Hope for the Caregiver Show

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This is the nation's number one show care of those putting yourself between the vulnerable of one who has some type of chronic and even worse disaster. This is the show for you be Roseburg. I am your host were so glad that you're joining us here on American family radio. The call in number is 888-589-8840 888-589-8840. We are live and we are glad to have you with us hundred and 68 hours in the week, but this is the one hour for the family caregiver here on American family radio and we are just real thrilled about this a couple things I need to talk about. You can also listen the show on Alexa. My folks, I gotta tell you about this for second if you'll just allow me to depart from our normal scheduled activities of my mother and my father we we got them Alexa so they can do this mom has some vision issues and that has some technical issues.

Another listing right now and this is been a real help to them to be able to use this device now a lot of people worry about the security issues and because Alexa is listening and there's a lot of information flowing back and forth and under normal conditions, I would worry about that, but with my parents now.

Now I'm not worried. Just let me let me explain to you my parents. My day has been a minister now for 60 years roughly and mom is been right there with them and their home is been a a a refuge for for so many people that the people that have just gone through A trauma.

So I guarantee whatever information that the soffit just makes me laugh that Alexa may get out of mop pails of the comparison what my parents would get out of Alexa. They will be ministering to Alexa in dealing with her family trauma for decades that she struggled with that they will go back into that a debt that will never say it right. He always calls her Alexis and and mom and dad will look they look at Lex's is a is a really part of the family now because she shows up whatever they call an end and is also helpful, but they're concerned that you know she may be codependent because of her eagerness to help and so they want to really get into that picture.

She doesn't have any kind of roots of bitterness towards her face. You think I'm kidding, but up.there are people that are watching right now on Facebook love their people listing the home for its appearance or ministry do Alexa right now.

I promise you this so many ways you can listen to on American family radio and we have just your silly ways you could listen this and were so grateful to American family radio has got out in front of this issue by addressing the needs of the family caregiver.

The family caregivers and at risk individuals.

There are 65 million people that are doing this here's the deal. If you love somebody you going to be a caregiver.

If you live long enough, you're going to need a character and and and when I started to the show years and years ago. A couple years ago this month. Actually I was on one station and now it's just exploded to what were doing here and and all across the nation. Because the need is just so big and people think of it as nursing homes and taking care of the elderly and no it's not. It's dealing with special needs children it's dealing with mental illness is dealing with with addiction issues, alcoholism, drug abuse, even people who were on prescription medication under doctor's care, but they're still on behavior altering drugs where you have that you got it. That's chronic impairment and you have a caregiver somewhere little bit of family caregiver who was struggling with this traumatic brain injuries, cerebral palsy, down syndrome amid the list just goes on and on and on and on with the family caregiver is the individual who was circling this into fitness. This impaired person and they're the ones up all night doing laundry or cleaning up her working two or three jobs trying to pay the bills I got: last week was just redundant in Louisiana to struggling because you know any any felt bad that he was have the pace of the bills 50 bucks at a time. Been there, don't feel bad about how you're doing.

You tried a lot of people just blow it off, but you're not and we caregivers tend to be, you know, an employer's dream because we are we are adaptively flexible we are. We are highly responsible. Nobody's forcing us to get up and do all these things, and yet we can get out in front of it along the way. I've developed some understanding of this journey I'm I'm in my 34th year now to caregiver through basically was a medical nightmare and it doesn't stop there is no there's no plane for us were just get okay with this. Is it now were going to just kind of deal with this now there there there are new challenges every single day that we deal with and what we were just at the we had to drive to the process just and that's the person makes my wife's legs and he is over in Billings Montana home and I'm on the other side of Bozeman. That's a 200 mile drive. That's where the guy is.

He's been working on her and in getting these legs up and going. She just gets new prosthetic legs and and it's you know it's a challenge with her because it's not just a simple a lot of times if you have somebody who loses a leg with a head infection or something, or diabetes. They take the leg off above the diabetes bit about the infection site and it the alignment of it is is not all that comfortable. Gracie was a victim of trauma. She had massive trauma over 200 breaks. They stopped counting at 200 breaks this back in 1983. This been going on for long time with her and so aligning her is difficult in the cheese inputs are in so much pain because she's having a work muscles and and it it it just it's a very complex set of circumstances with her and just doesn't go away and in you. You learn a few things about okay, what's the real issue here. What what we dealing with what's going on so that brings me to the Scripture today. One of my favorites. Lamentations 319 through 33 and the first time ever heard this Scripture and really paid any attention to it was John Erickson Todd whose dear friend of ours and and she and Grace have done a couple duets to be on Gracie's new CD that comes out next month and she shared this with us and and I will read it out of the message. Sometimes the message can say it in a way that just kind of clicks with this is caregivers and with a lot of people evidently I'll never forget the trouble.

The utter lostness the taste of ashes, the poison of swallowed. I remember it all.

Oh how well I remember the feeling of hitting the bottom but there's one other thing I remember in remembering. I keep a grip on hope God's loyal love couldn't have run out his merciful love couldn't have dried up there created new every morning. How great is your faithfulness.

I'm sticking with God say over and over. He's all I've got left.

God proves to be good to the man who passionately waits to the woman who diligently seeks it is a good thing to quietly hope and quietly hope for help from God. It's a good thing when you're young to stick it out to the hard times when life is heavy and hard to take go off by yourself. Enter the silence bow in prayer. Don't ask questions, wait for hope to appear, don't run from trouble. Take a full face the worst is never the worst. Why because the master won't ever walk out and failed to return if he works severely. He also works tenderly his stockpiles of loyal, of minutes. He takes no pleasure in making life hard and throwing roadblocks in the way in a powerful verse does that not just describe our journey is caregivers that it week we get that way and that's book of Lamentations. Jeremiah wrote this book. Jeremiah understood about despair and and the the the utter devastation as he looked out on on what was left of the people of God after they been yanked out and pulled into exile. Scripture is filled with these moments where you and I can look to for hope and encouragement and strength to reach anchors we don't need to be instructed as much as we need to be in reminded mind as I have caregiver amnesia. I have gospel to be reminded of this every day how much 888-589-8840 888-589-8840 will be right back as caregiver a populace that song all the hate that is most have imperialistic and unforgiving fellow special treat will just keep this quiet okay this just for you all on this show.

Okay. Just just keep it quiet as it's not initially released its kind of release. Gracie and her duet with Russ Taft is available right now. Spot five Amazon iTunes. All that can stuff the album comes out next month and you can go out to our website.

Hope for the caregiver.com and you can hear. She and Russ sing this this song is called the joy of the Lord. Twila Paris wrote it almost 30 years ago and we just always love the song to get the studio in Russ and Gracie did the song and you will hear it. You can go. Today, and of the.

The CD will come out next month but it's just just don't make a big deal of double tell a lot of people just yet. Hang on just just just for y'all just for caregivers.

This is just among us.

Okay, just those of us who are watching and listening write mail if you want to watch long on Facebook laugh certainly welcome to it.

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Did you hear the things Bill Johnson little commercial that was doing there in the break something beautiful, something good. All had to offer him was brokenness and strife that will bill Gaither song. I need your help on something. Okay, I need your help. I need you help me get the word out on this issue stating, with hopes will present spots of the show. It's the ministry.

Gracie and I founded many years ago would she give up her leg.

She wanted to do an outreach to her fellow amputees and so we do we collect used prosthetic limbs. Okay we collected from all of the country they go to local prison in Tennessee where inmates will strip them down all the way down sometimes to the screw level and we recycle some of those parts.

So like the foot, the knee the pylon the adapters of connectors the liners the sleeves.

The prosthetic socks. The belts and hip joints. For those who are and what you call hip disarticulation we need those items now weaning leagues securely so above knee amputees who have passed away that your family doesn't know what to do with the link will take it if you had some of its outgrown leg of a child or something that if they don't throw these things away will take them and you could want to staining with hope.com right now brokenness and strife. That's all we have to offer.

Look what he can do if if we can do this with used prosthetic limbs, and they literally go walking and leaping and praising God. And we don't we don't use the socket.

That's the part that is custom fitted to that patient. But what will make a brand-new socket over in it.

We work of the country of Ghana, West Africa, but we serve patients as far away as Nigeria have got a young man who's come of the given above knee, leg, but his brother is a hip disarticulation that means he doesn't even have a hip joints we got we got to get all these things subs putting the plea at were always deeding these things and if we can do this with used prostheses.

Imagine what our Savior can do with our brokenness. I just just think on that for moment because that's all we have to offer him anyway but he takes broken live just like we take broken pieces of of broken people in which we reassembled the screen. Some of these things other people can walk that's what this show is all about is helping us to reassemble some of these broken things in our lives that we can stand with hope and that is the ministry standing with hope.

Would you go out take a look at it today staining with hope, share it with somebody you know who has an amputee in their life if they get some use legs that because APs will go through a lot of legs in their lifetime. Gracie Smith, how many of and you know it's it's a little bit freaky at my house sometimes does any given day will have triumphal licks, but that's usually together so staining with hope.com just asking for that. Were talking about the need for us is caregivers about the way 888-589-8840 888-589-8840 if you want to be a part of the show and also I've got my book 7 caregiver landmines. I want to give them away.

So: if you want one of give you one is just I just want to put them in the hands of people if traffic shipments it to be selected actually achieve the way because of it. Sadly out of inventory so if you want one give us a call 888-589-8840 will be glad to give you but were talking about the need for us is caregivers to be reminded more than instructed. I am not here to instruct you on things here to teach you or lecture you because I didn't want that for myself and I still want the people to come up to me and you know here's a six-point lesson on how you can do this better. Peter, I just need to be reminded where the road is to safety. I did, to be reminded on where I can go to be able to catch my breath.

I need to be reminded that my Savior has not forgotten me that this is what we read about just here in limitations in Jeremiah said, and he said you know God slowly love could not have run out his merciful love couldn't have dried up there created new every morning. How great is your faithfulness is in the verse about that.

But there's one thing I remember it an act that helps me keep a grip on hope that is faithful ever. This with that him comes from great is a faithless morning by morning new mercies I see this is the journey for us is caregivers.

We've got to be reminded of these things every day. We got to remind ourselves each of us IDs you to remind me.

I remind you, and this is what we do. This is how we get through it. Somebody wants to give everyone time so we said you would have an eight week class on caregiving that are you out of your mind go to eight week class on caregiving who has time for that.

Someone to come up with things that were simple for you and me, to remind ourselves of of where safety is in this where I go when I'm hyperventilating and Jeremiah says it perfectly.

Limitations go someplace quiet go off by yourself. Enter the silences his bow in prayer. Don't ask questions, wait for hope to appear. Take time for stillness, or you could have to make time for illness. Do you know how to settle yourself down. Do you know how to steal your heart. This is what were learning together. This is what you and I are learning together and that's what's so important we do this, the journey is too hard and we will flameout it was telling a friend. Just this morning, you know, and they said is such an honor to take care of a loved one entity is it is an honor to do it but I will tell you the novelty wears off after couple decades and it's a grind and we've got to be reminded of things we got to know where safety is where high ground is otherwise we will we will truly crash and burn a motor squeeze in a quick call to Joyce and Alabama Joyce good morning how you feeling Joyce how you feeling where public me where you have to find a place quiet and kind of regroup. I tell you more about what what why that hits home with you are only nominally caregiving from my mother sometimes arm kind of kind of pray for client that I don't forget garlic well, I'm certainly glad I'm not the only one Joyce will but where is that place of quiet for you right or wrong or maybe in an area lacking intricate magic hater read a book on Hike from here different. Doing the Current may be found in college or something like in on my mind is not a fan on what I have to do next. Do you like do you listen to spot a fire those kinds of music streaming services not now we get well ID what I got for you to set here go to get some more of these, but you would do Joyce. Just because you're the first caller and your and Alabama and you just else I like you just hit a nerve with me this morning about find that quiet place.

There's a him that I play on my CD called songs for the caregivers opening hymn says there is a place of quiet rest near to the heart of God.

A place where sin cannot molest near to the heart of God is wonderful.

You do know that him well, you're going to love it out if it's all right with you I letter since you not only copy my book 7 caregiver landmines, but I will send you a study. A copy of the CD that we aren't well if you can play it over and over and over and it just kinda settles you down and sometimes when people listen to it. They weep and sometimes when they listen to it. They sleep either way, that's a win for caregivers because we need to learn how to weep in a healthy manner. Not in a rage manner, despair, matter, but we also need to be able to to sleep to to rest when I did this the CD and for those who listing it you can you can go online and hopefully caregiver.com and see more about it.

You can also stream it through all the streaming services and its digital you can download it so forth. But I did it specifically for the heart of a caregiver. In it, and it's a calming CD.

It doesn't it doesn't have all these huge peaks and huge valleys just just place in a place hymns that you know there's there's one original tune that I wrote and is called I could only hold you now and I think you'll like this a lot, Joyce. But if it's all right with you and will put you on hold and let Richard get all your information and I will drop this in the mail to you with that be okay. I'll and when you go into that place where you just be still and to be quiet put this on and see if it helps, I think you find it does if it doesn't you send it back to me about that. Just kidding Joyce is getting but I doubt but put it on there because there's nothing like music. Sometimes when words fail. Music speaks this with Hans Christian Anderson said, and music and somehow do things for us in our hearts or spirits that that works just simply cannot and so at the end and Gracie sings about half the songs on this and if you never heard Gracie saying that's my wife for those you just now joining my wife said no kidding singer me.

She's a really good Glenwood don't take my word for goalless and she can really do it and she will she will minister to you in those places where you feels a little bit gnarly so don't hang up riches go to get you your information. Okay Joyce thank you so very much. Thank you for calling this is hopefully caregiver this is Peter Rosenberg. This is the nation's number one show for the family for caregivers about figures hosted by caregiver. This is hope for the nation's number one show the family care business. I'm so grateful that because the church leading believers leading.

This was the world have to offer you on this. Honestly, really, for sustaining, but we work and give practical tips on certain things but when it comes to the tangled mess of a caregivers heart.

The gospel, the gospel, the gospel and that's what the show is all about is helping speak to that place because if your hearts a train right.

Guess what the rest of his good be to select start dealing with that issue and work outward from there and nothing speaks to the heart of someone who is troubled, who was discouraged he was lonely, bitter, resentful, weary burn down in Scripture.

And that's what were about 888-589-8840 888-589-8840 if you want to be a part of the show Don and Arkansas Don good morning how you feel good morning all, yes sir. Well you talk about feeling like you read my mail will I have been Don and I did a been meaning to tell you about that in mother we had McMahon still says G1 publishers clearing out what he's dead now so nevermind anyway you cut it down, but I am still rejoicing out praise the Lord anyway and why you down what's going on. Well I'll tell you what my wife and I were both senior citizens and been married for 37 years and happily, I will sign and our son is 26 and he has been disabled since he was six weeks old so we been like caregivers for about maybe a quarter-century and were getting older and obviously we know the end of that at every single person look like become either disabled or dead and just wonder about our son.

How how she can be taken care of so well. He has an older sister who is 34 and single and that she is living in another town in Arkansas and I think she would probably help out, but she's a counselor and she is working too hard.

In my opinion you see is he developmentally disabled and physically disabled both okay. He is developmentally disabled elites had this since he was six weeks old cerebral palsy. See what happen he had a near miss its episode when he was six weeks old. He stopped breathing. His heart stopped beating his body temperature were down 50°. His pediatrician met us at the hospital. I think your son was dead but he came back and were certainly rejoicing on that now. His older sister. She has a disability. She does not have a right hand will I get that heartless, listless backup your son for second you sit sit down with any type of estate planning attorney. Your accountant social worker any professional and started kinda mapping out some things of what happens in case you and your wife depart this earth before him. We have met with some of the folks from the Arkansas Children's Hospital and what they say because you need an adult now and yet we have met with an attorney. Okay, we understand that as far as any kind of care facility for an adult. There is not one in Arkansas well.

Understanding dear dear, there may be other options for you. It's time to sit down and have that conversation. There a lot of folks out there that can point you in the right direction. There's things like special needs trust that you can do. Have you done that for your son not yet know special needs trust is basically it protects any assets that your son has from kicking him off of things like Medicaid and and so therefore he still is able to get those kinds of services in case you and your wife leaving the need leave him an inheritance of any kind goes into the special needs trust and think such is that there are lots of folks out there who can advise you on this.

I recommend sitting down with them, particularly with if that attorney has not given you a good picture of the things that other attorneys can do that but are social workers pretty good person. Start with this will, and I would imagine your sons position. Whoever handles all the stuff with your son can point you to that of the Children's Hospital insisted that with the social workers okay look what her options we gotta start thinking beyond her own great female right and and so I would I would I would start with that but go back to the hospital because they know him well and obviously they're going no other families were situation like yours and asked for referral to a social worker and sit down and start mapping out these things.

I got time right now while you're still what you have really look. None of us are given nothing less and the mortality rate in this country still hundred percent from what I understand so but so with these.

These are things we have to just deal with and plan for do you have life insurance is he a beneficiary of your life insurance that kind of thing now. Now our income is rather limited. Because I needed at home because we have people like like he is a nurse at night while he's on a ventilator. We have what are called community support professionals that come in during the day but the problem is is that they're not being paid properly in my opinion and they are unskilled people being asked to do skilled work at an unskilled playwright will not be paid properly.

In my opinion either, but this is separate this here's what I want you to do. I want you to ask immediately sit down to because you do have asked that you have a home and all these things I don't racing okay well in that case what happens to your son if you guys become incapacitated, not dead, just incapacitated. These are things that need to be addressed at least starting to the process on paper right mail coming Monday morning make the phone call okay it's you don't have to panic, but you do need to be have a sense of urgency about starting this process because this thing can go to a Greek tragedy really quick. I know we do have a will and like we care for our son would go to our daughter and she has agreed that so we started this situation. Also note thing is that my income is very limited and that I really love to read your books and listen to think that I can afford it. You don't have to send book to you.

Okay okay you hang on route was vital to not be good at that will.your and you know what and I'm offering I told you the feel of it. I just got a whole shipment of books covered to be about that list is give these things away because the they're not doing me any good sit on a shelf so want to make sure that you put them in the hands of folks, this is a little just as this little tiny book 7 caregiver landmines a been so easy donning reading the bathroom. I railroaded and in it there is I just want have little reminders you can put in people's hands and also my podcast is free so you podcast the show you stream the show we put it up there. We put clips up with the whole show. The whole thing so that's but promise me this okay you got a will and you got a daughter, but you gotta start going a little bit deeper into this thing and making sure these things are done so starting starting on Monday morning you start making phone calls. Okay okay there people to keep it may not be everything you wanted to be and it usually is and is not to be is is you know you not to get some the things that you'd like to get, but you can get this process going so that it's not just some kind of disaster for your for your daughter. Okay I don't hang up which is good to get your information they will get that out to you case building up on. I appreciate very much appreciate the call, okay. Thank you.

Yes sir, things alright thinking, squeezing the Cynthia Louisiana Cynthia good morning are you feeling how you well. I'm just lovely but how are you all right right American family radio, on think with a typical caregiver but I'm sure that Jacob and hot. I love when it didn't like.

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I excited about you. You take care my grandfather was shaking with cold actually relocated from the lawn and they can be found in man.

When I amounting and and my brother My ornamental Life. Nonmetric friend of mine in my home taking care you good math. I mean I'm not a matter of one of the you know what I can do anything that the man from them, not to look at a rate and a list will not not just your eyes but is to gear your heart go and I do a lot of crying, but I'm out more caregiver treadmill and it batted me. I'm delighted that have been afforded Careful almond pant time on their No one would take out 24 while wonderful output when I did it so badly. Will try to keep my mouth so you know works will go marble and mouthful.

You know,, who I worked for no current for careful people know that it was like I'm at camp Givhan: I don't care what you and I and my and I think the you know what Cynthia is a beautiful beautiful testimony of what God is done in your life and and extending that love to others what I wanted, said you book as well. Could you hang on, Emily, Richard, get your address will drop the book to you and every all right very I'll be glad to send you one of those two and I think a little bit longer on that one because that was getting information but hang on. Don't go away will get all your stuff you're okay this is Peter Roseberry.

This is hopefully Caregiver Will Be Rabbit St., Rosenberger never helped somebody walk for the first time I've had that privilege many times through our organization. Standing with hope when my wife Gracie gave up both of her legs follow this horrible Rick that she had as a teenager and she try to save them for years and if it just wouldn't work out. And finally she relinquished him and thought wow this is that I'm not happy legs anymore. What can God do with that and then she had this vision for use in prosthetic limbs as a means of sharing the gospel to put legs on her fellow amputees and that's what we been doing now since 2005 was standing with hope.

We work in the West African country of Ghana and you can be a part of that through supplies through supporting team members through supporting the work that were doing over there. You could designate a limb. There's all kinds of ways that you can be a part of giving the gift that keeps on walking and standing with hope.com would you take a moment ago what to standing with hope.com and see how you can give they go walking and leaping and praising God.

You can be a part of that@standingwithhope.com for caregivers about the family caregiver and we are glad you that is my wife Gracie with the John Erickson time singing because he lives and that also be out on her new CD next with you again. Just just keep this twixt us. Don't don't make a big production about it. But just because you're in this audit go out to hopefully caregiver.com and you can hear and stream all these things right now and download them if you want, and then the CD it if you want to order CD of the socially caregivers out there and will put Gracie see the other when it comes out next month but it's out there and told her she could see the girl can sing a love that commercial just hear about Chuck's Lynn doll and making sure you tell tell a funny story me so I will tell you a funny story because you know what you need to laugh. We need like that we take yourself seriously scared and it's serious work. What we do we deal with harsh realities we deal with a lot of pain a lot of sorrow but you know what, we also need to laugh, and last year we we came out of Gracie had her 80th surgery surgeon number 80 work on her arm and she had a nerve that was pinched and it was causing her about the way 888-589-8840 888-589-8840 if you want to be a part of the show, but they had to relieve pinched nerve honor right elbow in it because it was causing her hand atrophy and was pretty uncomfortable and so she had her arm in a sling after the surgeon I helped her get dressed and she unwilling or out.

I Gracie has two prosthetic legs and she does it were skin covering on her legs. So there. The real robotic looking you got to the website and take a look and she doesn't care. She goes on national television like that she just doesn't care. It's a lot easier to deal with for her and the but it does cause a few people to widen their house with a C or sometimes, so she's wearing a dress and she had her arm in a sling agree she's a beautiful woman. I mean, don't take my word for Google are I google her, but she is just a beautiful woman who happens to be severely disabled so wailing out this is it. Vanderbilt University Medical Center Nashville, Tennessee, and unwilling around. I go into the elevator. It is one of the big big elevators and it was filled with people and were right at the front and they're all staring at her and your arms in a sling. Her legs, a robotic and there just staring at her, not even trying to be nice about it. There just staring and so finally had had enough and I said to very loudly to everyone in the elevator worst hysterectomy ever.

Gracie just rolled her eyes at me and everyone started looking at their shoes. I mean, they just immediately just the there.

I just went straight to the ground because they do they bid you know call out and as I was leaving a pulled out of the elevator and I shot over my shoulder. She put up a fight God lover addressed to the car she laughed the whole way to the car. So sometimes you just have to learn to laugh and and go with it and we've certainly cried. Plenty of tears. And I bet you have too but I thought you might enjoy laugh. I must go to lessee. Is this Jahnke in South Carolina that I have that right Jahnke in South Carolina that I say that right Shanda. Her well I do the best to get away from South Carolina actually Florence, South Carolina. I'm from, I'm originally from Anderson.

I speak fluent Carolina Carolina born Carolina breadwinner Dalby Carolina did this that I will tell you what's going on with this morning. Hello wow, well, God bless you. You and actually I would not get on my file and I kept trying to get the number and not and that you talk very fast is that I am very slow sometime in South Carolina.

I do talk fast is to say that well they only count Carolina California every other kind of blessing for that what's what's going on with well now I want to say that down. I am truly black because it guided my father and I thank him for many want to cry right now it's okay and I think my mom and half years I've been doing it and it's a great opportunity to thank God for choosing me I have to have a crippling and I love them dearly and maybe what they can and now they have family out for, which is not gay but you know I'm the one that spelled out, but and that every every day it actually a journey. My mama Mike and December.

She cannot came full circle it like I get allowed them thing to be removed. I guess you could say they thought she was epileptic for that path. Three and four years without and that she was taking medication for that. We were blessed to be about going to do and they will be back in just a bit.

Do you have the radio on, you know, I didn't actually get you turn it down a little bit is Roman on the flight I kept hearing it echoed and that's the there I am. I know nobody sorry Lou is just is just you and me couple Carolina. Good luck. Just a couple questions you should what he would. What is your crew do you have a career did you work just to keep other full-time and I went I worked for Fortune 500 company for over 20 questionnaire, early retiree I would laugh when I hear myself say damn early Harry Pickett back and what that really mean I don't get all the benefits of a person in the early Harry that underfoot the bad Bank of America, but the company were exploring their at removed and found. I guess you could say look like an accusation where they left the area in which I let Anna where I moved a lot of different places and I came just a template in the show is not working you network email. I am not thinking my mother that my mom and you did you live there with her home, but what do you do what you do for break release. You along if I really hadn't really had a great gift that was treating it like corporate America for a long time, I realized that my body that's not the case back to Africa, I learned that a couple years later I figured I could come and fix it and be out but that claim. Sometimes we was like running see what you'll deserve a break you but you do deserve a break and what it what about your siblings's two sisters are brother and sister.

What he got.

Want to have a better one. When not too far down you know I did not design a get to be in a position to really help because there health and mental capacity they get from time to make working. I so they can they have enough health to be able go to work in the right to check for respite care for you becoming network, looking at KB As well. I think it's okay to look a little harder. Your your really nice soft spoken person who is who is really taking a lot yourself. I get that but it's but the question I have to ask is okay.

So if you get sick. What happens was the plan and yeah and so is time for stuff your siblings to step up in whatever was a kid.

It may just be providing respite care for you one day a week now and I think that they can go to work.

They don't have to come over there and do all the things you're doing is always using one person doing it. What's gonna happen is is the novelty of this is going to wear off, and you could resentment will start to kick you okay just just go ahead and write that down that I said that it's only a matter of time. They may take a long time they take short time it will happen and and so it's important start having these discussions now because as long as you take this off their plate. They don't have to worry about it.

Chuck is doing that such God gifted her for that and that's what they'll say. But you know what God gifted all of us. For this he did say honor your mother and father. If you're up to it. If you're gifted for teachers that do okay that it mean you have to honor their their impairment love people get that get that big. To go too far the other side of the think well just because mom says she wants it, we gotta give it to a remote may be an alcoholic. You know something to do that but there's a point where they need to step up and you may not feel comfortable having that conversation with the it may get a little bit dicey. It may be tough to bring 1/3 party and just so you know what we need to divvy up some of this responsibility because I can promise you this jog. You are one sprained ankle away from this thing going really self attract women with chronic on occasion to listen to it on a regular bit amount of time a look at the gifts the heartbreak at the end of the hour don't hang up bridges go to get your information.

Don't hang up his only okay well but let's get them doing this on a regular bit okay listen, this is hope for the caregiver. This is Peter Rosenberg were out of time. Hopefully, caregiver.com would you go out and take a look at all the resources available to view healthcare