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It's the start of a new year and so you want to do differently in the coming 12 Dr. Kevin Lehman can help you lose weight. I can go figure 3 x 5 card. Put your weight on your name posted that work in the break room. The back of the church any public place is a nervous laugh. The audience doesn't seem to be really grabbing visit and neither my and that this is Focus on the Family and John Fuller and your host is focus.
President Jim Daly already refusing to take good advice of Dr. Kevin Lee, but all right for those of you who react the same way as I did that, don't worry, this is not a whitewash show. Unless of course that's what you'd like to change in the coming year about yourself that we've got a great presentation.
Dr. Kevin Lehman that we'd like to share with you today and it's based on his book have a new you by Friday. How to accept yourself, your confidence and change your life in five days.
Sounds too good to be true and not say what this is a very encouraging message as we start the new year.
You'll appreciate the great insights that Dr. Lehman offers he is one of our most popular and frequent broadcast gas. He's the author of over 40 books on topics like the impact of birth order and tips for great marriage and what he calls reality discipline principles for kids and that he and his wife Sandy have five grown children several grandchildren in here now is Dr. Kevin Lehman speaking at victory worship Center in Tucson Arizona on today's Focus on the Family covered another plan. Astronomy is really so I'm not smart enough to past astronomers got with mouth or my daughter brought her homework, paper, math. I looked at him when they start using letters. They just discovered a new planet and it's 5.1 trillion miles from Earth who can fathom what that is in this planet have its own some.
I'm so stupid. I didn't know her other songs. I just love those of some warm how big is your God. Sometimes I think were guilty all just plasticizer to logon on Sunday at 911 Wednesday at seven. Give the Uganda trip and thought God is such an awesome God in Scripture says he knows the number here is for some of you made it easier for God knows when the sparrow falls. I think most of us are clueless. We think about the majesty and the depth of what God is all about. And here I am at 60 talk about Dr. Zane before he came on this and you know is come over this morning was at five thought purchased, reminding myself about. I want to finish strong 69 years of age.
I got new Dragon hang around a long time no I want to finish strong. I want to be the best I can be the want to be perfect. No, I'm not far from perfect. I are still people flaunt your imperfection. I think that's when you really begin the touch someone's life. So anyway, I thought about what I talked about how I have a new you by Friday.
That's a book I did you would like to change something about your life like to see a show of hands on okay now for those of us who got a few too many pounds on you know you want to lose weight.
I can lose weight 3 x 5 card. Put your weight on it in your name and post it at work in the break room in the back of the church any public place, but just promise me you'll change that every week and you will lose weight. How you lose weight.
That's up to you, miss you anything about you all lose weight differently. But you see what has to happen has to be what a commitment so I thought I'd share just a few points of the little book called you by Friday. I say in the book. The book on a caused hundred $99 because people will spend an enormous amount of money go see a shrink in all the shrink arranges the easy 59 payment plan and years later you have change behavior. Now number one I'm not trying to put on any of us in the helping professions.
I was in private practice for 35 years and also told people.
I walked in the door if you're looking for someone to hold underhand for the rest your life or the wrong place. If you're looking for someone to help get you a jumpstart on your guy. Let's get going. You tell me why you hear so again there's sort of a synapse that has to happen where you begin to think about what you want to change it. Now you have to begin to do things differently now little autobiographical, but some of you know my story I graduated from high school fourth in my class. The bad part was was for the bottom and not for the top and one my vivid memories of childhood growing up in a place called Williamsville, New York, was being in an elementary school and being in the reading groups we have now again I grew up in politically incorrect America felt okay.
I may we know where we belong. They had the red birds the bluebird yellow Bird. I was a crow. We know we were okay. We will why was a slow reader slow learner.
I was a September 1 baby so I got in the late and I'm a proponent, always have been older kids back to your especially those boys who don't grow up spouses little girl anyway, long story short, I didn't do a lick in school as a senior in high school I was thinking consumers mathematics that's Nancy want to the store to buy four apples came home with $0.50 change how the dollar was her how much were the apples that was final exam stuff is going nowhere.
I apply to colleges and universities.
You never heard of the count of the night school at University of Buffalo is called the Millard Fillmore school night school where they give you six units they turned me down.
Our church denominational school, which my mother dragged me through it too was a kid turned me down even sent them Scripture about forgiveness, they were unimpressed but I mean I was going nowhere in life. And yet I look back in my life and I think about while what my life. Well, if you look at that family zoo that you grew up in that little family abrupt and thereby think about the family they grew up. Think about the firstborn and the family was a firstborn like was the second born line is a night and day different people, by the way, it's interesting how all these old cobs could come out the same damn and end up being different. That's the majesty of how God created us, even identical twins you know they got the same DNA are genetically the same person but God gave them what different fingerprints why to help the FBI or or was this God's way of saying you are my son you are my daughter. You are different than everybody else what I grew up in a family zoo. I had a sister Sally who is perfect. I have my brother Jack was John Junior retired clinical psychologist. By the way Of the football team voted best looking in all stupid things is to do years ago and it was me now in your family. You will learn lies about yourself. Just like Kevin Raymond and the lie that I told myself what the successful ones aluminum family was sister Sally brother Jack and see you are influenced you are a you are a product of the environment you grew up in, and some you women by the way, had daddies who didn't affirm you who didn't love you. In fact, some of the women that daddies who abused you, or an uncle or brother never quite gotten over that yet one euro struggles in life is identifying the loving heavenly father and you will auto your way to sabotage yourself to put yourself down.
That's why some of you today are procrastinators and don't realize it. You come to your office. I'll see the piles on your desk and someone comes and asked you to find something in those files, you know exactly which powder looking because there's order within the disorder. One of the reasons why you don't complete things in your procrastinators you go through life like this so timidly you're afraid to be criticized fail to see that come from the critical eye of the parent that you grew up with and aren't you glad you worship a God of grace today doesn't have the critical live who sees he was in some perfect little person. Lots of times I use the example in churches all the time about parents and grandparents. Your pictures on the refrigerator that little kids didn't get pictures little kids drew on the refrigerator right now me that is a question on the pictures any good 11 g of blood. I would think about my precious my little son, my grandson Timothy do that picture that airplane right there for his Grammy now. I talked to Timothy that the dinosaur was still precious was a that's how God sees you and me is little imperfect pictures that don't have everything altogether. But guess what he loves us anyway. Nothing separate. Romans 839 28. The pastor later someone in the book of Romans says nothing separate you from the love of Christ mothers him to put in your pocket today that he loves you despite your stupidity. I mean we are so stupid some days which is dumber than others, but you know I look back at that life. I look at the private logic and see everybody has a private luncheon. I only count life and I'm perfect when I'm right when I'm the boss on the blank on your bike only count life one I get people's attention to that was music you why go to New York and do those shows as soon as I sit down on a chair the anchors as a Lehman.
Let me see your socks is always where wild socks. I look back at so you know what that's in aftermath of what I grew up with because he attention getters in our family in a positive way was sister and brother and there's me so I believe the lie again that they were the successful ones in life until I met Jesus and see. And then he gave me that motivation to go on and do what I did in life. If so, how many of you are reaching your potential because you try in the lie but you're not good enough because of the things that happened to you in life.
You see what I'm saying none of this is rocket science. By the way, so you know we sing that song in the church. I surrender all, you know, oh Lord. Now you got my life. Now let me be. And that's how you live your life.
This novel God wants for you.
He wants you to be victorious.
He wanted to win that national championship and that what I've learned is that little boy little girl you once were you still are in that little book, the way the wiser comes out in February.
I got a chapter in her Lord you're the Potter and on the client but I do have a few suggestions and see there's the battle for each of us. Yeah. Lord, I want to I want you know I'm yours all 94%. I just want dominion over this little 6% versus 6% that we hold back on. If you are aware, your faith is take a look at your checkbook take an awful lot about where your where your heart is just for fun with everybody to just humor me for second point at yourself, point yourself, but now wonder of your pointer throat or your heart okay looking around to see what we point the point your heart my friend Chuck Swindoll went into 1/7 grade boy Sunday school class.
He asked this question to the boy.
Boys once agreement says ribbon kid said nothing, Jimmy was green Pontiac is well. I think is a fraud, but also Jesus is the only times in churches, you know, we just get these kids in dollars Road stuff about they got to know they got to see it in your life. They gotta go out on their own and learn what the Christian walk is on about what you think about what you like to change your life.
Here's the kicker, you have to feel like changing yourself to start changing it out today Sunday NFL you watch a ballgame to guarantee. This happens almost every play of the pros quarterback comes to the line of scrimmage like this is about to get the ball. He always looked left, look right you look over the defense okay. I lots of times and say oh I see what they're into. I want to change the play while the NFL moves very quickly. Just like college ball.he doesn't have time to go back into the huddle and say hey fellas, listen, I was thinking about this big sucker over that big 280 found offensive and I'm sick of him, for will short pass over here green pass. No, that's not how it works. So he comes a he says I want to change the plan.
So instead of running into Brutus over here. I might throw little bubble pass over here on the left side and he shouts out some numbers. Everybody knows the play is changed. Now do you increase the problem as assessed by doing that, yes, that's what they do but seek your the quarterback in your life.
A social situation with her sister-in-law who has bad breath and you don't like her. I always give you a cheap shot.
You know she's always just plainly one-upsmanship on you. And there she is again to give you this stupid idea of how to do the salad differently than what you're doing you have a choice. What is old self to think about it okay now this big blogger because I'm happy Thanksgiving.
Okay or we got the new me to do things differently while wow what an awesome idea. I even allow you to think you idiot as your smiling, but began to behave differently begin to behave differently in time that fake smile will work its way down here. The heart point yourself right here seek that's what has to happen. That's where the interchange takes place, and so can you be a better person you can be a better person to be a better Christian know you really can love God with all your heart, you don't.
But his holy words or something downright profound is as if you know if you are lukewarm about me and what I might do. I'm in a spiritual out my life. I just love that whole thing know some of you are hung up on perfect.
Don't get hung up, I mean perfect just worship the perfect one, the perfect one is Jesus always say trust God. All others pay cash. I would suggest you that behavior change does not take long list of this I hate to redo memory.
This quickly.
A lady says this is from the book. I have a new kid by Friday and she says dear Dr. Lehman thanks for the seminars you taught last week in a Dallas, Texas. Thanks so much for the practical, easy to implement ideas. I put them in a practice almost immediately after the talk on Monday morning I gathered up my three children, ages six, four and three and started home which is about 30 minutes away. Since it was lunch time I decide to stop at McDonald's to eat while wedding aligned order my four-year-old starter winding entitling. I told her leaving.
As I walked toward the exit without any food. All of my three lovely children started screaming, crying, jumping up and down, etc. people are looking at us like we're a bunch of lunatics I love them in the van and started home now continued screaming and crying so I turned the radio on. As long as it would go the oldest and youngest finally quieted down. But, before-year-old continued to pitch a fit. We arrived home. I didn't say a word, just picked up them out of the car walked in the house went straight to the back door.
I put her outside and locked the door. She continued crying for another 10 or 15 minutes where I proceeded to fix lunch. Once you quieted down a letter and have lunch and all three of my children behave quite well the rest of her afternoon.
My husband and I attended the Monday night session as well. Emma used to be a good sleeper, but a switch was flipped. When she turned to bedtimes been our battleground for two years and I noticed two years of trying to get it did that is crazy, which I just about everything you think of to get a ghostly bona fide only try the isolation technique was usually paired with talking lecture yelling, etc. as we listen to her screaming in a room that night after the session I looked at my husband and said I think I want to put her outside, he replied with, I think will help you to send.
We went upstairs and without saying a word.
I pride Emma's fingers from her covers and carried her kicking and screaming down the back door. Jim began screaming. I want a spanking. I want to spanking.
I want to spanking. Don't let me outside.
I centered on outside close the door and locked it within 10 seconds listening within 10 seconds okay, I heard three little knocks at the door, followed by a very compromising mommy start my crying when I open the door, she headed upstairs awaiting her peep out of the rest of the night Say my husband and I were made. Now, how long does it take to affect behavioral change in a kids life.
One of the parents to took action. There were decisive.
Those of you have powerful little kids never taken the preschool or taking the kindergartner Sunday school and and only me mommy and her hanging on you know you got up your mouth like Velcro well.
The longer you sit there and try to reassure your child everything is going to be okay. The more intense gets all the crying dropped the little sucker off leave okay.
Just remember to pick him up. Okay, don't forget, but you don't. Once you leave one of the teachers it was she was fine. If you see this the decision you make in your drawers out there feel like you made your decision but you know you have to make a decision. Something struggled for years you set this church for years. Your parents is that this church for years you were here when Pastor Virgil was here years ago that you've never really turned your life over.
You got all I had knowledge of the world that one thing you did lady that one thing you did young man or old man, but you never confess to anybody that's what's keeping you from perfect peace with your maker. Turn out over the God, is he the God of the universe is either one that spoke this universe into existence. Is he the one that knew to put that Earth's axis in exactly 23 1/2° because one the greatest ragweed for I am going level 1° does every phrase and could live is only seven years are not. If he is that he can help you through the storm well get storms.
The promises through the storm. I am with you always, even to the end of time.
The kind of birth and I love the accounts of Jesus will receive a humanness these out to see these tire is in the boat is taken a few Z's's take a little nap in a storm comes up and they wake him up. They wake him up. I got news for you. Jesus is called these angry to see him sleep as well with you. What's the problem all storm I got back to sleep. He goes to trust him for all things God, said, I'll believe it when I see nail prints in his what is Jesus say to Thomas about take a look, but follow for the person who believes and hasn't seen it.
There's a believer.
Those disciples I talked about this so many times. I love them because they're dumb as mod. They didn't get it after the time Jesus came out of the tomb there there hovered behind closed door. I love this picture there hovering together there in fear of their very life because they were seated with Jesus, the one who just died on that cross and all of a sudden in their midst. Jesus in the flesh. I'm telling you they have the surprise of a lifetime. They begin to put together in their minds what Jesus said in three days I'll build up distant wall God is who he said he is. Why did he appear so many different times of so many people 500 a one time how many different times of the appear the ladies and always different people.
After that, though I think so he knows how difficult it is for some, but that God spoke this universe is the God we worship whatever your storming life is friends I don't care what it is he is able, through his grace to meet you where you're at today allow Lord okay. I am yours. I'm often at the 98% doesn't cut it is a jealous God wants all of your heart so you never report that over to today be a great day to come clean and see what he has in store for this truly is an awesome. He loves you and I as we that's on everything heavenly on focus and Emily from the content of his book Avenue you by Friday. John and I so appreciate Kevin's perspective, especially for the new year. This is such a great time to start fresh and make a positive change in your life and like Kevin said, don't get hung up on being perfect, just worship the perfect one and you know what John if we are focusing on the Lord, especially by reading his word, the Bible every day. We will pick up those character traits that will change our lives have seen research that indicates that interacting with the Scripture four times we can make a life change. Of course they can be reading the Bible or listening to it going through Scripture on your phone and there are some e-waste to be reminded of who God is and what he wants from us today. And as we said before here at Focus on the Family we want to give you that firm foundation of faith in Jesus Christ.
That's job one and then help you with your marriage and your parenting challenges as well, but that faith is the most important thing and here's some exciting news. We have survey numbers that show that in the last year we've helped more than 800 people each and every day make the most important decision of their lives committing or recommitting to Jesus as their Lord and Savior.
That's what were all about that's over 300,000 people in the last 12 months and I'm thrilled with that number and it's your financial support that makes it possible for us to have a dedicated staff to answer those calls and participate in those prayers.
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