I questions changed and I discovered courage to trust God that understanding along with an appreciation for quality prosthetic limbs led me to establish standing with help more than a dozen years we been working with the government of Ghana and West Africa, equipping and training local workers to build and maintain quality prosthetic limbs for their own people on a regular basis. We purchased ship equipment and supplies and with the help of inmates in Tennessee prison. We also recycle parts from donated lambs. All of this is to point others to Christ. The source of my help and strength, please visit standing with help.com to learn more and participate in lifting others that standing without.com.

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It is extraordinary standing without let me go back quickly to Eric about finish this up here Eric, thanks for hanging onto the break, the part of what I'm trying to tell you is about alcoholism and it's a chronic disease and you're going to find it and you've done well.

Thank you. I'm glad you're not drinking were all just cheered for you on this, but do not underestimate how this affected the people around you, particularly your wife.

You follow me, they would lose their will, lost Eric and but that's this is one of the things I'm trying to drive home to people is that it's not just about the individual who is dealing with whatever impairment there is more going on and if you are struggling with alcoholism or if you struggle with alcoholism. I I am imploring you to consider your people around you to consider those around you that this is affected because it has in my focus of this you is for the caregiver. Okay, I'm gonna rejoice with you if you're sober I would hundred euros I will cheer you on. Great, but I want to ask about the people in your orbit that have been traumatized by your disease by your impairment and are they getting help for themselves and there are 12 step recovery programs for family members about college for children of alcoholics.

There are so many of those things out there, but you've got to take advantage of those things you got to make the phone call yourself and if this is where you are. Please understand it is not selfish. It is not inappropriate. It is healthy for you to make that phone call for you to go to a meeting for you to seek out counseling's raise your hand and say I need help.

This affected you and I'm one of the few people in the country that are talking about alcoholism. In this capacity when it comes to dealing with caregivers. I let's see Ralph in Kansas, Ralph in Kansas. Good morning Ralph, are you feeling back then I walk about all the old one that was found for merit are fake caregiver… I called and Arabella back in a matter of fact I heard you one morning on the radio called and got cut off or something before we got a dog went outside so that will what's on your mind today. Well, I've got a friend of mine and really care your mother should grant limit that guy you got a comment on what you said about Alton, not all and quit Dragon neglect on the recovery program you got a continued recovery program forever and ever and ever bring you a map.

Well I'm glad I got your endorsement of that because that's the stance I'm going to take it nobody little movie off of that. I got a sin problem and I met a need to do a recovery program for my sin problem for the rest of my life. I know I'm saying we all do, and that's called sanctification, and there is not. I got a check into reading every day. It's thanked Ralph a cashier lady and I think you said it beautifully. Ralph listen appreciate your receipt you called this morning and thanks for sharing it with you behave yourself over in Kansas. I met yesterday. May God let you take care and thank you you got your program is vitally needed. Thank you Ralph thank you for being a listener thanks to take the time to call you know that I'm okay. Just at the VA and I know not try to get my picture dog gone there could you do better, but she would never gone that to parent your fats away an effective pathway within last three years my de facto ionic about August 2017 Mike Victor, my younger think about the way last October. No the end of September, right here. My mother 987 on 13 January to hear back the way last Wednesday morning it out. 47.I haven't you got a lot. You gotta take care of yourself, you can't take care nobody else did you just said it beautifully right there Ralph so I went to go talk to some other folks that are lined up to call you have yourself a fabulous day and I got back here and I am not up. Thank you Barbara will think you would think if ours will I let's go to Donna Mississippi done a good morning how you feeling*how are you well for minimize age limited abilities and think of doing all right on Bernard my neighbor caregiver 24 nine has now happened Diane lying any morning, any morning now I'm hurt and neither has now and she struggles every day. I was a nurse but I'm not able to help turn it like in my hallmark. I don't know what you will be as you couple questions of how old is she caregiver yes ma'am I night do you can you do your own grocery shopping done. I can you do your own grocery shopping are back to Karen 80, but you go to the grocery store. Can you ask her if there's anything you can pick up for her and she could she can pay you for.

But that way it saves her from having to go out and do it. Is that something that would be helpful to her collar when I got it good.

She's got a husband yet marked solid comments you are allowing water supply plane now on doing things and he doesn't do any of those things.*He doesn't do any of those things that are all right let me let me let me tell you two things.

Number one of them. Number one is she has a Savior and you're not that Savior and when she she's got a husband who doesn't want to lift a finger to help her now. You can't hold somebody down and help out with. She's going to have to get to the point where she's going to have to raise her and so you know I'm tired of this and when she strokes out.

If she doesn't she's going to have health issues of her own. They say taking care of someone with Alzheimer's. Agency takes about 5 to 10 years off your life and if she doesn't do that then her husband's good have to step up and deal with the reality of of doing all this without her. She is one.

Why that may it may come that I'm sorry for that. Donna, but she and her husband will will out grant someone coming year. She doesn't come in and she's already got someone in doesn't help her what she needs to do is start asserting herself know that well there's actually something you can do. Donna, you could tell her about the show tell her about this show and get a copy about how well will shout out our well there's a free podcast, Donna get a copy of my book yet there where can I get anywhere. Books are sold. Amazon whatever you where books are sold. Caregiver hope for the caregiver caregiver know is called hope for the caregiver caregiver hope for the caregiver and I got a duplicate out I got I got a new book is called seven caregiver landmines and how you can avoid the these are books and Donna. These books are so easy you could read him in the bathroom.

I know that's railroad him now I'm just getting Melissa and Donna, let me ask you something. Are you still spoken. I think we all know that Donna, how about you look at your nurse how much you look at it, maybe stop smoking. Can you maybe start on that path for you that's good. As we like to keep you around longer okay Donna I got go to bring a guy go to break you. Keep listening to your doctor.

This is over the caregiver the speed rosebud will be right back in the speed. Rosenberger never helped somebody walk for the first time I've had that privilege many times through our organization. Standing with hope when my wife Gracie gave up both of her legs follow this horrible Rick that she had as a teenager and she tried to save them for years and if it just wouldn't work out.

And finally she relinquished him and thought wow this is that I'm not happy legs anymore. What can God do with that and then she had this vision for use in prosthetic limbs as a means of sharing the gospel to put legs on her fellow amputees and that's what we been doing now since 2005 was standing with hope. We work in the West African country of Ghana and you can be a part of that through supplies through supporting team members through supporting the work that were doing over there, you can designate a limb. There's all kinds of ways that you can be a part of giving the gift that keeps on walking and standing with hope.com would you take a moment ago understanding with hope.com and see how you can give they go walking and leaping and praising God.

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That was my wife Gracie singing with her dear friend John Erickson taught the two of them between the two of them live got well over 85 years of disability multi. Gracie said multiple imputations, 80 surgeries plus that I can kill Johnny quadriplegia for 50 something years. Now she's battling her second round of cancer and it is just extraordinary listens to women speak you can hear that whole.

So if you want to go out to our website. It hope for the caregiver.com just click on the music tab you can hear that although the things in produce that arrangement of the two of them and just love listening to it hope for the caregiver.called and while you're there, look around, look at the block look at the free podcast signed up for me there so many things out there. The books so forth all that stuff out there for you so hope for the caregiver.com all right. Let's go to Amos in Ohio Amos good morning how you feeling good morning not doing I'm not doing a good. I was going. I lost my wife October 21 at 726 naming and we had two different glaciers out here are flashing. My flash allergy got bad. She stayed with me for the last five years and I gave her breathing treatments every day and she put a lot of fluid shares she had emphysema.

Amos and Amos Amos heart failure, Amos and Cmdr. Sharp are Amos will be back up here. I don't need to hear your wife's chart. How are you feeling today who may yeah that's is the show was called hope for the caregiver not hope for the departed. I need you to tell me how you're doing holiday at Caracol auditor caregiver ionic caregiver. How are you doing today Amos I like my fellow I got fresh yesterday but when's the last time you went to church. I started going to church every time she died okay. When's the last time you went to hear Dr. couple weeks ago.

What is what he or she said what are they say to Dr. Satan Amos can you hear me okay what yeah what happened on I'm jumping up at night to check standard oxygen and change their I can't get it through my head it, it's going to take some time, Amos you got condition to taking care of somebody like that is gonna take some time for that to detox. If you looked at that be ask your doctor or your pastor for referral to a counselor. A grief counselor somebody like that great timeframe, once every two monitors once every two months, thereby have been very get stuck in the doorway. I name I don't friend yet. I got my nephew will let you something to be done. Upon returning a Amos the way she died. Amos I dig it up. I didn't need you to hold still for just a second. What you talk to your pastor, your doctor fight a grief, just as you go to once every week and do yes got a telephone every morning and read the Bible you could tell about audiobook but right now I think the best thing for you to do is for to talk to your pastor or your doctor and get a grief counselor that you can talk to at least once a week for a while then maybe go to once every two weeks. Okay try that right because right now it was I think I might work with. That's that's a good start, but right now I think you need professional help to walk you through some of the stuff is gonna take a while to detox you from being a caregiver for they had to work through all this grief and so that's that's a good course of action. Talk to your pastor or your physician and get a referral to a counselor. Okay what problem I'm having.

I'm a beard, and my medication to calm down. Well then you need to talk to Dr. even more. Okay, you're not into good shape right now Amos since I want you to make appointment with your doctor and tell him everything you just told me I played birds are great for Valentines. I have no doubt that what I need you to do is to go to your doctor. Amos you track it with me. You're not in a healthy place. I want you to call your doctor first thing Monday morning, make appointment and tell your physician everything you told me and asked for referral to a grief counselor and tell that doctor that you're abusing your medicine you promised you promise, all right, thanks for calling calls back and let us know how women are right okay I will take Amos this is Tom in Michigan.

Tom how you feeling a library.

Are you well let you know I did a mental inventory. Most of the seer was going on. We we are just a few notes here real quick question.

I like the name of the movie that was on DVD that you called collar about callouts go about. It's called I still believe that's the title song of one of Ross's big hits about Russ and Tori Taft. I would highly recommend watching this movie I still believe. Or someone with alcoholism. Well, Russ struggled with that for a long time but it's his journey with his wife through it and two of the alcoholism doesn't just affect one person okay. That's the nature that sees it. That's it.addiction is not a a a single victim affliction that could take out a whole family can take out whole generation of family I have a friend bear my country are going to affect our family, so I will certainly share it with and referred that friend referred that friend to a 12 step recovery program for family members and friends of alcoholics. There's lots of different kinds of all right Tom, thank you for caring.

Thank you, thank you for seeing the need appreciated.

Buddy appreciate your list of the right. Thanks for all you do. All right, Darrell in Texas.

Darrell good morning how you feeling good morning how you feeling by what's on your heart. My thanks for holds, along, my mark, I thank you for all you do that you don't show let them know might be involved in caregiving involvement caregiver and we all must trust in God [careful one all the time that we hear and are called to thank you for your program. Not don't do it for about three or four months but don't hear from me on your continued your program. Darrell it means so much that you took the time to do that that you listen to the show and thank you for that in and listen if you've heard all these callers today would you do something because I believe that your man of prayer. Would you just continue to pray for some of these callers that have been calling in that you can remember is our greatest your target oh thank you, Darrell not print out think that right right you don't have to know that no you don't already. Thank you Dale. That means a lot to me to know that you like you put it that I got real good. Not a joke or whatever secretary what's around and place they do it right. Go to Jason. That's why you asked about the church that when people come to you, do you action your foot from the audit help you come back for you going to go commentary on their not only are like normal politically attractive. I'm not going to stop 11 but what I don't I get back I'm going to tell you and the thing about is I'm going to do before you fit onto one another to be. You have a good day. Thank you for what you do it you, thank you for that call and let me go talk to Mary in Pennsylvania. Darrell, thank you so much Mary good.

We got just a few minutes I want to squeeze you in here how you feel you about Her part family and going going out help along Along more and my went out only got just a few minutes on the job real quick would like to get a conversation with them about Calling some pretty fluid to me. Well, that I think maybe we need start helping you feel couple. There's an old song by the Georgia satellites: no hugging, no kissing till I get a wedding ring and maybe that's a that's us conversation you and your husband need to have the love we can have a healthy conversation of of our relationship until I feel safe enough to tell you what's going on and I don't feel safe enough around you. So maybe it's time for you guys to sit down with a professional like a pastor or counselor and say look let's are some these issues out because I don't think they're going to get there not to get better on their own. Following this is not going to get better on its own, married you to continue to develop more more resentment and frustration so you have a pretty Nice relationship with your pastor. Maybe studies you bet you you respect your pastor. Well, we need to find a stronger pastor and it's time it's time to have a conversation with the professional mail Mary Ives. I hate that I got touched off. If the break.

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