Anger - Part 2

Today on Fellowship in the Word pastor Bill Gebhardt challenges you to become a fully functioning follower of Jesus Christ. Vengeance is stressed and that's not me from your heart with hate and anger from your speech with all kinds of condemning discomfort and trust mixture.

That's an amazing perspective for us as a believer joining us today on this additional Fellowship in the Word pastor Bill Gebhardt Fellowship in the Words the radio ministry of Fellowship Bible church located in Metairie, Louisiana Pastor Bill Gebhardt now again he shows us how God's word meets our world. I expected more from my wife.

I expected more from my I expect you to act and you don't get it. You get angry and then all you have to be as apparent while if you ever got race all the way someone do a teenager and you think they met every expectation I could ever have I got a patent that's that's amazing is frustrating. It's all part of who we are and we have these unmet expectations. You see I expect I expect to be treated by my government in a certain way. I expect to go to hospital be treated in a certain way when I'm not treated the way I expect.

I get frustrated and I get angry. He said that's what ends up happening. That's when James sat so James goes on. He says you lost and you do not have the watch so you commit murder. What weight is read his writing to a church so I got mad at me to get angry at each other and they started killing each other no no this is hyperbole, but some interesting about this. Who is this James, do you know he's James, the Lord's brother, he is an unbeliever until the resurrection. He does not convert to Christ until the resurrection.

When he saw his brother raising the dead became a believer. He became the lead Elder of the Jerusalem church is a pretty amazing guy and he's writing this and I think when he wrote that he knows it's hyperbole, but I think he remembered something you might run Jesus Christ talking is in the sermon, the Mountie said you see Francis thou shall not murder but I say if you've ever had anger in your heart you are a murderer while you think James might've heard at all those 30 years he spent with Jesus. Yeah, I remember him saying I didn't know what he meant.

You see, and he says so he uses it here uses the hyperbole Jesus Christ as our anger condemns us before God. Just like murder would murder is obviously worse because the ramifications for humans. He said he said you must you do not have. You commit murder.

You are envious cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel. Unmet expectations. He said that's what we get.

That's why we fight. That's why we go through this now. What's interesting about this is a lot of the ways in which we get angry is not the same way God gets angry when he arrived.

It read in the New Testament in Old Testament like is a giving example Psalm 78.

Speaking of God, but he God being compassionate for gave their iniquity. He did not destroy them, and he often restrained his anger and he did not arouse his wrath. God has tremendous patients with human beings. He never flies off the handle and just ask angry over something was done wrong. Exodus 34, six the Lord, the Lord God, compassionate and gracious is very slow to anger and abounding in lovingkindness. You see, we should be long-suffering. Let anger should be a very last thing of a long process that we observe sin. It's never something we should just fly off the handle with and do from that point of view because of righteous anger. Even if you angry about the right thing can turn to evil if it comes out of your human heart and out of your human mouth and what you do with it. So it's wrong to use Ephesians 426 and most of our anger comes out of our own heart. Even with the hyperbole now what that mean listen this part. This part is worth remembering as I get this all the time in counseling when you get angry and I get angry. It's not my mom's not my dad's not my kids.

It's not my wife not my husband not my neighbor not my boss not my government, and would you know where anger came from right here from me. I choose to be angry the answer.

Your anger is not a who to what what is it come from. You see, it will boil boy anyone ever said this to your you never said it every time I get arrived.

That guy I just get so angry so it's that guy's fall. You see, he it's his fault. I would be angry except for him except for them except for that you see you can't use that under the word of God is this comes from your heart. This is you, this is what you do you get angry. Anger is an inside job's not outward and you can't use it quite that way. Now obviously sin should make us angry. That's where it comes on real sin should make us angry. The question would be there when I display my anger. Is it from my heart, or from God will first off you say an unkind word doesn't come, God is see if you don't say a word. It edifies doesn't come from God. If you don't offer them grace doesn't come from God that all come from you that you justifying yourself because you're angry. You see, and that that's what you keep saying it, we should be angry at exactly the right type of thing we give an example does abortion make you angry.

Should it's murdering babies should be angry but so what we do. I just tell his people.

I can't stand them up burn in hell for that. I scream adamant really that's what you should do those words unkind the edifying cannot say that that's your flesh, speaking that's not God speaking.

What I do remember the sooner we can we do is on the West Bank.

What are those ladies do is angry about abortion. Of course they are. That's what I have a ministry. See that's what they do and I just delegate nothing. They welcome all those people in they give up every possibility they have for them to choose to have their baby every one of them.

They love on some of them have chosen abortion and guess what they do, they still love on them you see they still love on them. The whole idea behind it is I want so much for you to come to the position in their overwhelmingly successful of young women who went in there, thinking they would get an abortion who decided to have a baby if you're angry about abortion. That's the kind of thing you want to be involved in yelling and screaming at people see that's that's not righteous anger.

That's human anger from your own flesh so maybe look at it this way next time you get angry, ask yourself this question asks of them. I angry because I didn't get what I wanted, and anything my angry because I did not get what I wanted to see who likes to be disrespected.

Nobody will want respect. Is there ever been anyone. Your life is disrespected you makes me angry is that we have to be so careful almost always in anger. Larson's thing is correct.

It's it it's a frustrated expectation. We have it's not being met.

So we have to be careful using Ephesians 426 to support her anger and we must realize our anger comes out of our own sinful heart. So what should we do about go with me to Colossians chapter 3 Colossians very close to chapter 3 and verse one Colossians 3 verse one Paul starting in the last part of the letter again says this therefore if you have been raised up with Christ and by the way, we all have. That's a first-class condition of assumption. If incense since you been raised up with Christ, keep seeking the things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. Set your mind on the things above, not on the things on the earth, for you have died in your life is hidden in Christ in God. So therefore when Christ who is my life, our life is revealed, then you also will be revealed with him in glory for you and I as a believer.

My life is Christ my life is hidden him my perspective is where he is. That's how I see my light pulses in.

That's the perspective you have to have. He said therefore verse five. Consider the members of your earthly body is dead that were consider means reckon it takes faith to do that please the same argument in Romans. He said how I got sin.

Some might you said you have to reckon yourself dead to sin. In other words, Paul's view is before I came to Christ they sin because I had to now that I'm a Christian. The spirit of God and was me.

I sin because I want to different see that's what he is saying.

He said consider the members he earthly body is dead to immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, agreed that all amounts to idolatry for is because of these things of the wrath of God will one day come upon the sons of disobedience, and in them you once lived when you were living in them. Now here's what he says but now put them all aside anger, wrath, malice, slander, abusive speech from your mouth that word anger is or day normal word limit, paraphrase it loosely.

What is he saying here about anger.

This part steeps and try to listen stop just stop that'll got stop it. We want to know more than me when he uses a Jesus put it aside. That's interesting that's Apple Tiffany and I were means take off your clothes. That's really what it means. Take your anger, your slander at take all that take your clothes off and throw and leave him some forgotten to stop at while he that's it.

Yeah, that's pretty much it. Notice all aside. Anger, wrath, malice, slander, and abusive speech from your mouth that word wrath the stillness literally that were means of fire and straw and resell fire goes and straw pretty fast. What's an example of Loomis. Remember when Jesus went back to Nazareth and he preached NEC is reason I say amigos I have fulfilled it is all about Messiah.

He said I have fulfilled it. We think the response was a Nazareth. How they respond. Let's get up.

They discharge the anyway the mind of the synagogue and went to the edge of a prospectus may want to throw them over.

That's Loomis Patrick H they just reacted in total rage.

He said that's the kind of thing a means but God says look to produce side to stop it.

Stephen Cole writes this, he says well here, Paul seems to say you're angry just stop it. But Paul when I was a child my parents abuse me know. I seethed with anger put it all aside. But Paul, my wife nags me constantly.

I eventually explode in anger put all aside, but Paul my husband's a workaholic to lose all the household and doing with the kids. The meet he so inconsiderate. I'm so angry with them. Put all aside, but Paul my kids asked me and don't do what I say, no matter how many times I asked him to do it.

The only way I can get them to obey is the yellow item put all aside, but Paul, you don't understand my boss at work favors his daughter who works for the company and he treats me terrible. I'm so angry I just hated him put all aside as regards produce one because you can. I'm telling you put aside. Stop it. What should I do one would be when I pray to God about this is a Guenther tells us this well what I pray when I play by the got about member woodcuts in Romans 12 he said, vengeance is mine, I will repay you see that God knows what's Justin what's not just he's a give it to me.

Let me handle this. Don't fill your heart with hate and anger. Don't fill your speech with all kinds of condemning horrible words. Just tell me and trust me, I make sure it's right hand since an amazing perspective up for us as a believer I were to put it all aside, is there a way that anger can be handled well in the Scripture. I read a story earlier this week I thought was interesting.

Nehemiah 5 is all about Nehemiah. They went back into the land after after they were in the Babylonian captivity and things can go on the land but one thing really happen is there were Jews in the land and went back who had wealth. There were a lot of Jews at the they could barely make it a go of it.

They had some really terrible times. So what the Jews who had wealth. As a decided then okay I'll give you money for a lot of interest. That's a violation of Jewish law, they took their land as payment so they could feed him, they took their children and put them into slavery or servitude their children, the Jews did two other Jews. Nehemiah's finds. He said I was very angry very angry so he calls them altogether is a real interesting response of the gifts you think you would, he yelled and screamed at him.

He just told him what the Bible said. He said this is against God's law, we can do this and not do this, then twice he says please please give them that their land please stop charging please don't enslave anybody guess what they did exactly what he said that's amazing.

Sometimes you do that you don't get any response. They all responded.

They also we repent of it. They all said amen to it even got the priest together and they all took an oath to never do that again but he never he never even raises voice he just said pleases a violation of God's law and worked.

You see, and what the key was. He said I was very angry. Just imagine what he should do more yelling should to be no. Thomas Jefferson said some right. It's just brilliant and you know you probably have heard Jefferson said whenever I get angry. I counted 10 when I did very angry. I count on wisely say that because he knows himself and he knows that when I'm really angry. I want to say something I'm gonna regret from very angry to be worse. You see, and that's what God is saying.

So some principles to look at him. One is this first one. The Bible never commands us to do anything that we can do, especially with this for us, with God's indwelling spirit. The Bible never gives you a command said I know they can't do it.

If Jesus gives us a command we can do this. That's why Paul said I could do all things to him strengthens me.

The book of Proverbs status as 12 versus just know how to control my anger is a threat to us. Remember in Genesis 4 story Cain and Abel Marotta work who spoke to Cain after he murdered his brother.

God is interesting you think God would come down and just point really get. He didn't. He said to them, Cain, why are you so angry now you know why was so angry, frustrated expectations. He thought he could decide what to offer God God and accept his offering, and he accepted Abel's so you got mad. He murders his brother. But then God gives him a warning he said look a Cain sin is crouching at your door because he or display of anger, you must master it. You must master it. You must control anger. Secondly, our own experience tells us that you can always control your anger. I don't know if I can abridge again. I've had this experience.

Just imagine doing a wife or a good fight. You know what a good five years of marriage starts out with something insignificant and then it just starts escalating and it never notice sometimes over the end of the same fight like always and we had everything to what we originally were disagreeing about its on and you end up using words like always and never you always. You never know were fighting and you're probably hot and then I call you bring hello this Pastor Bill Hall hi Pastor Bill how you doing what what what happened you control your anger immediately. You start saying nice things all yeah be glad to help you know all that stuff. Then you hang up, turn room and another thing that means you have control.

You see, you have control you just don't want to.

Thirdly, always confessing his sin. If your words unkind but not edifying is not full of grace you're sending this confessing to the Lord. Fourthly, this was to force accept your circumstances from God. They may not change remain there may not change.

If you say you're always angry at your neighbor. He's just a horrible human brain correct, it blows is legal in your yard and all the stuff is all the stuff that goes do not want he's going to be your neighbor no but I can tell you this. It could be to your dad. You see, it could be God doesn't always change our circumstances. All this makes me so mad it doesn't work delegates while change it for you. Sometimes he does sometimes he doesn't and would have to live with what God's providence is in my life. This is my life. You're the people. These are my neighbors. I can live with that because Mike my well-being doesn't doesn't at all need circumstances or people to change for me not to be too frustrated and the last thing choose to forgive, just as Christ is forgiving always, you get Christ forgives you every day unconditionally that's what you gonna do you get frustrated and not meeting expectations forgive them, pray to God to forgive them.

Anger can be more dangerous to you than it can be to the people you're angry at. That's what he's telling us we have to be careful the spring father. We all get angry. Some of us have a real problem with it. Lots of outburst logic casualties because of her anger. I pray your spirit will convict us of that that that's not the way we should live. That's not what we should be still another people.

We should follow your example. Long-suffering patient.

I pray father that we understand that anger can change us more than it changes the people were angry and we should be kind, edifying, loving, in spite of our prescription just as I pray this Pastor Bill Gebhardt on the radio ministry of fellowship Lord, if you ever missed one of our broadcasting or maybe you just like to listen to the message one more time. Remember the little green website called in one place.com that's one place.com and you can listen the fellowship and the word online event website you will find on with today's broadcast but also many of our previous audio programs as well at Fellowship in the Word.

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