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March 19, 2019 2:53 pm
Author, nurse, and dementia care expert, Tracey Maxfield ( www.traceymaxfield.com ), shared her very personal and difficult journey through depression. Giving warning signs and helping others - particularly caregivers - respect the stress that's on them that can take them into dark places, Tracey points to the path of safety for those suffering from depression.Â
I got a call from someone not too terribly long ago and they were out of the podcast they would not look to listen to the audio and they heard one of the interviews I did with Tracy Maxfield and Tracy is our classy Canadian caregiver course, but it think this official title right Tracy and want to look at it… You do the states now that's okay, but you can still you still Canadian on some level, but if you wrote a you wrote a powerful book about your journey in you that you been a great dementia care expert to us for some time and you but you wrote your own journey as someone who went through depression that you are a nurse you highly trained you been around a long time event in the medical world, longtime and depression really got a hold of you, and nearly took it down and will this person called me and said they they heard your interview and it inspired them to seek medical care for themselves for their own depression and they were they were at the point where their life was at risk, and like I called you up and I just told you. Congratulations you just save someone's life and and and I just deeply grateful that you put this out there for folks and I have had follow-up conversations and that individual is doing great. I mean really has gotten onto the good it into a good place with a lot of care and treatment, and so forth.
So thank you for being on the show your Bureau of the regular listeners will know you those you don't know this is Tracy Maxfield. She is 30+ years in the in the medical field. She's a nurse she's been a dementia care expert dealing with this for a very long time. But today I just want to talk about depression. A lot of folks deal with this and they don't necessarily know that they're dealing with that. They just may feel like I don't others of their slotted this this depression can sometimes convince you that you don't have is that a fair statement wake up one morning and go well creep up on you. And so, I had get that badly. They went out and found him because by not picking out a little extra care about their own health emotionally and physically. And what shampoo is depression just get worse and worse and it just ends without welcome them back significantly and that thing is, unless they can recognize that can get help.
Between going to affect how they can continue at the keg and we know Aztec eventually wanted to very very bad for my loved one. Regardless what illness that they have the front door.
If you do have the depression walk through subsidence just is just this is not a exhausted checklist but here are some things that that should be some red flags walk walk through some of this with flex that what I'm going to mention you you like dark gray single day for a period up to a week or longer though you'll notice that you have to dictate content you're either wanting to too much for not getting I'm not actually talk to contrite and whether or not you're getting too much think what you would think you were going to feel so tired and almost like you just feel like you blocked the part of yourself, but you can't quite put your finger on it you going to find that you are getting a little emotional and you could become very angry all to fall flat. The very hopeless, betray, click change.
Most people say that they just have no height and did not appeal to them and they did with great people find that they take solid body food so that we stop junk food and they just want it back. I'm not drawn to having good nutrition. If you find that you are relying too much on alcohol medication okay that she was an indicator that you're putting on one of the not so good coping mechanism. You will shout. You just feel like you're not good and you know where they hope the why do you father and you really come down hard on yourself and depression that Jeff.I may think they have no interest in liquefying all going out with the family or social gatherings, everything becomes very, very full and I know that look like it at the top of the sand will become like the time I think it's very important that you are not you actually talk it over with your doctor, feeling like that all the time talking to Terry and Frank and you really have to be cognizant about how your emotional health, trying to cook now you have really predisposed to developing somatic track already depression or anxiety or even a phobia because Jan we began to right now so old it's really important to look at how you feel your refunding emotionally true with friends but family breakage how to get Dr. that's about as good descriptions of ever heard your nervous system is really being battered and I think that if you been a caregiver for any length of time. You understand that and I look at my own journey with this and I look back at places where I did not recognize that I that I really was not a good place.
I just was trying to soldier through it and it took a lot of a lot of work to back me away some of those places and in the yearbook.
Of course, is down the rabbit hole and you described it one point is feel like it did, there was a weight on your chest.
That was just crushing you with a physical weight that I get that right up and people who are going.burnout depression will when they say they feel they have to wake up the road on my shoulder, but you actually feel like something you when you know you don't have a pack that they know what you feel like talking yourself everywhere and that the court of planning your day just as overwhelming so you and that supply so important that you seek help because you cannot keep going like this. What will happen that it will got worse to the point that you could be so dependent.
It you're not able to help your loved one that you can't help yourself and then will God because then you feel that you're obligated to end the point is that you be healthy in order to give very back care and love to your loved one and not selfish when I say Lee take a step back and look at yourself and decide what is important to maintain your own health and emotionally to get you through that you are somebody to help folding what you may need to decades ago were only the tester only son to train medical personnel.
I know in my journey as a caregiver. I have do you often, injections of change complex dressings. I've I've been responsible for things that I never drew they never taught me a music school, a publisher that and you think about how many people are doing that changing bags and oxygen and all these kinds of things who were dealing with this level of depression you're talking about. I it's it's a bit frightening is the typological work in America. They paid Hackett and when you think about it. Start carried you're allowed to work 12 hour caregiver you do not turn off the clock. 12 hours 24 days and day out and you really got to be more mindful of trying to put yourself in order. If you do that you can take the Terry back to your loved one and I think so many caregivers that have been hospitalized actually died while caring for their loved ones because they didn't pay attention to the outback body and my brain with engine mount that and take a look at you and say okay right now I have to be number one share and be the best that I can be I can do everything I comment to my husband onto my wife, my mother, my father whatever role you play a caregiver which you you got something. The one kid I think you will speak to that.
You know how important it is that you must look after yourself in order to look after your wife will I do this is why did the show. This is why just like you all because I need to hear this message myself on a regular basis and I cannot stress enough with Tracy say the importance of we don't take into consideration just how brutal the journey is the Tracy when you go to the doctor lately.
They just want to maybe just John some kind of medication that that that that causes a diversion, the people, how can people make sure that the doctors are stuck give them something. Some of the door that they really are pursuing the right complete path because it is more than just throwing a pill at this moment small, put the laptop social.
I think you really must have other people that you can talk with and share that I would like to become isolated and lonely. I would encourage you to get the right down the things that they noted that concerned about trying to take a trip to Crandall, member or an find a True emotional when neck trying to talk about what they're doing all they okay I'm fine, actually noticing outgoing as well. Let me explain further unique to your loved one company to you as well and so think about that chicken friend or family member and then take the lectern fake. This is what she's going to mow Dr. I'm really trying not to push the medications right now and encouraging people to look at a stick approach and so I want you to be very open-minded, just medication them to explain why necessary and then if you feel it's okay, go ahead and take them from time they on the ferry reading look at the stick approach and thank you church and followed the church all the involved help you through that community meeting. Listen Tracy just flies by and I would have to Go to talk about this with you part two of this conversation with leaders that are Tracy Maxfield.com Tracy Maxfield.com. If you will get more information. The book will put this out of the podcast that hopefully caregiver.com.
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