"Honoring your mother and father" doesn't mean honoring alcoholism, addiction, or Alzheimer's.

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Margaret, I am so glad that you're with us. This is a show for the family. For those who are putting themselves knowingly and willingly, and sometimes while grinding their teeth between an impaired loved one. And even worse disaster. How do you help the family caregiver.

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This is for the family caregiver for those who are truly coming apart at the seams. While there putting themselves in sometimes and in harm's way with someone who is dealing with a chronic impairment.

I'm your host Peter Rosenberg and I'm glad that you're with us 888-589-8840 888-589-8840 if you want to be a part of the show and we would welcome that I want to swerve into something today that I have been stewing on for a while and it's just a jump right into it.

But first we just give a little bit more understanding of what the show is all about, because I don't want to be any kind of misconception. There a lot of different shows out there for politics sports and thing in relationships and you don't Bible teaching and so forth.

This show is for a group of individuals and there are a lot of us who are caring for someone with a chronic impairment.

It's not hope for the parent. It's hope for the caregiver. Sometimes if your parent, you feel like you're being the caregiver but you're not that's not what this is about, because those children, there is the expectancy that they're going to grow up, get wiser get smarter and more independent when you're caregiver, you know that your love one is not going to. They are going to deal with this impairment and it most likely will get worse and and it's going to be for some it's going to be a lifetime commitment for others.

It'll be a short-term commitment. Either way is a commitment and it is a painful one at times when you're dealing with Alzheimer's.

When you're dealing with Parkinson's. When you're dealing with a child with special needs with autism when you're dealing with all those different types think traumatic issues in my case, a wife who has a severe trauma. Sublingual announced Carrick she had back in 83 and to date over 80 surgeries. Both legs amputated hundred doctors, 12 hospitals, seven insurance companies $11 million a minute just ditch it just keeps growing and it doesn't show any signs of slowing down. How do you keep your head on straight with this which theology like in something like this and when you do a sibling chronic pain in one of things that separate this show out from others is that we also are committed to those who are struggling with a loved one who has an alcoholism or addiction issues.

That's a chronic impairment. And even if they get into a recovery program. There still could be dealing with this addiction is one of those crazy diseases that convinces you that you don't have it and you hear this a lot from people who are active in their addiction. Oh, I'm dying stopping time.

I want to stop four times you know that Calista and it it's one of those things that that the, the, the person has to be walking in some type of recovery program and the family members need to understand this and they have to be walking some kind of recovery program in order to successfully navigate this it'll take you down some dark places and and so I was talking with a friend left side of this moment to get into this morning who is his father's going through. He's he's an alcoholic and is going through some brutal realities in the family is just, you know what they don't know what to do and I told him something and I want to just say this to you all let you just listen to it. She wanted to see what you think. But I come from the standpoint that honoring your father and mother that thy days may be long in the land that the Lord gives you. That's the Scripture, but honoring your father and mother does not mean honoring their impairment. You don't have to honor alcoholism. You don't have to honor autism. You can honor your father and mother by caring for what they become. But you don't have to enable it and you don't have to engage with the addiction. You don't have to engage with that impairment, you may not be able engage with them because it covers them up so much particulate something like Alzheimer's, but would you deal with it when you're dealing with a addiction issue. For example, and I am feel free. I'd love to hear what you have to say about this.

888-589-8840 888-589-8840 but I have seen too many people now who are in bondage, trying to somehow enable and thinking that their loving but they're not there, enabling and this is what I was saying this young man yesterday but is dead and I said your you're going to have to detach that you want to sever from that's amputation you want to sever from, but you do need to detach from it and recognize that this disease of addiction is going to.

It's a family disease. It will take everybody down with it. It has no mercy.

Alzheimer's has no mercy.

None of these things have mercy. These are afflictions and we have to be smart on how we deal with and if we are if we are if her coddling them if we're enabling them if we are doing this because I don't know any better word than enabling then it's just gonna perpetuate if we try to soften their blow. They're never going to reach rock bottom and then reach for Savior.

It's mighty difficult to reach for Savior that you don't think you need and that's what sometimes addiction will do that with Alzheimer's. It's a different set update.

They're not. They're not in that same kind of path, but the same time they going to say things to you in the midst of their affliction, their mind is being messed with by disease of the gonna say things to you that are painful that are hard to go to the lash out at you curse that you all those kinds of things and what this show is designed to do is to help you detach from that a bit so you're not taking that into your spirit you not take that into your heart. This show is for the heart of the character.

I am not going to spend any time on the show teach you how to care. Give because I can't take care of your lovely morning take care of mine.

But what I can do is speak to the trauma that's in your own heart and help you navigate through these things to a place of safety were not to take away.

You cannot make my wife's legs grow back. You cannot take away her considerable pain that she lives with every day. It's relentless you can't do that. But what you and I can do together is it we can strengthen each other along the journey help adjust this pack that we carry. Bear one another's burdens is a subscription so that were not slugging through this all by ourselves, beaten down, day after day and then get to the point were we just collapse because think about it as a caregiver. What happens to your love one. If you go down what's what's who's next in line to take care of and you, for that matter is not just if you die, it's if you collapse financially, emotionally you stroke out.

How's your blood pressure.

All these things matter as a family caregiver and if you're not actively dealing with this in shoring up these areas.

What's the plan when you go down.

That's the question we ask on the show and our goal is to help you get to a place of safety get away from some of these quagmires. It can just suck you down and push you to a place where you can then catch a breath, they could knee if you have to and then start developing healthy strategies to get you on a path to safety and healthiness healthcare groups make better caregivers. This is hope for the caregiver. You can follow along. By the way on hope for the caregiver and Facebook were streaming live, this is Peter Rosenberger show for caregivers about caregivers hosted by caring Rosenberger. I am so thrilled that you're with us 888-589-8840 888-589-8840 want to be a part of the show received that communion with the imperials and I'm forgiven Russ Taft leaving that song out and I was of doing the show from Montana were in Southwest Montana and I was online.

This is helped cool technology. As I was sitting on the deck last Saturday and looking out over vast valley there and where we are in. I was I was on Facebook face time with iPad with the engineer back in the into the sea.

His name is Chris Latham, Grammy award-winning and a great guy. We were in college together in and then he was streaming through my laptop. I will streaming the mix of my wife, Gracie, and her new duet with Russ Taft. That'll be coming out we were tweaking some things and I thought my office view was kind of nice that they have to ask a cool that we could do this and will do this all in real time, and that song will be available probably hopefully before Labor Day and I will put it out there and you can download your love hearing this.

It was a lot of fun recorded and do this with Russ and Gracie and she's got several things. If you want to hear some of the music that she's done she's no kitten singer and she doesn't a great job and you can go out to our website@hopeforthecaregiver.com hope for the caregiver.com and you can see and listen to some of music and and just learn a little bit more about us. We were talking to the issue that a lot of caregiver struggle with and we go over this whole thing of honor your mother and father and we push ourselves to the breaking point. Are you there are you have you done that. Have you pushed yourself to the breaking point and honoring your mother, father, and while they are treating you like just garbage. And while you're being just read up. It was it so difficult for so many caregivers who are struggling with this and and they don't know how to respond because I don't was a circus there, dad.

It's their mom and they want to honor them and so what happens is they become a punching bag for the disease of the impairment and in particular when you have a cognitive impairment and when you got something you know that's going on you like of a mobility impairment. That's a little different, even a vision parents not son effecting cognitively or are you hearing impairment things such as that.

When you have a cognitive impairment when their brain is affected by something such as dementia, Alzheimer's addiction always goes into traumatic brain injuries, traumatic brain injuries will change a person and you know sometimes strokes and things such as that all the things that can affect the way they process thoughts when you have that going on a lot of ugly things can happen in someone's life and the caregiver is right there front and center at Ground Zero with it and they're taking the brunt of that are you taking the brunt of that is that where your headspace is right now is that what you're dealing with because this is where I feel like a lot of the battle is for so many caregivers is they are so demoralized they are so beaten-down and they're trying to do the best they can't honor someone who is she just making their life miserable and how do you disassociate from that how you detach from that.

What does that look like and how do you keep doing this in a way that honors them without you know, just yourself just going under. With this, and in one of things that I do is II just I just reinforces over and over and over. You can honor your father. You can honor your mother that you do not have to honor alcoholism. You do not have to honor addiction. You do not have to honor Alzheimer's. I got a friend whose wife was diagnosed early diagnosis with Alzheimer's in his book and he wrote about it it's it's wonderful book.

His name is Carla Maddox and he refuses to capitalize the word Alzheimer's. Even though it was named after Dr. Alzheimer. He refuses to capitalize that. So every time you see the book Alzheimer's is always lowercase a because he understood that Alzheimer's was doing this to his wife his wife was not doing this and in it in its debt. That may sound silly me, silly, contrite, but it's not.

It's important we know how to distinguish between the two, and that you have to hear with to sit severe sometimes and in Phuket if their voice is consumed by this then it's really important that you listen to the whisper Holy Spirit and let Scripture speak these things to you so that you can recalibrate your own mind that you're not being sucked into these things and there's a thing when they get well if that's where you are.

This is a show for you. Don't wait until five minutes before the show was over to call 888-589-8840 888-589-8840 but we have what will happen is when you getting these people. These cognitive impairments particular with addiction that what you do is you get in these total wars and the other to throw out stuff they want to just hook you into it. All they want to hook you into it and now get a manipulate you around and and and and they've learned to be master manipulators and they could push every button you have an official parents want to think you will understand the reason they could push lovelier buttons because I sold them on and they know where these things are negative push. But when you get a tug-of-war know what you think about this for just a minute when you get into a tug-of-war.

There are two possible outcomes. If you win, you end up on your rear. If you lose the end up on your face. Don't get in to a tug-of-war don't pick up the rope just do not pick it up there to throw things out.

They got dangled right in front of your face. I want all they want you to get info and they'll take you done every little rabbit rabbit trail that you that you could possibly imagine in your head will just be swimming because you you and then all of a sudden your turn around and mean you won't know which way is up and I'm I'm a Bastian pleading with the topic of the rope member member this this phrase we talked about on the Delta doctrine. Out of Atlanta one day on on Delta because that's what Delta stands for.everything lease to Atlanta and fly to becomes audiences. Eli put your mask on first yeti at EI we will her that we've all heard it talked about with caregivers and and then that's where it stopped loving you put your mask on first CD your own needs and S. So blood II just I hate when people speak in generalities.

We speak fluent caregiver. Here we speak right to this, the core issue. And so what is it look like to put your mask on first, here's what it looks like when you're dealing with these kinds of things were talking about today, it's www.member those three www.weight water walk weight don't speak, don't feel the need to talk to not engage with this. Just wait. Bite your tongue and learn to like the taste of blood okay.

Sometimes you have to say what you need to say turn your head so they don't see the tears and just not say anything more know is a complete sentence. By the way, and then water drink to think just put something in your mouth.

Besides words just just drink some water, some cool water and then walk just take a walk just take a walk just just go out five minutes as well. If you get to go outside, go to the back of the house just walk away. Get distance yourself from this. You don't have to engage with the craziness that you not to get this right you know 100% of the time you just not in it. If you get it right. Think about this. In baseball terms, if you put the bat on the ball. 3/10 times that of put you in the Hall of Fame patent 300 so you do not have. To get this right up with that kind of pressure on yourself. But what you do have to do is protect your heart what you do have to do is make sure you can breathe because you know what they may not make it be you have to and that sounds harsh and cold. I don't mean it as such but but but give me a different scenario where where it works for you to go down and then stills stay around how does that work and so you're in this for the long haul and it's important that you keep your sanity that you know or solid ground is that you know reality is because you can get sucked into this thing in a way that is chest and saying 888-589-8840 888-589-8840. If this is where you are and the reason we do the shows because this is your time to be able to recalibrate your own thoughts your own headspace. I need to have this on a regular basis. I don't know anyone that doesn't not only do I have caregiver amnesia. I have gospel amnesia and I need to be reminded of the gospel. I need to be reminded of what it means, what the gospel really means one thing to say, often, is that your my wife is a lot of scars on her body from this correct lot scores. Her scars are temporary. One day she's not having scores. She knows that I know that Scripture tells us that when our Savior has scars in his scars or eternal that mean something.

It really does it really mean something and when you have with when you understand that the eternal consequences in the eternal impact of what he did for us on the cross.

What that means it's going to change everything and then we realize. Okay, this is painful where hope we are struggling with this, but there is that this is not the end of the story. This is not where this is going to end detracted with because that's that's the message for us as caregivers right now is that we understand.

Okay, this is not the end of the story.

This is not the end of the story, not the end of your story.

This is hope for the 888-589-8840 888-589-8840 dispute. Rosenberger hopefully caregiver.com will be right back. So for caregivers about caregivers hosted by caregiver IMP Rosenberger bringing youth. Three decades of experience to help you stay strong and healthy as you take care of someone who is not, and would love to have you be a part of the show. 888-589-8840 888-589-8840 if you will be part of sewer on American family radio. This is the nation's number one show for the family caregiver were so glad that you're with us and were talking about honoring your mother and father honoring your love one, but not honoring their affliction. You do not have to honor their disease. You do not have to honor the impairment that you're dealing with and what does that look like and how do you handle that how you doing, by the way, and that's why we do the show. 888-589-8840 and you can also follow on Facebook love a little bit of disconnect this morning on that, but we are here and edit hope for the wrong Facebook life. So let's Sherry, I want to go to line 1 here at I don't know exactly who that is. But were to try to anyway about that or do we need to do that. I will hold off. We had had some updates this morning on our software so if you try to get there. Just hang tight shares getting with the 888-589-8840 but there were some software updates but I want I want to revisit this thought. What were doing that what she's getting those lines done. I want to revisit what I'm saying about why I'm saying this because I see so many individuals who get trapped in that situation where they are just placating or being a punching bag for somebody who is dealing with an impairment and is just treating them horrendously and particularly when it comes to addiction issues and and and alcoholism and the caregiver somebody who puts himself between a chronically impaired love one.

And even worse disaster and I get that you're not in it. When it comes to addiction issues. We get redefine what worse disaster is an worse disaster is not hitting rock bottom worse disaster is for them to continue taking everybody they love with them down this terrible place. So how does it function with you was a caregiver. How does that was that look like and it looks like you can love them and care for the but you do not get to participate in their craziness if they are in. If you're in the car pick picture this if you're in the car with them and their driving their driving on the wrong side of the road on the interstate. You do not have to stay in the car, nephew, tuck and roll jump out you go to get hurt but they are not.

You're not responsible for trying to you.

Make them stop doing it. They're not there. They got the wheel. Your job is to get to safety and if they crash the crash but there's no need for them to take you with and it said and I don't mean that is harsh. That's just the way it is. It said it's painful, but how does how does anybody get served if you are taking out in the process. This is what I was telling a friend of mine last night was go to this with a family member. How does how does this improve if he and this family are taken out because of one love once refusal to get help for themselves and if they're not willing to do it. What's your role in this. That's specifically with alcoholism and addiction. And sometimes you just gotta step out of the way and let life take a swing at him.

As painful as it is and it is often times there is no other way but that until they cry uncle, it's okay. I surrender what I need to go when you're dealing with an impairment such as Alzheimer's or dementia.

That's different because there's no path for them to get into recovery program. It's killing them and in its in this robbing their ability to reason and so forth. But the things that are coming out of their mouths at you that are so painful to you that are so hard for you to hear and understand.

Those things are so crushing, but you don't have to take because you you understand that is not coming from them.

It's coming from their dysfunction and you can separate the person from the disease is really important to do that. Sally and Tennessee Sally good morning how you have a question for you. I have click your program a number times and it has helped a lot to just understand you know what's going on that I have a question. I don't think I've heard it. I don't think it's been addressed yet. My sister had pancreatic cancer.

She lived three years went. Your horrific surgery and all kinds of things that I did very very well and her has been listening caregiver and I mean 20% on all the time and basically his life revolved around and he was excellent.

Absolutely excellent. We went when we cook we live quite a ways away on that since she passed earlier this year we haven't heard from him and down. I finally got a card and Senate. Because we try talking on the phone and that didn't work. Hannah lit heard from my nephew either.

He's a full-grown man he thought a young boy or anything in. I just wonder if a normal thing to happen after someone passes what you think. I mean I can't thing the thing I did wrong but I don't know and like you to do anything wrong. And even if you did it. Still, his responsibility to let you know I am struggling with this.

If you did do something wrong is not your responsibility. Somehow go in and gravel or anything else like that you can assure him that you love and care for, but he may just need some space. I mean listen what he went through was brutal and he may be just kind of detox line and that I have a theater when I wondered what I getting very Sally. I got a theory we talked about this on the show before and I'm still a caregiver to caregiver 33 years. I haven't stopped so I can't say this from experience I can elicit this from theory, but from the conversations I've had with a lot of people and and as of explore this myself. I I feel that there is a PTSD component to being a caregiver depending on the situation. But, of course, but in a situation like what you're what your sister and her husband went through. Where is just a relentless trauma that ends in death. I feel that there's a good case that there is a PTSD component and it takes a a lot of help to walk someone back from that. When that when they redo it 24 seven.

They been immersed in it for all the time they've lost a sense of connection with the real world at that point I had were equilibrium is very difficult to for them to find and at personally I don't think it's possible to do so without external help and that could be in the form of pastoral counseling professional counseling friends and family, but probably going to be involved with some kind of professional counseling because when you go to something of that level of trauma you look at these the soldiers come back with with this when you think a PTSD you think military personnel been going to that right you think of somebody who's gone through it.

A significant trauma. It takes a long time that I helped to walk them back in your brother loudly just a last place he may need a lot of space and is gonna need a lot of grace.

What he did was Herculean it was. It was in middle and so I think the first thing to do for you, might be for first I'll just continue lift them up in prayer. Prayer for your prayers and effective okay so continue doing that is how far away do they live now nine hours. That's a long ways in its in its heart rate until you see a seller out.

I don't take it personally if he doesn't get you okay you can come to Christ and, last year meant and that half the people brought in a minister and he really liked him and he wouldn't let me or my sister even in times of collective. Just cushy hard and I get it, and that Mike is very strong in Christ limiting something. It's hard to come to a good to believe that a good and loving God. When you watching someone you love die pancreatic cancer is okay and that's why that's why love the opportunity we have all the shows because were good. It will wade into that kinda stuff working. Go right to the guts of that and and help people understand what the gospel means in this because it you can't just say what God loves you both.

If you're watching somebody who's not a believer it up there watching their love will die a horrible death and you keep coming up to God loves you.

There's a real connect with that. So don't take it. Don't take it personally if he's not wanting to just embrace you guys. He may be struggling on a lot of levels that you just don't even know about, but be prepared to offer grace when the time does come and drop drop them a note and and be very specific North it down on a firm noted that he has you starting and I wrote them a letter during the time she was so ill and I told him you know. Thank you.

I 20 minutes that I can attend. And I would always pray. Amen and be there for him. I tried to tell my sister you know you guys.

She may transfer everything she had it all worked out ASAP for him. You know, like, even if you now and and I for you know you are his entire life and she looked at me greatly.

She didn't understand. I think a cancer does a lot more than just affect certain part.

It affects your mind and your household easily and together held some vanity light with the right of the note use short sentences and the short note.

Don't write what is front back on three pages of looseleaf paper at very short notice and a firm him affirm what he's done. Thank you. He may have resentment for other people, maybe even told you for not being there with doesn't matter just keep affirming him modeling that for you okay I will and I want to write you thinking yourself for a long time now I've Sally means a lot. We gotta go to break. Thank you so much for a call back and have you ever struggled to trust God when lousy things happen to you. I'm Gracie Rosenberger in 1983 I experienced a horrific car accident leading 80 surgeries in both legs and became it.

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I wouldn't have been able to start her over this week and she was in a unique position with him even though she had help in encouraging him during his addiction problem is she was also not very good health. There sale thing. He was also a caretaker for her so she's going to be in a difficult situation right now because she don't have anybody that I did encourage her because of you.

God to think grief counseling and I don't believe that God is gonna waste this pain in her lap. I believe he can reach out to others that are hurting that are in her situation.

Even though she limited and mobility inside. I appreciate it very much. I agree with you, he's not noisy. Your Savior was a carpenter and he doesn't even waste the sawdust know he doesn't waste anything and he is able to use sin's endlessly I at that. It's mind-boggling what God is able to do what he reaches into these horrific sadness and messes and sins and everything else and weaves together something extraordinary.

It it's it's truly mind-boggling to me but you look through all Scripture that's what you see and I know that is not a waste. This, the question is are we go to waste.

Are we going to miss an opportunity to be able to see him working in this or do we have to wait for it to just continue spiraling out of control and I hope that that that's where it is right now with the wallet with her and with this whole situation and go ahead. I had an analogy I am believing tapestry of a tapestry correct that underneath it was just that follow Bob Gilmore and Anna and a title man, but when the tapestry was finished only on the other side. It was beautiful, beautiful artwork and that is an encouragement in, and now is and will every time I hear her name and that maybe you safer do that too, but it every time I hear the name Corrie 10 boom, I can't help but just be moved because she's the one who led my wife to the Lord when she was a little girl I have in you know her name should be about what countless others will it and she's part of the great cloud of witnesses cheering you on. Right now Kathy and meal, but he was also says remember those who spoke the word of the Lord to you when appropriate, imitate their faith and I think the God brings people in our lives who have that kind of amazing faith that we can look back on and say okay if so-and-so trusted God to their stuff that out this give me the courage to do it. Would Gracie had a wreck.

She was able to remember back that you know if Cory could trust God to the Holocaust that I can trust him through this Rick in this loss of this payment, so God got again. He just knew he doesn't waste anything. He doesn't waste anything. Kathy and you've been a great reminder of that this morning to to to bring that to our attention and I just appreciate you listening appreciate you calling and ponder what women were going to let you help us do it more and the and in you behave yourself today. Okay thank you I Donna in California done a good good morning Donna how you feeling better I came across your hair. I don't know who you are already but I had to call thank thank you, when you click welcome. Let me introduce myself. My name is Peter Rosenberg and I'm a caregiver not been one for 33 years and I hosted the nation's largest radio program for family caregivers with a couple books on it and I'm committed to helping caregiver so that's who I am and hope that now makes us friends because were now introduced there. I don't know where you are. All the air I was digging a caregiver and nonfamily member like eight of my siblings employed wheelchair van telling me about that are not and I'm never going to be in line.

I'm not even leaning towards that way and it's been a very hard and difficult road especially without a port like your book radio station just totally in the word and crying out to God, but I have to make known your ministry throughout my social media platforms because different time. What I can deal with put out prayer for strength and encouragement for caregiver, but I've never heard of a ministry. This broad meaningful to the public and I could pet everything people waiting on man like now I gotta get you differently and express my Sally I thought of that spell would like to be publishing a book here and not like to extrapolate portions of your teaching in my book went out to get a hold of your people to get rid permission if that's okay. That will be just fine and you can all see everything you need to see out of hope for the caregiver.com hope caregiver.com a book throughout their CD or music. Everything is out there blog post everything is there hope for the care guide.com and Donna, thank you. The fair all right we'll see Margie and Marilyn good morning are you feeling Margie would tell me what's going on with you this morning well and could find my line and well when he lived with us and then to fasten 2019 at the body is my line to see some different kind fighting lined will energy. I've got unfortunately were right up against the top of the out here show below to get real quick what are you doing to deal with the stress right now of post-caregiving.

Not really give much from dealing with the line for faith itself.

If you work through all the grief of being of losing your loved one, and so forth will not lock that we could find another place to live. Living in a very good place in my head so you know the stress of caregiving right now. Now you under good solid medical care with line. It gets worse before it gets better. Find somebody you can't find line providers very easily. I found one in October. Some kind of working extra now that out.

Keep working through that nail do what is necessary. Follow those instructions with it with whatever they tell you do. Keep working on that you note stress is not to be your friend on this so do what you need to do also to you. Are you exercising are you eating well although schedule things, you can't. You maybe not to fight Lyme disease on your own but you could fight poor diet port and lack of exercise you could fight that were not to want to help you not to take care of my mother allowing I went on the protocol wicked good plan and that that company all the way for a modicum of health healthy healthy healthy functioning. Willis get back to that about that when I write you you making progress. Then you do in the you you you doing what you can and that's the whole point of it is that you've got to continue to. You don't just get to a place where you stop trying to be healthy every day as it is a new opportunity to be healthier. Thank you for calling all that Margie I really do appreciate that this is hope for the healthy caregivers make better caregivers. And if you're not healthy. Hope for the care you would not come be a part of what were doing will see you next week