As a Caregiver, Do You Respect YOUR OWN Trauma?

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I know Google okay no googling you just you got if you know the answer.

You can call this in, but there's a Scripture John chapter 5 no googling, and just you got well. I can't stop if you go to cheat you got a cheap but you Jesus will know just kidding Jesus there was a sheep gate by the sheep.

It was a pool which in Hebrew is called what had five portico's and then the slave multitude of her sick blind Lehman withered there waiting for the moving of the waters. It was alleged that the angel of the Lord went down at certain times into the pool stirred up the water and whoever was first got in the water after string of it was made well and and if you look in John chapter 5 verse five is a man was there who had been there, been ill for 38 years adverse excess when Jesus saw him lying there and knew they'd already been there a long time in that condition he said to him do you wish to get well segment answer Sir, I have no one to put me in the pool when the water stirred but but when I'm coming other step in before me, and he never even answer Jesus questioned and then Jesus said pickup get up, pick up your pallet and walk man became well picked up the spout again walk but but what the point I want to make on that will Scripture is it it said he'd been there 38 years Scripture was very specific on that 38 years and then went on to add. He'd been there a long time Scripture understood under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit. John wrote that he valued how long that man had been there and and and gave respect to the illness to the trauma. This over to talk about today, but if you know the answer to the name of that pool what was called. Give us a call 888-589-8840 888-589-8840 doubt. Remember the calls we get here are for family caregivers. So if your seminary student wanted to show off your knowledge give a caregiver a chance okay Cupid could give a care coverage is to be able to share that but 888-589-8840. We love to hear from you this again. The show is for the family caregiver and those folks often get lost in the someone else's story, and this shows all about helping family caregivers find their own voice and understand just how dearly love. They are by their Savior and would love to have you be a part of the show today 888-589-8840 respecting the trauma respecting the trauma is is what going to talk about today because so many of us live with trauma, not just our love ones but but the trauma ourselves of being a caregiver. Do you understand how much trauma you're enduring as a caregiver.

Do you understand what it's doing to you and and and are you respecting it.

I had knee surgery this week. I have a torn meniscus in my left knee and is been bothering me. We got to be pretty uncomfortable fact was hard to even sit and do the show and and I went to buy orthopedic surgeon in it and is it what happened. I don't remember doing anything in particular and evidently the consensus was that I turned 57 and I guess that's what happens and so they but they been in there and fix that.

A lot of the law caregivers don't do these things, they won't they won't take care of their own medical needs. 72% kickers doing see their own doctor. That's one of the landmines about book 7 caregiver landmines and how you can avoid the and is is seen general medical needs. I knew that if my knee did not get what it was not to get better on its own that I had to take steps with it so I had to get it fixed and you know let the in the. The nurse is a friend of ours and and said look, called of the column checked on the regulars of the let let the pain be your guide. Don't don't over do what you know what your body can't do and and and basically respect the trauma and and I look at this passage in Scripture where it says this manner been there for 38 years and then went on to repeat. It was a long time. Jesus knew would been there along that my wife was hurt 37 years ago next month when she had her correctness before a newer and you know it. It gives me great comfort and guidance and an inside and and clarity and wisdom to know that Scripture is affirming respect the trauma. Some people been hurt for 38 minutes, but this could have been her been there for 38 years in Scripture recognize that some want to ask you today, are you respecting the trauma that you're dealing with is a caregiver. Do you understand what this is doing to you. That's why ask every caller no matter who calls it the show if you got the right answer to see the board is lit up with people who got the trivia answers but no matter who calls it would ask you how are you feeling how you doing and are you respecting the trauma that being caregivers costing what it's doing to dust you want your heart to your body your job to relationships to your soul you respect trauma 88 858-9888 885-8984 this this is health care healthcare caregivers that were on the path to do today will be right in.

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I did this because it's not him. This is a need. The minute you need to write that because this is the point of respect to the trauma of understand how much we need the every hour.

We need and love that him so thanks for let me start off the combat from the bright claim and then I got keyboards that appear in my studio and I just loving it would just stop and just play from it and sometimes I like to just be able to play for you as a caregiver is my fellow caregiver and will play Gracie's music and so forth and I liked that's how one of the ways that I respect the trauma of my own life and of Gracie's life is that we use music to soothe that if you member David used to play for King Saul.

When King Saul would would would would be going crazy coming to the madness.

When on King Saul and and David would sit on a play that would skew would calm him down. Most the time onto David Salter was spearheading but anyway so I must say I want to go and I a Carlos in Tennessee. Carlos good morning how you feeling, Carlos, good morning. I'm well, thank you for your reader will you know for a man of my age, limited abilities and think I'm doing okay, you got my answer but was the name of the pool respect to the fact that I'm not a caregiver, not quite fairly and called and he wanted caregivers decline and I know the answer but I declined, and no you go ahead I'm just glad to meet you Carlos. I'm glad to meet you.

Go ahead and tell me Carlos, here's the if you love somebody, you're going to be a caregiver.

If you live long enough, you will indeed one so no matter what happens you would be involved in the show at some point so I'm just glad to meet you and glad that you're out there. The pool will show yes and all also called was also call back.

Well we we we we named a hospital after it here in the United States Naval Hospital after it so what about that Seth says that it is without and so it Jesus respected that the did you know I love that about you know, and it was my friend John Erickson taught a pointed that out to me when she was reflecting on this is that she's been a quiet and quadriplegia.

Now she's been doing this for over 50 years.

But when it when she hit that 38 year mark. She reported that Scripture out there said you he been ill for a long time. For 30 years in the Scripture set it in and he been there a long time and recognize how long that he been in respect of the trauma and I know Carlos whatever life you lived at this point you've had trauma in your life.

Haven't you and I and you gotta respect the trouble what is was something you do to respect the trauma. Well I think I'm calling you know you so thank you.

Very a coworker of mine who will caretaker and and and and I always you know want to encourage her anchor her ask her how she's doing so is respect to trauma and the things you and what I want her to go would be aware that it you know I'm thinking about you. You know you're you're helping in your well-being matter just as much as the person you're caring and so that's how I cannot stress the trauma but how do you dress your own from Lord first and almost broke.

No cliché is but no that's actually what I do know why I take my cares to him first and foremost and then you know you got me through the Holy Spirit to those who can, you know, help directly even further. But yet, first and foremost is always to the Lord married been married for 19 years. Why and and you know sometimes that when I'm having trouble with their United States and create masks. I say that you say that marriage can create some drama. Is that what you tell me Carlos is understand that you know what you know it's not a perfect union and we going to have a growing relationship and that's a beautiful part of but you know I Lord John that you don't tell me how to deal you know whatever the situation would be is manifest my wife that she does have some health conditions so I got in that respect, I am a caregiver.

She is ending and has rheumatoid arthritis, and in about been with her you know about. She got in the wood loop is what you told me about it really quick and she asked me a question when I was when Apple put before proposed will be recording and she said Smith and I could tell God to show me no man could not believe that the Holy Spirit would've been able to get me something you're not gonna be a good deal.

You know, but thank God he told Madden for domestic heart you know this is the question we asked our Savior. You still want us with all this mess and our Savior. I said yes and so that that your motto when I watch it. What you do some for me. Carlos would you do would you do so this woman that you work with.

It's a caregiver that you you know you you ask about her next time you talk to her ask about her car and if the cars everything is working on a car okay our tires do they need to be rotated and balanced. She had oil change lately anything like that if she's had to do a lot of these things by herself. Just ask Versed, is everything okay with your car. You don't cannot cannot run it by the service station for you get the oil changed or something like that just to make sure cars when sometimes something that simple can be a way that brings such a huge help to a caregiver and that's a great weight that's regret it doesn't does it cost really anything you know if there's something big mechanical wrong with that. You don't it's not your specimen to pay for but ask about it to make sure she's driving safely on the road back and forth due to doctors or whatever she's doing and that's a great way to serve and an Carlos I just makes me John just grateful that you're in the audience.

So thank you for for list and thank you for calling and thank you for get that answer okay okay you're welcome Rob all right. Thank you to and I want to go to Ernie in Mississippi early good morning, how are you feeling well. We lost our own early in Michigan I guess.

So, about that well below starting to list go to Ruby and Mississippi Ruby good morning Ruby how you feeling Ruby doing okay. I'm not a caregiver part in my house but I work at a caregiver with the elderly, yet will someday not good you do this to the facility or do you do this at home I go to go to the home.

I gladly feel. One thing you know, take care of them. Yes, there how you doing in character that yes they can, and are you doing with the Cove in 19 you know what I don't let it get me my mommy home ballot.

You know, I just go for it will you we don't, we gotta be smart about it.

We don't want to be reckless but at the same time we got learn to live with this thing. We can't just hold up and live in a basement somewhere in and got my wife had it. I was diagnosed positive with it but I didn't really get.

I had a cough, but work around horses a lot hey and so and I get a cough every year I've done it for 10 years. I couldn't tell whether was hayfever or it was grown and they they asked me.

So what are you tired, I set up a caregiver for 35 years.

He said well you are.

You do have headaches caregiver for 35 are irritable caregiver for 35 years, kiddo. So what is a car owner caregiver, but but but but evidently I have anybody so I donated plasma and have you have you been to diagnosed positive with this at all yet hadn't been, and I really haven't had any heart you speak about your wife having the but not having. I did earn a paycheck though. I'm glad I'm not the but I keep on working well. I had the plans but I had the other company. This nationwide company that does the convalescent plasma you for that and what they'll take your plasma and the know they'll use that to help because I got the antibodies for the coronavirus. Now I'm up my blood and they'll use it to help others. So II had the communications manager for the entire company of those on the podcast. I asked him I said I look can you track my plasma and see who got it because if if it went to the president. I'd like to know because I'd like to hear the president say that Peter's plasma is the best plasma ever. All the other class was the best class, but no other plans but this been like this is most fantastic plasma ever created this beautiful is fabulous is great. It will get to be winning with more more more.

Peter's plasma, that's what I was hoping to hear she's a week it week. Yet we can't track where your plasma with that that's probably a good thing.

Don't you think Ruby is part will well you're very gracious very gracious on that and I appreciate you called appreciate what you do not look I want you to be safe. Use common sense and and just a deep do you pray over your patience even quietly just by yourself.

Do you just pray pray over him when you when you go to their homes and stuff in the morning when I know really hard and I pray pray for anybody with good appetite doing that and then pray for yourself as you do it and we just were to continue to pray the Lord will protect you. You don't you glove up you mask up you you you do all the things you're supposed to do and you care for these folks and I thank you for what you do. I've got folks that have done that for for my wife and me. Not as much me.

But as for my wife and then for parents and and and I appreciate the risk and I appreciate the heart that you doing just you don't common sense Ruby you know they training common sense and wife I love her thinking okay well will thank you I will Oliver sing into that's out, that's one of the ways that she respects her own traumas that she sings and it allows her spirit just just be free when I tell her all of which she's saying she's not broken and I and I love that and then I think this is the promise of what's coming for us when they were more in his presence. Hey listen, man, Ruby. You're a delight. Thank you for calling. Thank you Rita part of the show and I we got go to break this caregiver dispute Rosenberger will be right dispute Rosenberger.

This is the nation's number one. So for you as a family caregiver 888-589-8840 888-5888 40 part of the show and talk today about respecting the trauma spectrum was that look like to you and do you do you take time to do things in a city care for yourself and I see you have some comments here on our Facebook page. Or you can follow him and hopefully caregiver on Facebook we stream the show live. That would put the podcast out neglect.

The kicker.com, and Ruby was so nice a minute ago to reference Gracie singing and you could also get a copy of Gracie CD in my city, but my CD could download whatever CDs to be streamed or downloaded, or if you want to get the physical copy of neglect or website and show you how to do it. It's very easy to do and Gracie's.

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There's a donate button right there and hopefully caregiver.com will send you copy whatever's on your heart will send you a copy of and you love Gracie CDS is extorting scope, resilient, and she is indeed resilient mind is called Psalms for the caregiver to half of its instrumentals that I'll just play some hymns that mean something to me and I get Gracie to sing a few songs I got supreme singing some things with it and I think you'll find it very meaningful. Put it on there just kinda still the heart of a caregiver. I see some comments that some characters can't take care of themselves. Yes, they can't. It may not be everything we want, but that doesn't mean we can't do something we have to do something to care for ourselves. We are not doing ourselves or our loved ones a favor if we don't, and we may not be able to have the, the, the surgery that we want to have at the time, we want to have it.

We may not be able to do certain things. You know I write out.

I should've had the surgery on my knee a little bit earlier but I gotta do what I gotta do, but if I can't walk I can't care for acute care than this whole thing falls apart and and therefore not being careful with ourselves and respecting the trauma that we deal with physically and emotionally. So it would better diet.

Do you respect the trauma that you live with this caregiver by changing the way you eat now I'm I know I'm gone.

I just heard from preaching to meddling with part of that is as we gotta ask yourself what are we putting in her body does it contribute to cholesterol is a contributor blood pressure to the blood pressure doesn't contribute to weight gain.

This it contribute to all these things that could hurt us and can we back off on some of these things are not asking you to just go stark raving mad on this thing. I'm just asking you. Can we start making incremental changes in the way we eat the what do we do we pick up a sugary drink or do we drink the water we drink enough water. Do we respect the trauma of what's going on her body, but taking care of her body.

Do we respect the trauma of what's going on are sold by learning to be still less of a play that song a minute ago so I did my CD. It's it it's Psalms for the caregiver because I wanted to be able to give a place for caregivers is 50+ minutes of you just being able to be still and listen in. If you fall asleep while listening to my CD, great. If you start crying great weeper sleep.

I don't care either way it's going to be healing for you and it respects the trauma and I put on their songs that mean something to us as caregivers. I need thee every hour balm in Gilead waiting here Gracie saying balm in Gilead. I've never heard anybody sing it like she has in this song is a favorite hymn of my father's and it really defines his entire ministry. There is a balm in Gilead to heal the wounded soul to heal a bit to debate the wounded hole to heal the sin sick soul and it's a lament of us of a place in pain and and Gracie lives with pain all the time and she sang it from that place to sit on and played it with her. She didn't laughed at the track which means boom. She just laid it down and cut it for those you know anything about the music business. That's what real talent looks like and that the engineer was working on with me's great friend of mine's Grammy award-winning look to be had tears in his eyes. He said well those who can do and she just nailed it. When you hear it and and let it sooth you let it.

Respect the trauma. That's how you respect the trauma that your in your soul is traumatized as a caregiver. If it's not give it time is it will be if you been a caregiver for 13 minutes. Okay, maybe you make a case but when you do this thing for years. In my case now dedicates you have to understand the trauma that is happening to you and respected Scripture respected that this man had been sick for a long time 38 years. He been lain by that pool. It was in Scripture, said it was a long time. Jesus knew he been there a long time. Okay that's respecting what happened to this man. One of the reasons we do this show is because I respect the trauma of what happens to fellow caregivers to each of us and when I went to American family radio with the concept of doing the show.

This was this was the discussion of understanding the trauma that you are having as a caregiver.

That's why we get the calls that we get.

That's why we have the reach that we have because finally somebody is saying to caregivers. I respect your trauma. More importantly, God respects it, and here's what he says about it. Here's the path towards letting healing touch those places. Some things are going to be fixed. The set have you and I both know that anybody tells you different. Selling something there some things that were just go to groan with while were on this earth. That's the truth. And if it in and I look at some these people out there that are making a awful lot of money selling basically what I call snake oil to people who are desperate and III didn't I do not ever doubt the healing power of Christ ever.

But I also know that this whole world is groaning in anticipation of God restoring all of this and he will but some things he's going to allow to endure throughout this lifetime, but he promises that he will be with this through it and he respects your trauma.

Any offers. That's why the Holy Spirit came in the first place, the comforter has come they didn't doubt it. Do you see how that connects now, why do you send a comforter of people don't need comfort but we do as caregivers, we do drop Bertie or Bertie got dropped earlier from Michigan buddies with us right now burning, good morning. I'm sorry we got the call dropped, how you doing great, great, how are you today you know I've done a minimal inventory. Bertie, I think most of these okay I got you a little brother. You are younger than me. Well yeah but I got a lot of mileage on the Bertie and they're not interstate mouse violent tire that only two years but anyway that's all I go ahead, tell me what's going on with your heart and mind. My brother, I really really appreciate your this program because it brings comfort that somebody is like I get it and I know what you're going through and we will try a little bit. My sorry arms, son got a not traumatic brain injury and he was going back to college. Christian college and not look kindly on the frontier school Bible. I put a plug in for them this awesome school but anyways it is an awesome yeah he he was beat up really bad they didn't expect him to live and we had to rush hour drive down the hospital there. About halfway there from Michigan here and just amazing things happen one thing after another, but he wasn't expected to live to where now he graduated and he's working at the PTA and anyway for the last 10 years.

This is all we've been doing is helping and caring for him and they prescribed that both of us have my wife and I have PTSD cosmetic stress syndrome and edit something that's very difficult to deal with nobody I thought that for a long time.

I can't tell you there's any kind of diagnosis that, but I have's purported on the show and said many times that caregivers live with a some level, some type of PTSD. A lot of us it's PSD there's no post because were still doing it but caregiving doesn't stop at the grave.

You know that the distress writer so I'm glad you brought that up. Thank you for bringing that up. I have a lesser place in my heart for for folks with family members of TBI's I've spoken to TBI conferences and so forth. And when you're dealing with a traumatic brain injury. It is a is a unique challenge all of its own. It doesn't mean that it's worse or better than or or easier or harder than anything else is just it's different and it does calls an enormous strain on the family.

Talk about respecting your trauma as as a caregiver for traumatic brain patient talk about them or well motivated like like were at the post and I meet you now finally moved out. Just recently, and eat on his own and you know were supporting him spell but it is failing up being a lot like you don't know what to do it yourself because this whole time.

You have been ill, concentrating all your energy and effort on making this the boy well and then now he finally at the point where he is, he's on it on now anyway. Do you know it's a weird feeling in and and then feeling that I felt safe and secure at home working with him.

Now I gotta go back and get involved in my church again and I got it out now. This is the overwhelming stuff that normally before was like what sing in church. No big deal. Now it's like, oh my word I sing in church know you I get I get really exaggerated and it's very very difficult to overcome those those feelings and you get the Armenian I think I guide, where will I get that. It's like the most simple task is amplified yeah and the noises really loud. I'd like to do.

I got a whole bunch of calls I want to get get to about what I feel bad when I can't get ~I want to do something for you Bernie. I want to put you on hold.

I'm sorry we got the call drop. Can I send you a copy of my CD Psalms for the caregiver and and as you listen to it. Would you just sit in the chair and just let me play for you and help settle some of those nerves down a little bit which would you allow me to do that when you just said that to you and and just if you go to sleep while listening to me play in gracing there's no greater honor. But if it allows you and your wife to week through it.

That's even better because it cleanses that I think you will settle some of those those nerves down a little bit in the and and and and it'll help lower the noise level that does that make sense but don't struggle to trust God when lousy things happen to you. I'm Gracie Rosenberger in 1983 I experienced a horrific car accident leading 80 surgeries in both legs and became I questioned why God allowed something so brutal to happen to me. But over time, my questions changed and I discovered courage to trust God that understanding along with an appreciation for quality prosthetic limbs led me to establish standing with help more than a dozen years we been working with the government of Ghana and West Africa, equipping and training local workers to build and maintain quality prosthetic limbs for their own people on a regular basis. We purchased ship equipment and supplies and with the help of inmates in a Tennessee prison. We also recycle parts from donated lambs. All this is to point others to Christ. The source of my help and strength, please visit standing with help.com to learn more and participate in lifting others that standing without.com.

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It's a very special CD that you will love and it will strengthen you and encourage you to inspire you and bless you and the girl can really sing and like I said when she sings she never and something happens her spirit just flies and it's it's it it and I accompany her on most of this and and is just such a treat to watch her do it and I'm sorry about the way we get that we we ran out of the break there with Bernie, but we got his information. Consider him a copy of my CD Psalms for the caregiver which I specifically did to help calm the nerves and quiet, the noise for fellow caregivers and I know people who have patients with dementia who get real agitated and the play that CD just Dale just loop it and it just keeps them, it just helps them stay calm. That's why didn't these hymns are around for reason I'm a big fan of the hymns of the church. I studied piano to play the piano Success. Five. A guy I grew up. I remember my mother holding the hymnal when I was a little boy and I could make out the staves in the notes but I couldn't read so I could read the text of it, but I can read that the music of it, but I learned how to play through the hymnal hymnal and you know when you go to through these difficult times in your life. The hymns of our church. These great hymns of the faith there. The things that you want to hear. And it's staining and I played them in a way that that's like a guy who's watched a woman suffer for several decades. Is this what I've done and and so I think you'll you'll find a very meaningful and you can get that good CD as well. I'm not trying to just talk about merchandise, but I did the stuff for caregivers. I it's it. Everything I do is for people in trauma who are hurting and I want to give you something and and for burning. It is such a pleasure to sit in the CD because I know that he does wife that would you deal with TBI and those of you who are in the trip, traumatic brain injury world that you live there you understand it. It is traumatic for everybody and your nerves are just Rall and Bernie. I just want you to know I'm sorry we had to rush to the break there, but I want you to know how meaningful your call was and how much I respect your trauma and and I and I'm I want to hear back from.

I believe that you found great comfort in listening to this CD that'll just calm your heart and and allow you to to come to get back in that group because I want you to sing in church.

I want you to get back to those things and do as much as you can. But I also understand that your nerves are just Rall and you and your wife both in and I get that I truly truly get that I'm going to go real quick of just going to try to get as many calls it as I can. Ariel and Oklahoma you been waiting a long time aerial. Thank you so much for waiting. How you feel and I you know of for everything from from all accounts. I think I'm doing okay. They have a call. They haven't sent a truck to get me yet. So tell me what's on your heart and mind. Well, Glenn answered because we need a reminder get the question what was the name of the pool where Jesus went with this guy was hanging out.

Some people didn't start off at the begin of the show so they may just become a wit attribute was what was the name of the pool and said he been there for 38 years in the Scriptures that he been there a long time. Jesus knew that he been a long time. He respected the journey of this man, what was the name of that pool. Ariel Bethesda great answer that was a great answer. Thank you so much for sharing that.

What else is on your heart, where I so REL and named it Danny turned 10 years old couple weeks ago and not that this young life… I thought he blew through puberty pretty quickly. I heard your voice and manic kids growing up fast. They really do grow up faster, but tell me your name, sir. W.

My name is Kevin and Kevin how are you feeling I was actually planning on going to bed at 7 o'clock but this young man came walking in the living room and he is a radio and AFR you know it normally is in a negative retirement junkie, but you can find that they clip somebody for five seconds and he can tell you their name and like what I'm there on the day tell me his name gets visited, Ariel is.

It is is what is his name and pronounce it REL a man REL really difficult. McKennon America everybody get Dan Ariel and so when they look in his name I think of that, but you can think of kenaf that I dislike the letters REL Matta. This young man you know they can I caregiving. I mean he let them pick out everything and I banner on harming where you no harvest dinner plantain at all hours of the day or the nine the canal what's going on in and I heard you and mostly in the last year or so and then caught some of the programs were you're interviewing Jeff Foxworthy or Shanda bears some neat things and remember what I was doing even when you're interviewing them and not really have a respect for for this particular life of one of my best friend that while my wife was pregnant with REL in Georgia.

We were at a ministry there and this man grew up Line he had last had a successful business admin in the Navy. His wife that he had three children with and who is a nurse came up with pics that these really rare disease and aging and growing up Catholic. He went to them that he had heard of a miracle prayer that they pray for a miracle and he went to an end to have them pray that Annie wasn't really involved much in the church they would go but weren't really involved in the day and I had one grandchild out at the time. I believe in so that he went to get you go doggedly to the bottom of the story here because I'm running out of time and I don't want to cut you off the got all the way to the bottom of the stories you could yeah so this brother wound his wife turn to be a vegetable.

Basically she neared it he had three children, whether in a grandchild and she progressed all the way when we met on.

She was still walking, but the next year she actually was an end. So we stayed in touch even though they were living out of their motorhome and things understand him go through that and being the veteran Hammond and her passing actually when REI was in the hospital on on life support in ICU and in so I actually relating that that morning and the journey. And we've been around enough people did last year, a single mom had lost her three children that a misunderstanding came and her children were taken away and another coworker a good friend of mine and he had his two children taken away and been through those battles with them. Thank God they both got nerves back, but it's amazing he called me on this day because I really respect your journey been through and how you graciously walk. In the making. Your life will graciously's gracious to say graciously we walk through it blood he beat nothing and with a lot of bandages and so forth. A lot of paramedics taken around this listen I got a run, but you tell that young man that he is being nurtured and grown up with the knowledge of the Lord. You're doing a great job with you thank him for knowing that for us and thank you for letting us just have the pleasure of meeting him.

I've got to run but I do appreciate the call and appreciate what you guys are doing and appreciate that you listen to AFR into the show. Okay. And some things hard to cut off but I got a run also want to give a quick shout out to a lady in Brazil who's listening today silver and I and I told her I would talk to Sylvia and her uncle struggling with something very serious and they reached out to us through our prosthetic limb program. We have Gracie lost her legs. We started staining with hope and stay with hope you've heard her story on the show we help provide prosthetic legs to amputees we been working in the country of Ghana with Donovan other countries, but we have to work within that system, but we will we recycle use prosthetic limbs and they they go to a prison in Arizona where inmates will help us disassemble the parts that can be recycled and will purchase new material will work with process. We trained him and worked with them over in West Africa for 15 years and she's working with her uncle right now is very sick in Brazil and I just inches listing of AFR. That's the beauty of AFR is that it's worldwide and so I just want you to know Sylvia that we we are lifting you guys up in prayer.

We know this is a very serious situation and not asked for this AFR audience. Is this a spraying audience to lift Sylvia and her family up in prayer and in Sylvia look through the through just listing all over online through AFR.net were able to be connected in this thing and I will and thank you for the updates on your family real quick about us squeeze in a call with Mike and Virginia Mike only got like about a minute, I'm sorry to do that to you, but how you feeling real well, well, we got we got about 20 seconds. Is there something you want to say real quick. Oh, I know I get credit for my wife live.

Pray for her situation she had written and here so caregiving is for me and I really didn't many meals for you there now and you can do to this the show. Give us a shot call back early next week of the show will talk about all this. If you do that okay call back and we can shut out. It will will put you in their first this is Peter Rosenberger.

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