Sept 29 2019 Show

Live on Sirius XM family talk channel 131 this is hope for the caregiver. This is the nation's number one show for the family caregiver for those who are putting themselves between vulnerable of disaster for those who were staying up late at night with lots of law back and forth the doctor's office back and forth to the hospital back and forth to the rehab center. This is the show for you there. More than 65 million Americans out there right now who were doing this, who are taking care of an aging parent special-needs child play level with the who's had a traumatic accident who has dealt with some type of debilitating injury or illness, or maybe it's just somebody who has a mental illness. Maybe you're involved in a relation with somebody who's an alcoholic. That's a chronic impairment where you have a chronic impairment. There's caregiver. Maybe they have an opioid addiction. Maybe you know a child that has some type of of ghetto of affliction. Like cerebral palsy or things like that. Maybe his mental illness.

What ever the affliction. There's a chronic impairment. There is caregiver and we are glad to have you with us. I am Peter Rosenberg and I'm your host, 877-655-6755 877-655-6755 if you want to be a part of the show and this is that this is the nation's largest show for them you know we don't.

We are so thrilled about the show because caregivers haven't had a voice. Heck, most people don't even see the caregiver and only lately. They ask how the patient is doing how the level is doable.

Did ask about how you are doing and there are, you know what 39,480 hours of programming each week on Sirius XM.

This is the hour for you as a family caregiver and we're just thrilled to have you with us. We would also like to introduce my partner in crime. Here he is been with me for six long years.

He said he feels like more than twice as thick.

The bear to the board.

The Sultan assailed the Earl of engineering. The man put the word care into care package from home. He is John Butler. The count of mighty disco everyone Peter how you doing today.

Thank you again fantastic intro and it is just a pleasure to be here with you know what John I'm in sales was voluntary, and south of Montana prove we have had snow we had snow last night. Couple inches of snow we got more coming and so on. Nashville, I have filled out lately.yeah it was 105° here today. That's why got my car is on notice not be but I dressed up today because I was of course you are now the rest of the free market in NY Whitney never now this is a social event every stripe of humanity is representing the free market and as a matter fact against this. I know this is a strength and just want to go to Riverside to floor rigid high. You will never find a more beautiful and diverse cross-section of humanity dislike of Thomas Isley of their Nashville.

It was 105° out here today is not now. It's them. It's cooled off since the SunStar go down but it was all I got I got out of the flea market where, by the way, I told a lot of people about the show in your intro you talk about all of these potential things were someone ends up with with, or being a caregiver and I talked about the show at the flea market which, again, the broader spectrum of humanity that I think you can encounter and everybody had not everybody, of course, but you know the most the people I talked to had some story that was related to all you know will take care my mom in law, or whatever. And and just there's always a story yeah and you know what I go to do. John getting a bumper sticker.

The cyst I talked about the show at the flea market. That's fantastic that a negative, that's good, but there is always a story if you get a caning without merged by the way, I really do know I think we want John Butler merchandise that's our gal. I'll hop on the design of my designer I can listen to the radio for now and all I got was a John Butler T-shirt made it that Lititz thank you that I think it I think that you you hit on something that there's always a connection to a caregiver. Somebody is always going to be.

It respects no social, economic, racial, religious, anything.

I mean, it is no we have equal opportunity situation for families to go through. This is what we do the show and we are committed to helping point, the family caregiver to safety and in a week we get we have a lot of fun on the show. It's not what people think because at people immediately.

Always think of nursing homes and thinking no other caregiver since I was 22. You know I mean this is not a nursing home issue with me. This is a do with the wife you had a traumatic injury back in 1983, a car wreck when she was 17 years old. And even though 20 surgeries later matter and we fell in love, got married in and just an amazing girl gotten one take a look at her. On her website. Hopefully caregiver.com but the surgeries Mounting both of her legs and having to be amputated. 80 surgeries that I can count the hundred doctors that I can count seven different insurance companies in 12 different hospitals and it doesn't show any signs of slowing down.

So what is it look like to help somebody like me keep my head in the game and when I started doing the show.

When I wrote my book and all these things unto us a look at what was the issue for the family caregiver is it just you know get a good nights rest.

Take care yourself, you know all the platitudes I've heard over and not her lab right there not but it's like shooting a right you should get enough sleep.

You might you might just tell me to stop and smell the roses know it's it it has just as much specificity and and so what we wanted to do with this show was to create an environment where we can get very specific with fellow caregivers.

Here's what safety looks like.

Here's where help is and here's how you can catch your breath. Here's how you can take in the here's how you can come get your head regarding reading it and then shift around this incredible love that you're caring on your shoulders and this is what it looks like if this is part of your life. This is where you are maybe you got an aging parent right now. You just know it Sunday afternoon. You just left and assisted living or maybe you've got a family member that you just coach on the way to the emergency room. Or maybe you're in the parking lot of the hospital having a meltdown. Been there, done that. This is your time and you're welcome to call 877-655-6755 877-655-6755 and would love to hear from you. John looking to get right to our caregiver to of the day go id about the way it is producing the show in Dallas at the Salem radio studios there in Dallas. It was attempt there in Dallas about just ask 95.

It's hot. How is it you know I feel kinda bad man.

You guys are like sweltering in this morning, little gloves and coats and everything else notices fantastic with Uzziah you like this stuff don't you I do II live for the sun and and everything and I don't get like no I like winter because I buy like the fire like doing the whole thing. Don't get me wrong, it's fantastic, but summer is on the way out here. I've only got a couple more days with no real nice and pretty and it will come crashing down and just be well by what we were talking about today's caregiver Caregiver tip of the day. I offer we got sidetracked there by my head that by taking a little right turn to talk about the weather were going to go through a list of landmines that caregivers hit. It's part of it for my book 7 caregiver landmines and how you can avoid them is just a little tiny pocket book that I wrote for Philip triggers up stick it with you in your pocket or purse. Whatever keep it with you read it over and over again because it helps us stay out of the weeds and the first one is SR caregiver tip of the day is to see to your own health care needs. That is absolutely paramount for us is caregivers and what's happened is in here of the alarming facts, 72% of caregivers are not seeing their own doctor regularly. So when you hear this a lot when it when I take calls and so forth and I hear caregivers are distressed. One of things and can ask on a regular basis is was last time you told your doctor was last time you saw your doctor and the last time you went to your doctor. We caregivers go to a lot of doctors like is it with grace. You have had she been trained over 100.

I see a lot of doctors with her but do I see a lot of doctors for me and now there are over 65 million caregivers.

And yet, 72% are not seeing their own Dr. John, what is that number I was told there would be no math on this test. Thank you very much. That way when he was 65,000,032% announcer, 72%. I'll just give you the answer 72% do not do not see their own doctor regularly so I'm guessing 42 million willingness to follow than 40 it's more than we would excel 42 million+. But I knew that I needed the survey from family feud will survey says you know and you think about for is proximally what 44 million down, got your message on IM under my calculator. Was it that I get the 5 million all his hints a little brain that is 44.6 million 46,000,040 6 million people in this country right now so I 47 alright so 4040 68. This is rather sad, but needless to say, math was not our subject, but it's the well. It was for you, but that was there. What that was new, but it was it.

If you think about 47 million people.

Approximately in this country who are taking care of the sickest among us, and they're not seeing their own doctorate. How is that a good thing. Who benefits from that what what what's going on with that was the reluctance to do it, and I've heard this for myself and from other caregivers is that, well, we just get through this and then I'll such and such. But what really prompted this for me today as I was in the doctor's office the other day and I saw this lady in a wheelchair and she was a batch of elderly lady and she was in bad shape but she was being pushed in her wheelchair by her daughter. She was identified.

Her daughter there and this woman was morbidly obese. I mean morbidly and you gotta think okay what is going on internally with this caregiver physically with her just her physical body.

Her organs and everything else you think about her knees and then you think about her hips and her shoulders and always constantly her neck how discomfort much discomfort as this woman in, and then you think about emotionally what is all that weight doing to her self image of yourself, sense of self-worth and all these things and you realize that this is not a healthy woman and she's taking care of somebody who's not healthy.

The house help with that. What is it look like what we start with that because she didn't get here overnight. She certainly not want to get out of it overnight.

But what can you do today and see him all about helping caregivers understand what you can do today. Not next week, not in this is not that kinda show you call in and we got a special book that we could give you a did you come to our thing and will get of crack your back and then do this in this him and you can be no this is hard work.

This is hard work to do this and you get a have a team around you can have people cheering you on. And something you can do today, something John and I both practice a lot, drink some water that you something you can do today just drink water John how much water do you start off in the morning with it's like a it's like a 12 ounce tumbler. I just slam it just just any garment on yeah I'm just not even it's it's not it.

I probably should drink a lot slower than I do but I just wake up and yeah just to get that just to get everything woken up that I don't have coffee right after that and that's not really a hydrating thing. It's no but what I'm trying to do was move people away as much as possible from from sugar because you haven't sodas and stuff like that. We can just substitute one glass of water from one soda just now just little steps like that every time you're tempted to reach for soda even if you thing if it's a diet soda. You know, please put water in your body not sugary drinks, not diet drinks, not chemicals, water in your body. It it it'll take time because you get to time to get you to this is heavy if you that's where you are. But even if you're not even having this is still a better practice for you.

Now it's required for every metabolic process in the body.

Every year whenever I admire you have a time. I feel hungry. I'm not really hungry. I'm just thirsty and I just it. Your body needs it for everything is good taste good will and way ahead. I miss you want to and what what I found was caregivers is if you you show me a heavy caregiver and I'll show you somebody whose heart is heavy when it is there truly just burn down on your heart and what happens is we start feeding that heaviness with things that are not initially good for the call it comfort food for recent and that comfort food is going to just continue to build up and build up and all of a sudden you turn around in your morbidly obese.

I mean II get it. I put on a good bit of weight in my time as a caregiver. I mean, I guess a big picture fell off the wall.

I mean I was so difficult that you are about how they were broke left. I understand that in the refrigerator is to close or just what your back and forth. The doctors offices back and forth the hospital you just go to the draft I need is not a character flaw right know if this is how is this is a survival mechanism that we buy into because we are so we are hurting so bad we want to stop hurting and we don't want to get more tired. We don't want to get more stressed out and somehow when we grab something like that. It just makes us feel better. For the moment and we live with so many things that make us feel bad that we desperately want to feel better, but I'm asking you one caregiver to another which you trust me on this and put down one sugary drink and grab some water put down one Snickers bar or one piece of pie one this and grab something little bit healthier because now that's what I do is build a habit. Yeah it it'll take some time but that's why we do the show was to continue to reinforce these things so that you don't feel like you just isolated. I'm not going there so many weight loss programs out there.

I'm not to reinvent the wheel there some things like this, but for caregivers what's happened is is your hearts heavy. If we can start dealing with the heart issues you watch the weight come off you with the body issues with the heart issues is where the battle was fought because it's your self-image. It's your self-worth and if you understand that you are worth doing this for you are worth getting healthier from what you're doing as a caregiver matters and you are important and if you can just hold onto that thought don't sell yourself out that somehow you know it your it's your expendable or somebody else's health at your expense.

And so we don't go to our own Dr. why not you know I member this lady called into the show. Some time ago she was struggling. Her husband had rheumatoid arthritis, and he was in real bad shape and she didn't think he was glad that it look like the it was getting close to the end.

Him and he was in bad shape and she was crying and she was.

She said he's not a believer. He is got very sick and I know where this is going and I put the brakes on that whole hold on just a second. I said we all know where this is going. None of us get now this thing alive and that mortality John on if you do this met with the mortality rate in this country is still at 100% in the right that and so I told her as I stopped for a moment I said okay. When's the last time you saw your doctor and she said I was couple months ago I said okay. How is your blood pressure. She said it wasn't bad. And I said what about your ear, your cholesterol, she said it is coming down so that you weight. She said I've lost 20 pounds nested Atlas go back to that. You can fight high cholesterol but you can't fight rheumatoid arthritis on your you don't have that you have the ability to fight debt which you can find cholesterol and I said it. Also, given that that you say that she's not a belief that that your husband is on a believer, I said you want. I have a dismal track record of convincing anyone to become a believer in Christ, a dismal track record of this I said, but Christ has a pretty good why don't you let him worry about that in you just modeled this for your husband and continue to work on your own health and make sure that your belligerent brush, blood pressure, your cholesterol, your weight, your body is functioning.

It it higher places and model this behavior for him and let God worry about the things that are God and you take care things that are yours, and that's breaking it down for caregiver so that were not putting this pressure ourselves as somehow we gotta figure this whole thing out and if you are 50, 60, 70, 80, 100 on this woman's case of the day she had to be every bit of 250, 300 pounds overweight. If you're at that place and many of you are listening are first off, stop beating yourself up for it and understand. You can with help it with some work. You can chisel that away not so that you can be thin and beautiful and all those kinds of things. That's that's fine, but so that you can be healthy see, the goal is not to be aesthetically pleasing. The goal is to be healthy. Healthy caregivers make better caregivers is just that simple. And the demands on you are real and and on the next segment went to Québec for the break will go to talk about going to your doctor. What are some things you want to deal with going to your doctor and so forth specifically for you as a caregiver to help you with that. Right now I just want to see. Can you do one lifestyle change just one just one thing you don't have to do anything you don't join a gym or anything like that right at the somewhat I'm an advocate him if you want to you can, but that's not what I'm advocating what I'm advocating is one small lifestyle change. If you've got some type of sugary drink in your hand right now. Put it aside. Grab some water something that simple. You said Peter that as she stated that no that's not anybody can do that anybody can and you know how much that cost you that I would have him on just one little thing does micro make a big difference in subliminal things, which is modifying subject to it now.

Well, now it is because John cross-examined it will cost you more to not do it exactly. So if you just spent what was it, what's up, what's a can of soda cost John our lease the Barclays days.

I know I arrived I bought sodium in years and let us have less of what is a glass of water, cost well, it comes complementary with your meals or all I'm asking you to do one little thing if if you are going to the land it whatever you check in at the pharmacy, whatever, and you see a candy bar that you just you, whatever pass on and grab something to slow healthier now.

I don't like it one little thing a day, and should building the habit of being the kind of person that occasionally makes that kind of choice and then just you'll be amazed what happens do another thing that helps to become sugar-free gum because it it satisfies that urge to just put something in her mouth and then when your mouth feels fresher because you had sugar-free gum.

You don't want to eat so much because your mouth feels fresher now yeah and what it's like they want to reinvent the wheel here because no one but one would just look you've got to got to respect the amount of stress that you're under is a caregiver.

You've got to respect what that does to you what your decision points become and you just want to feel better and yeah I screen but does make you feel better doughnuts symmetrical real good fit's coming drawing cream I lay out a name in kryptonite cream bit is yes… Why do you have to say the word no I love it I love it. But what is it doing to you is a caregiver. What are all those carbs doing to you as a caregiver and I'm asking you just don't don't go out and buy a new diet book anything. Don't don't don't look hogwild on it, just do one thing, something you can do today so you know what I meant to do something healthy for me. You know what I just ate today.

Well okay that's in the past astutely ought to do it again just asking you to take one small step using the goal is not to feel better.

Caregivers were not necessarily feel better about the slicks we deal with Harding we can be better.

We can be better than we can do this together.

I this is the nation's number one show for the family caregiver. This is hopefully caregiver give us a call 877-655-6755 877-655-6755 this is Peter Roseburg will be right back in a dispute. Rosenberg is nearer help somebody walk the first time I've had that privilege many times through our organization. Standing with hope when my wife Gracie gave up both of her legs follow this horrible Rick that she had as a teenager and she try to save them for years and if it just wouldn't work out.

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We are on Sirius XM's family talk channel 130, 1-877-655-6755 877-655-6755. That was Gracie my wife singing from her upcoming CD were to place on the first if we have time today it'll have it queued up a book and point out that you like to hear her sing little bit more and she is just one voice is a song I wrote and I wrote it for caregivers to express her heart and will talk about wellness for caregivers today, 72% of caregivers do not see their own doctor regularly and will try to change that we want you to understand that it's important for you to be healthy as a caregiver and will take a quick phone call here Tamra and Tulsa Tamra how you feeling I want to slam out aren't you pioneers like Aaron Hathaway and wondering how long for you to get back where you're not not that all the time will I'm in my 33rd+ year of this and so I don't know. I am a but I will tell you this I got a theory. Tamra got a theory and maybe maybe you can help me test this theory out.

I believe that when you're in intense caregiving situations for several years on them, for several months love people, you know we can do episodic things we get through but facilities like you did and it was evidently pretty grueling, and then an incident into funerals that I have this theory that there is a level of PTSD for caregivers that sneaks into this and there is this you become wired through this journey and it's hard to un-wire.

It and it sounds like that's kind of where you are is that if this affair sifts with the with the PTSD component to it all morning light. I gotta get mom on this will not will see what I think it's going to take some time. He did this for five years. I think you can have to give yourself some time that the gift respect amount of trauma that went to you physically and emotionally. Through this process and problem making financially to naturally affect that level of trauma do you are are you do you work at it all.

You can exercise. I not working on my will that I get what about just walking okay, wondering no it's not that's not an excuse, listless, restless draw another tactic you involved in any kind of counseling. I will why did you could afford. What about a support group would like a grief share things such as that there is out the there are programs out there that are, I believe their free and they may pass a basket do like a dollar that comes to what some type of 12 step recovery program some type of grief share those kinds of things that don't cost anything of any significance.

And yet it allows you to communicate with other people to kinda bleed off some of the stress. Part of what's making you tired so much is that the amount of shear stress that you hurt your body is been on. What about you about Natalie my interest is just as hyper hyper watchfulness about every hybrid Hardee's yeah yeah yeah you end up like we talk about this a lot. These are systems that are in place in our body for really good reasons. They help us one from Tigers but we don't need to run from Tigers every day. 2470 yeah and if you do it for five years. It just burns those pathways out whatever mechanisms are in place as remember how it works just that they get worn out immediately and there there always on in a good way of getting through. This is now talking with other people who are going to the same thing and you know I know I know the initial question was how long does this last that's that's a rough one now it's it's going to last until you sleep through the night and that's the goal immediately matches this situation. What about church evolved after church, but is a good job and you feel like think they understand your journey back to the server. Trying trying and trying to get more involved and she popping out the church, and I really appreciate their cranky little baby will keep you busy may not be the best thing maybe keep you still might be a bit of butter. Stretch, let me ask you a very to very personal questions one has. How is your weight.

I will in most most of us is caregivers do. Are you and are you seeing that starting to move off of you will okay if you can maybe like we talked about early in the show.

Just make one simple thing.

Are you do do do drink a lot of sodas or sweet drinks of things such as that.

I it's okay holler out. It's okay. I like a cool program I went got my life and are now going to be like the answer and played back on my career path. I agree that's good stuff yeah you drink sugary drinks after saying 8 o'clock at night.

This morning about my can you maybe back off. Not not eliminate just can you find waisted you can back it off in our ego to ours that can do stuff so that you it by the time you laid out at night.

You're not just so amped up from caffeine and sugar that you had to get to the night and deal with it. I can try it look that if you do just that, alone, and it doesn't cost anything like me, and maybe Mr. like two or three nights a week trying to see the work it out. You make it a little bit of a headache when you start back at all sugar and caffeine.

Okay, I'll replay when you when you start feeling that coming on go for the water and less of these toxins out of your body. You don't look, I'm not a dietitian you right out of the piano player who happens to be caregiver for a long time but I can tell you that if you drinking caffeine and sugar anytime pretty much after six, seven, 8 o'clock at night, you're not going to state asleep at night. No matter what kind of medication you take. Okay you can stay amped up and when you lay down at night, your brains firing you get chemicals in your body that are pushing you so I'm asking you to maybe just back some of those things often see if it works. See if you get relief and and start instead of trying to keep busy about being still just lucky that he still and when you sit still for little bit.

Does your mind just, race, and you think of all the things you should do what he could've done okay. I think this could be a better place for you if you just learn to be still and recognize that you did everything you knew to do with the information you had and you did the best he could write you know what you volunteered to do it. Did you get paid to do all the stuff as a counter located so you stepped up and you volunteered you altered your mother and father to the best of your abilities. You. You make mistakes.

We all do on the crash test dummy of caregivers to you know you I have had II have forgotten more mistakes and you will ever make. Because I mean I just asked Gracie about how screwed up of something that's however you did the best he could. You got small children. Evidently my brain that are not where you got you got you got family. You've got responsibilities outside of that, so maybe you could start off by saying you know what I really did do the best I could and say God it wasn't perfect but he did asked me to be perfect. Yes me to just step up and I did.

Yes me to honor my mother and father and I did and I'm asking you to honor your promise that you say, to me you all you weary and heavy laden, I'll give you rest and and just pay on weary and heavy leg. You know I've I've gained a lot of weight.

I'm heavy laden, I'm weary of my heart. My heart is heavy laden, and say Lord I need some rest and I don't know what risk looks like, but I'm going to this crazy down the radio said if I could be still and learn to just sit still and calm my heart down. I may be able to start resting little bit.

This is how I do it and sometimes you have to just will yourself to turn off the television or will yourself to put down the coffee put down the tea put down the sodas will yourself to just be still take time for stillness are you would have to make time for illness and you grant your granddaughter to your grandchildren deserve to have a grandmother that they can enjoy and be with, who's not so worn slam out so I'm not asking reinvent the wheel and I'm not asking to spend a dime. In fact, I'm going to do something for you okay okay it stay on the phone and it's good to get your information and I will send you a copy of my CD is called song for the caregiver and in it I play I don't have exposure limit 12, half of them are instrumental.

The other half Gracie singing, but they're all very calm and I found them to be incredibly calm into the family caregiver just just to just come leave it there and you probably fall asleep while you're listening to it, which is the point or you may even we play listen to and and if you it at either one of those things are good because those are both healing for you, not crying, I despair, but weeping and letting some of the stuff out of you that you been holding onto that really hurts Tamra. It really does hurt hat and I'd like to see you get to a place where you could breathe a little bit easier and I think you can, and I think if we pull together and we work together do this is what we do as caregivers we help each other get to a place of safety and so right mail. If you if you just trust me on that and take some simple steps that don't cost any money. Hang on the phone. It's good to get your information that I want to send you a copy of the CD is much else do it if you don't like it you send it back. John Alyssa, I didn't. I did it for the I did it for the caregivers who feel like the brain is a squirrel cage on a self.

So how about that but in fact what it does that. How would you like to listen to Gracie singing this song right mail. This is called I can only hold you now.

I wrote it for.

What you listen to this for just a moment I wife Gracie wrote that with my friend Buddy moonlight back in Nashville, Tennessee, and that the caregivers expressed, what's on our heart, what with things we'd like to say in this show was all about helping caregiver deal with the heart turmoil that's going on. If we can if we can help readjust that then we can deal with the weight of the other issues going on our life or our career professions. Like Tamra said she want to go back and get becoming a licensed insurance agent so she can work on her career. All of those things can fall into a much better lockstep with us if her heart is not a train wreck and so what I'm here about what I'm hoping to do with the show and everything else I do what I know wonder what the show with everything on is to be able to speak to that frantic nuisance in the caregivers heart. I understand an invoice if I hope few will ever will. And like I said I've had ample time to make more mistakes than most. You guess I forgot more than most get to make and and I but I've learned some things alone. The front of the loan. The way hey listen I will work before we get to in the show.

Just want to quickly ask of plea I need to need some help I need for you to share a lot of help of enraged backpack, a therapist, I need you to share something for me. The present expense of the show you heard of the commercial early on standing with stayed with hope presents is gracing unfounded stings of many years ago. It's for the wounded and those who care for and that's the sponsor of the show we want to be able to reach the wounded and those who care for them with practical biblical help with the practical comes in with the wounded, because Gracie wanted to do a prosthetic limb outreach to her fellow amputees and we been doing that since 2005 in the west African country of Ghana and we train and equip and maintain prosthetic limbs over there for her fellow amputees. It's an amazing ministry where we collect, use prosthetic limbs that go into a local Pres. and and and inmates will they volunteer to to disassemble the legs and we can reuse most of the light we can't reuse the socket because that's custom fitted to that patient.

But everything else can be the need to pylon the screws the adapters to prosthetic feet that the belt systems the socks.

The liner sleeps all those things can be reused. Even the shoes a lot of times of people will send in a use live at the forget it. With the she wanted, but the forgiveness in the other shoe so I'm asking that the other shoe to drop a housing I did exactly what you had, you reject it categorically out right that letting but would you go to standing with.com.

Just look at it.

Look at it and share this with maybe you know a funeral home director and because a lot of funeral homes will get prosthetic limbs. The family doesn't know what to do with. We will take maybe you know somebody who's got a a son or daughter who's in sports and so forth that has gone through a lot of prosthetic limbs that they think they they do a lot of disabled sports type of things. Whatever they go through a lot of limbs Gracie is going to a lot of links don't throw those things away when you're done with them will take them were always looking for more stuff to to be able to help recycle this and you can just send that out to folks putting on your Facebook page Sharon Singh had heard about this.

Do you know of anybody that has a use prosthetic limb that they have sit in the closet. Maybe a loved one passed away. They just don't feel comfortable throwing up dispensing in the closet will take will take it and just and you see right on the website. I had to do it. And while you're there, take a look at that the inmates are doing it is extremely program that we partner with core civic encore civic.com is one of their many faith-based programs and think they manage these prisons around the country and they they use these faith-based programs to help build confidence and skills, and values in the inmates and and and turn lives around. I had inmates that have come to me and said you know I never thought about doing anything positive in my hands to start with this living thought about people disabilities… Doing this I had one guy that ended up being the head guy in the in the in the shop. There whose wife was an amputee and we heard about the program and he got his light string of bombings in prison heard about the program wanted to work in it and then his wife had passed away, but he he donated her leg to the to the program. This is something you can be a part of did see all the cattle faith-based firms in the habit@corecivic.com. Please please think about sharing this. We would be very grateful. But Tamra I do appreciate you calling on that and I want I want to see this real quick about going to the doctor before we run out of time here John that were taught about wellness today for the family caregiver to bid landmine.

We put our wellness off and put it on hold will just get through the funeral will get mama on the Jesus of them will deal with us. I say Meme you're not going to feel better, but this but you can be better in it and I would recommend highly calling your personal physician your primary care doctor and going get a checkup. I recommend a annual physical, and every six months getting lab work and so forth. But when you go but when you go don't just show up willy-nilly is an appropriate pepper were Joan Willie, I know it works it works well and in Nashville how well in Montana but I'm in selfless Montana. For those you just doing but but when you go there. Write down 3 to 5 things that you can ask your physician do this for your loved one. Do this for yourself, but please would you do yourself a favor and look at your physician caregiver let them know your caregiver. If they seem ambivalent to it get another doctor okay or have them call me this list to the show because the growth and I want I will tear into them like a hobo into a bologna sandwich know I if you will, if you will communicate to them that you are dealing with high stress of dealing with caring for someone do not do not do not do not underestimate the level of stress that you're under a secure, please don't please respect okay because it won't. It will really cripple you as as an individual, emotionally, physically, financially, in a professionally on every level, and what were all about here is helping you stand a little straighter, breathe a little easier. Walk a little steadier so that you can bear this journey and it not crush you.

And so even after Tamra.

Here she is. The funerals are already over both her mother and her father gone and she still struggling with this. Do you see the impact this can have on an individual when you care for. So she's wake up in the middle the night think about getting some from other are they calling or whatever were going to help do what we can to help camera get a Tamra get to a place where she can settle down.

My goal for hers for her to have a great night sleep.

I go for yet he wants for me to call the show. She called the show. My goal for you is to have the same thing. Healthy caregivers make better caregivers was help each other get to a place of safety.

This is hope for the caregiver.

I'm Peter Rosenberg.

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