Put Away Your Anger, Part 2

Today on Fellowship in the Word pastor Bill Gebhardt challenges you to become a fully functioning follower of Jesus Christ himself. Nothing at all. What did you receive the grace of how thankful you be forever because of the grace the unmerited favor all existing classes yet receiving 11 now dispense. I want you to dispense grace joining us today on this addition of fellowship and the work of Pastor Bill Gebhardt Fellowship in the Words the radio ministry of Fellowship Bible church located in Metairie, Louisiana Pastor Bill Gebhardt now is once again he shows us how God's word meets our world. He also says that. Don't let the sun go down on your anger.

This is a versus a married couple uses for slot no maybe about it. The Bible tells us never to let this net they say it will paraphrase Bible tells us never to go to bed angry. That's a good thing I'm not denying that's a good thing that's on the bursa saying when he says let's don't let the sun go down in your anger, he means this medium he means first. If you're going to be angry being made only what God is second made them sin and three. Keep it short. Be slow to anger and keep it short.

Now some of you are still angry at things that happen in the 80s and I mean you're still angry I'm still mad at that. That still makes me mad is a no no don't do that. If you have any anger what even if you see though. Remember you said last week in Romans that book don't take on vengeance on anyone. Just leave it in my hands. I'll take care of it. The reason you should take care of it is God can trust you and you can trust you to do it poorly. You see, so he warns us an adverse to be angry, but he says do not sin, then he goes on and says do not give the devil an opportunity now.

I guess the point what's really behind your anger about this who's really behind your anger, your enemy does he know how to make you angry as he ever in any can orchestrate the events and here comes your anger boiling up. I can't believe it make me so mad when I hear you're just giving the devil an opportunity. You don't want to do that so he then does a some reversal what he talks about how I want this change to be. I want this change to be complete for you so uses an example in verse 28 he who steals my still no longer, but rather he must labor performing with his own hands, what is good so that he will have something to share with one who has need. Now that's a complete transformation. What am I am a thief. One why do I still okay your Christian yes stop stealing within one.

Why do you get a good job and by the way, when you have a good job it's not even for you get a good job. You summer for you and use the rest to help people that need that's a complete transformation. That's why uses that first. That's this point when it comes anger should be the same kind of transformation.

So he goes on, and he says this and from here on. It's interesting he says there should be he said about six things, six completely different kinds of things. He said that we should be able to change six things in our lives. He said that we should be different about now.

If you're starting to think like boy I don't know if I could really struggle with this.

I don't know if I can really do this. I don't know if I can make that big a transformation. I you already have the capacity to do that in your flesh but you and your flesh.

Give an example because of experience.

You and your spouse start out with a typical spousal argument and Ike I called in the beginning is to spitballs and I would've thrown each other in one element then someone got hit in the eye and so then they bring out rocks.

They move from rocks. The knives and someone gets a gun out then the cannibals out and then there's always the nuke at the end, the new fusion goes back years and years and is always introduced by you always you never you did this and then I call there screaming and yelling and then the phone rings hello how is Pastor Bill hi Pastor Bill how you doing how are you yeah no were fine. What is that you're controlling it.

What I had to kiss Pastor Bill called God is right there in the room with you.

You would act like that in front of him, but of Pastor Bill called I can control this. So we bring in your flash you can control your anger. So certainly in your spirit. You should be able to do that is what he ends up doing here in Macon it really clear to us as he says to us. Look, there's just some things were going to really have to be able to do here six things he says if you control your anger. These are six things you must put away one. He said well let me slimmest before I start minimizing this part. He says two things in verse 29, 30. He said look, generally speaking, let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word, it is good for edification. According to the need of the moment so that it will give grace to those who hear first thing you gotta do in your transformation is no unwholesome word the translation. I like is unkind.

Notice he says no.

So how many unkind words can I say none.

Not one I use this verse often when I'm summons coming in and there's going to be some sort of disagreement or competent confirmation. Some something coming on that I think it can be problematic and I'll say my prayer life Lord actually don't say something unkind or I need your strength for this because I got a hunch my human nature is if you say unkind things to me. Probably same back. That's the nature of it and he said no you don't have any room for this that were by the way is Sapp Ross and it means rotten little we can break at that flammable trouble translating it so he says I know one site unwholesome word come from your mouth only words identify. That's an amazing thing is that according to the need of the moment so that you will give grace to those who hear. Think of yourself that way you ever thought yourself according to God what you should be is a grace dispenser. That's a beard that's in your job description.

Think of at this point, why are you here why are you going to heaven. Why you saved. What did you do nothing at all. What did you receive the grace of God. How thankful we will be forever because of the grace of God, how important he was the grace of God, the unmerited favor of God always just incredible guys is yet you received that you love it now dispense it. I want you to dispense grace see when we end up getting angry or getting an argument when ends up happening is we have our own perverted view of justice and we argue for regular receiving grace.

You just don't like distributing grace is no you should do that your work should be filled with grace for edification to help people.

Marie said what I said in the first week a kind word turns away wrath. You see a kind word turns away wrath. I can still rememberhim on a national level. I was reading an excerpt but a paper from Teddy Kennedy and Ronald Reagan was president Kennedy's a very ill power.

It was a very powerful left-wing Democrat and so he said when Reagan was in office. He said he just did things that just made me so angry. I despise some of the things he was doing and is a prominent senator. You know we said, I just I just just can't stand the things that was happening so he said I call the White House and tell him I like to make an appointment Macon with some short bring down surge that I go into the White House and he said and going to the Oval Office and start talking to the president, he said. Now the next 15 to 20 minutes is kinda foggy to me but all I know is when we got onto the front. I was getting in my car get his arm around me and we were talking and he said I was telling him how much I expected.

My got in the car. He said he turned what I thought was going to be a very big confrontation into this. Give me a hug and get the car thing. That's what the Scriptures to how can I take a kind word and be able to destroy or move away the wrath was already there so then he says also do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. You think about that in your own selfish anger. Do you know how God feels his greed is grieved by your anger. The spirit of God is grieved as an emotional word. I can't believe what they're doing. I just can't believe what they're doing here got some we need to think about now. He gives six things and we have to put away. He said let all bitterness first one bitterness and understand something about the six things Paul assumes in this text, all of us and everyone he's reading have been mistreated by other people he's talking about the things that make you and I angry. One of the missing people really mistreat us.

He said yeah I know you been mistreated.

I'm not talking about that, but I'm telling you how you should respond to this mistreatment.

So he says that all bitterness, the very first characteristic of cold bitterness the cancer for the soul. In the past devastating thing to see if someone comes better better people keep score.

That's what they do. They just keep score and by the way, if you want to be bitter and you want to keep score you're going to be better. You live on a cursed planet everyone around you sinful if you might be bitter you can be better.

You can die as bitter as possible, because on a certain level. Life stinks. You see there's always people doing things all the time.

The other people. It's always going on. I was reading a pastor this week and he said that he had a woman come into his office for some pastoral counseling about their marriage and he said she had 16 type pages of all the things her husband ever done to her 16 pages and she said I'm just here because what can I do what can I do with this man and he said the first thing you have to do is burn her 16 pages. She gathered she remembered everything. I imagine went back to their dating days every disappointment she ever had. You can do that if you carry that with you. You become better. You know you can't become bitter because it ruins your life and affects the lives of those around you. But if you think I'm justified in my bitterness in a certain way. You are there's a lot of terrible stuff that happens that you can have of you a life that's any different than that. You just begin to accumulate God I've seen one most tragic things I've seen is this run into an 80-year-old Christian is been a Christian since have been teenagers and their bitter about everything and the first thing I'll do is tell me all the terrible things they went through. But what is the outcome of the way they handled those things the miserable.

It made them miserable. You see, that's that's what's wrong with bitterness. Hebrews 1215 says see to it that no one come short of the grace of God, no root of bitterness springing up causes any trouble because by it. Many people were defiled.

You don't want to be bitter.

Secondly, wrath the second thing he says that we must get rid of wrath. Put away wrath the NIV says rage.

I believe there the Greek word means to boil.

This is people who are explosive have outbursts don't do that.

And those people often do, and I've heard it well yes I do get really I do explode, but I get over it's done with, you know that's the same thing when you shoot a gun was just a moment.

There's a corpse right there well but was a moment to get to get rid of that can justify that you can't do that and so he says you've got to get rid of wrath.

Thirdly, anger this word again means seething anger to some people, angry, and you know what, and in some people angry. You don't sing Annette mightily that can be really a difficult thing you marry somebody in there angry. But you don't know it, but you will like. Sooner or later. If there are stuffer or cedar. It's going to come out there again and again to be angry the memories are a symptom of the Sangha donning her anger should never be seething and storing anger is no place for fourthly, he says, clamber Craig okay is the word it's only use a couple times in the whole New Testament.

It means shouting or crying out loud I Dennis got this idea, be explosive. This then he says, put away all slander great English word for this is when you talk to some people about what other people did to you and made you angry.

She knew what John did to me. I know you thing the world what he did to me. What are you doing slandering you see your slandering him was between you and John and your slandering to someone else.

So go change your opinion of John because of your anger. The last one is malice.

That's ill will toward someone else. Paul experience so much of this, just imagine was like every place he went he was there he was the recipient of anger. He was beaten with rods.

He was stoned and left for dead. I mean everything that happened the Paul he received all this and he's the guy writing it. He said you have put all this away every bit of it away. As a Christian and he says, then you must replace the six things with these three characteristics characteristic number one. He said you kind one another time, while first Corinthians 13 will to use weddings love is we say that over time love it kind love is kind full of the spirit Galatians 5.

What part of the fruit of the spirit, kindness.

He said you have to be calling it says in Luke six that God is kind to ungrateful and evil men moving. He said you have to be time.

Secondly, you have to be tenderhearted. The NIV says compassionate here in one of the ways you have to see people no matter what happens to their not the enemy. There victims of your enemy, your enemy is victimize them doubly angry at them.

Why just hate what these people are doing in Baton Rouge or Washington you.

I just hate, hate everybody. Everybody's a victim in this case don't hate them.

As I said earlier, hate the sin but saying all the time about the center but it's not easy to get angry at the sin, it's easy to get angry at her face angry at a center and then lastly and most importantly, he said, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. You have to be forgiving by the way this answered anger which he answered anger, forgiving what's yanked what's the answer to.

Have a great marriage, forgiving.

What's the anger that raising your children the right way forgiving. What's the anger to being a good neighbor, forgiving forgiveness is the answer. Think about it, it's the answer for you and me.

I'm not going to help you know why God forgive me. I didn't deserve it entered. He forgave me. Forgiveness is the Ballmer healing balm of all relationships because we all sin and fall short of the glory of God is none righteous, no not one. So he says you need to be forgiving. Then it gets worse. He said just as God in Christ is forgiven you. How many times as God forgiven you.

How many sins as he forgiving how many sins as he forgiving you since you became one of his children is a get. That's exactly the way I want you to forgive everybody else, please understand something here is the time to sort of become more like God than you imagine when you forgive somebody you have to pay the price when you forgive somebody you bear the burden you pay the price of the pain that they caused just like Christ did you see forgiveness, then come without pain, but it came to the forgive her. It came to Jesus Christ he bore the pain because he's the one who forgave if you're going to forgive somebody you have the bear the pain and understand when you bear them, just like on the cross. You have to be done with every reminder you get is pain.

You bear but you don't bring that up again remember what God said, I will forgive them of their trespasses and 90s are taken to see a dump them overboard and I'll remember them no more and other people see me yeah but that's God he can.

He can forget that I can forget God doesn't forget anything ever. I have a hunch you do. God never forgets anything he chooses not to remember you have to choose not to remember what that mean I can bring up my pain from something you did to me two years ago. Again, I have to bear the pain.

That's why forgiveness is hard and a great cost. It's hard to be a forgive her because it's like women. I want to be mad I want to be angry Albert the pain he said, just as Christ as forgiving you so I must be kind tenderhearted and forgiving you might be thinking right now.

For this reason, I don't do this, I know who I am and I know what my lifespan think I can do this then we give you the short answer. It's okay. You can't. You can't do this. That's who you are. Look across the page.

It verse 18 of Ephesians 5 right in the same context. Ephesians 518 do not get drunk with wine, for that is dissipation, but be filled with the spirit. What happens when you're drunk. What controls you. Alcohol I'm drunk you don't do that at your stupidity, but be filled or controlled by the spirit of God. We know were going to be indwelt by the Spirit of God but we have to be controlled by the spirit of God.

If you're controlled by the spirit of God, by the way, you can do all the things that Paul said that to the Philippians, any he said I can do all things through him who strengthens me. So there's no force or see when it comes to anger God's is put aside. James said be slow about it. Solomon said see life the way God sees it were for some of us as a lifetime pattern are casualties everywhere. We need to begin to think about anger the way God has told us to think spring father.

Anger is so pervasive in our society, and so pervasive in our lives. We have been angry for such a long time that we keep using it as a default. And yet we shouldn't. We have to put aside the old self we have to offer ourselves up to you as a living sacrifice we have to put on the new self, which we have. We have to find ourselves dependent on the power of the spirit within us so that we can begin to deal with the anger in our lives if we do that father not only what other people benefit who we've been angry for so long, but more importantly, we will benefit it will change your heart and will change our peace and hope and joy. Father I pray as we looked at just some of the verses in the Bible that you have spoken to Pastor Bill Gebhardt on the radio ministry of fellowship in the world. If you ever missed one of our broadcasting or maybe you just like to listen to the message one more time. Remember that you can Google a great website called one place.com that's one place.com and you can listen the fellowship and the word online that website you will find on today's broadcast but also many of our previous audio programs as well have Fellowship in the Word. We are thankful for those who financially support our ministry and make this broadcast possible. We ask all of our listeners to prayerfully consider how you might help his radio ministry continuous broadcast on this radio station by supporting a monthly fourth is the one-time gift support for ministry can be sent to Fellowship in the Word.

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