Encouragement for the Single Life

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It's an online community with almost every episode ever. The Focus on the Family clubhouse magazine subscription. A auto club.org/radio single. It can be easy to get discouraged, especially if you been single for a number of years and today on Focus on the Family. Our guest Cheryl Martin has some great encouragement in my heart just think you're going to give me your best bet means a man or no man how Cheryl got to that point of trusting God on today's episode of Focus on the Family your hostess focus presidents and Dr. Jim Daly and I'm John Fuller, John.

We often hear from older singles in her audience saying, don't forget about us.

There's a lot of us out here. Well, today we have inspiration for you whether your widow divorced or never married, and Cheryl has a lot to say. So we'll get right to her message. That's right.

Cheryl is a former national news anchor, and she's the host of the excellent living broadcast in the good news anchor feature on YouTube and she's written an excellent book on this topic called first class single and the link is in the episode notes here now is Cheryl Martin speaking at a women's conference, a number of years ago on focus on circumstances memo desire to be married.

As we talked about the heart because we are starving for emotional services, personal and there is no wrong with you anytime were not in your mind want to enjoy. Think about this single one day long. Be single. Your child should be first class leading you single looks like language, so the result of studying his word going to my own life experiences and the experiences of others, which simply supports our practical. For example, potential that you yourself that you like me work with names and then you wonder he wants a job in the morning.

One today when I leave work for a woman to be not only single but successful and satisfied God's leading lady who is single will first of all pursue God and not a guy that I was talking about that you that only he could feel a relationship with the relationship with a man.when we meet a man dishing that you God present all you hold.you you you you are wonderfully many you first and foremost about me you will create a needy women looking for a man what is so important for women to be when Jesus was here people needy woman in Samaria she ever you drink me, me think of me service relationship is a jealous God.

No hard but God with all your heart, all all needy in my life. That's why my soul can just relationship reject relationship with God. My I came home terribly last I called my mother she was ready for two aspirin and stop the relationship.

A few more weeks while he was affirming me things I had just come out of rejection string relationship with the Lord as I always wrong with this picture. I'm glad you and he will tell you needy needy spend more time with me me me you as you spend time drinking and feel number two God's leading lady will not her singleness is not an opportunity to be the successful woman God wants you to be. This is a perfect opportunity for you to develop God balance educationally, socially, physically and spiritually. Dreams are they to work them to get that degree. If you in the present knives want to be all you want me to be you stretch it are be all. If you want to travel abroad is the time to do it if you want to get that degree to do it is not a mistake you and reading the word the matchmaker you look at some of the greatest of the book of the Bible is a working agreement.

No longer was a widow but they had pursued God first and it just so God the man I love this story. She she was no longer what she did have what she did all of what we don't have my this moment… Forget very so you want me single sleep that day. She is a divine connection with which he was working where she wants to miss my package because I wasn't doing what God called me to do so number two but it's a wonderful time to develop to be all that God wants you to do. Number three first class single God's leading lady is going to honor him. She sat boundaries before she meets Mr. Wright so you know what you're about to meet the man you know your boundaries. You set the boundaries see when they went to figure out how far you going to go. You know sex is off limits until I videos and listen to the love song doing exceptional should understand that God disobeyed to get understand that God denies something it's more sexy I said number one pursue God and not a God number two. Your singleness is not a mistake number three you're going to God with your day.

Number four as God's leading leading you will not be paralyzed by your past. Maybe in a sexually active single maybe children out of wedlock. Maybe you had abortions. Maybe you have that other woman got some good and I'm excited about this news. God still has a great plan for your life so you can get over what you've done children you have God still has a plan for you because Jeremiah wants both for you and your mother's will. Part think about the God we serve. Before you were even conceived. Stop telling you he already carted out your assignment blunders.

My plans for you are cool is written, you will not need you all will each day getting stronger going to the Lord, make me a whole. You have validated me. I know why you and then finally number five sheets God to give her his best in his time sheet. She's I am going to trust God in his own timing when to give me what he deems best and may not be what I want the script that I have been good for me. Yes it is humbled me made sensitive and caring and more Christlike because not been crushed, and the only thing I have to depend on is Jesus God anything without purpose. There is a reason for it. We agenda God has another you forget your reputation thing to conform you into my soul.

This woman waits on God about he's going to do it to you to give me your best and he's the ultimate matchmaker, but do you trust him. Do you really trust God with your dream with your deep longing. You know what best for you know you only leave you can give us some time uniquely crafted for what he's called us to do because is all about his purposes. Purpose in your heart of every single woman walked out of the Lord. Maybe I didn't get it right.

I haven't gotten it right.

But I want to be a first class single God's leading lady is a single reprioritizing pursue that relationship and say Lord I'm not holding this area. Feel me up here it's okay purpose to honor him in your dating you want me to accomplish.

Right now in my career plan.

I'm going to be busy couple years of been the most ground years of my life. I deliriously happy and full of joy and excited, something that doesn't work before brought it to you joy and excitement about what he's doing what Scripture said to do exceeding abundantly above all, we were just trying to do it his way or my commitment to these principles again. Just the other day.

You remind yourself sometimes us is Lord. I just want to reaffirm my trustee. No matter what it looks like I lost what I know about you that you are trustworthy, that you cannot lie that all your ways all right and I reaffirmed in my heart just the other day.

Lord I trust that you're going to give me your best even if that means a man or know me marriage singleness forever. Whatever pleases you single been to wish I were not challenging to join with me and other women that you can be accountable to who are on the same page will be first class together sister to sister with other women.

You can say to someone, these are my boundaries and to him about that means you're serious about not leaving yourself and if you do these five things I can guarantee that you will be for the next chapter of your life.

God bless great presentation on Focus on the Family and as you said a minute ago. The real question is, God can I trust you in this message. We have to believe that God has a plan for each of our lives and we need to be faithful in our journey regardless of how it plays out, married or single, you know, King Solomon was the wisest man who ever lived. In Proverbs 3 he says this trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding.

In all your ways acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight. That's a great life burst to highlight and memorize and it's our prayer that Cheryl's words have brought some hope and encouragement to our single listeners today and I highly recommend you get a copy of her book called first class single rules for dating and waiting God's way you one reviewer said she couldn't put the book down and stayed up all night to finish it.

Which is pretty high praise. That sure is John and will send that book to you for donation of any amount we just want to get it in your hands. If you're that single or if you have a single friend who needs this content and let me remind you about our own outreach to single skull boundless. It's a website and podcast that encourages single adults to pursue God and not get caught in the cul-de-sac of waiting around for Mr. Mrs. Wright look for when you visit our website and am really grateful for Bella's teams will generally offer some great resources to encourage singles I know people will benefit from it. John, you know the holidays are just around the corner and they can really be difficult for families of all shapes and sizes, including singles who might feel left out in this year those challenges have been magnified by the pandemic.

With more people experiencing isolation and often unemployment but our daily broadcast is here to bring you and others hope every weekday. Even in tumultuous times. In fact, we're reaching over 6 million people each week with this encouraging content and so many more people need that help please make a donation today if you can so we can reach even more people for Christ and right now special friends of this ministry are offering to double your donation dollar for dollar so that your contribution will have twice the impact and you can make your donation and request first class single by Cheryl Martin when you call 800 K and the word family or just follow the link in the episode notes and when you're online with us, you find a number of articles from a boundless team to encourage you as a singer in the next time find out why some people drive you crazy and how to navigate those difficult relationship, we tend to see things from our own lenses and we assume that were right because that's what city I mean if I really believe that I'm right. Like your behalf. Jim Daly in the entire team. Thanks for joining us today for focus on. Please take a moment and give us a rating podcast or wherever you and share about this episode with the single I'm John Fuller inviting you back next time you you and your family thrive in Christ