Passing On A Legacy Of Good Values To The Next Generation

Which is sort of. We are going together, NC family Pres. John Weston.

Welcome to family policy matters this week were pleased to bring you part two of a discussion with Dr. Thomas McCullough about his new book, how to raise kind kids and get respect, gratitude and a happier family in the bargain. We hope you enjoy the show. Not you speak in terms Dr. Latona of parents being a character coach for their children.

Talk about this concept of being a character coach and how does that differ from parents just, living life out at home on a daily basis. Great WORDS ALONE DO THE JOB HORRIBLY. NOT TO DO THAT AND WE THINK THAT JUST AS LONG AS WE REPEAT THE WORDS IS GOING TO SOMEHOW INSTILL THE VIRTUE OF PURCHASER HABITS: ARISTOTLE ABOUT HER CHRISTIAN TRADITION VIRTUES ARE YOUR THOUGHTS BETTER HABITS WE DEVELOP BY PERFORMING VIRTUOUS ACTIONS AGAIN AND AGAIN Expect RECENTLY THAT CHARLES R THINK PLEASED THAT YOU COULD TELL THAT ONCE OR TWICE AFRAID TO TELL THEM HUNDREDS OF VALIANCE IN THE WIRING THAT THE PRODUCT IS A NEW ROUTE HAVE TO ANTICIPATE A BETTER MORE COMPLEX SETS OF SKILLS. FOR EXAMPLE, SIBLING CONFLICT IS CHALLENGING EVERY FAMILY COULD FIGHT WITH EACH OTHER. PARENTS THEN YELLED THE KIDS IN THE WHOLE HOUSE IS UPSET SO I REALLY ENCOURAGE VERY DEDICATED SPACE IN THE HOME FOR TOPIC RESOLUTION. YOU CAN CALL THE SOLUTION CIRCLE, RECORDER TALK ABOUT SPACE AND YOU HAVE THE STEPS POSTED FOR SOME CONFLICT YOU'RE HAVING AN ARGUMENT OR SOME PORTAL PROBLEM SIBLING AND STEP ONE IS YOU CAN'T TAKE THREE DEEP BREATHS, SLOWLY TO 10 LONGER IF YOU NEED TO AND THEN YOU TAKE TURNS SAYING WHAT YOU THINK THE PROBLEM IS WHAT YOUR FEELINGS ARE ABOUT IT THEN YOU SHOW UNDERSTANDING OF THE OTHER PERSON MIGHT HOUSING BACK WHAT THEY SAID THAT THE SCHOOL CALLED ACTIVE LISTENING TREMENDOUSLY IMPORTANT, RESOLUTION WILL BE OF ONGOING IMPORTANCE AND AS YOU GET OLDER YOUR MARRIAGE IS SOMEONE TO SHOW YOU HAVE HEARD THAT THE PERSON THE TROUBLE TO DEMONSTRATE THAT YOU SAY MAYBE JUST TO CORRECT IT. IF YOU DID GET IT RIGHT THEN YOU THINK TURNS WHAT YOU THINK IS FAIR TO SAY WHEN YOU FIRST SOLUTION AND FILE YOU AGREE WHAT IS FAIR TO BOTH PARTIES IN THE CONFLICT NOW TO BEGINNING THE PARENTS GOT THIS SESSION WALKING THROUGH THAT AND OKAY NOW. STEP TWO IS THIS COACH THEM DIGNITY BACK TO SLEEP WHEN YOU DID YOU GET TO HIT A BALL OR SHOOT A BASKET. DO NOT EXPECT THE LECTURE TO PRODUCE AND SKILL IN SPORTS. YOU UNDERSTAND THAT'S GOING TO TAKE MANY TRIES LOTS OF FEEDBACK TRYING AGAIN TILL THEY GET THE SKILL, HIGHLY HIGHER LEVEL OF MASTERY WILL DISABLED CHARACTER SKILLS, FRUSTRATION FOR ZACH DOING PRACTICE, ENCOURAGEMENT, AND SO ON UNTIL BECOMES PART OF THE REPERTOIRE, OBVIOUSLY OUR CHILDREN IN THE FORMATIVE STAGES OF LIFE SPENT A TREMENDOUS AMOUNT OF TIME IN SCHOOLS.

WHAT PARTNERING WELCOME PARENTS AND EDUCATORS PLAY IN CREATING A POSITIVE AND REINFORCING ENVIRONMENT IN THEIR CHILDREN'S SCHOOL SO OUR KIDS ARE NOT JUST LEARNING THESE VIRTUES AT HOME BUT THERE ARE ALSO LEARNING THEM FROM THEIR TEACHERS AND OTHER FOLKS WITHIN THE EDUCATIONAL ENVIRONMENT. WELL YOU SHOULD BE A LOT OF TWO-WAY COMMUNICATION THAT THE CARTRIDGE MOVEMENT, WHICH IS REALLY A RENEWAL OF SOMETHING THAT WAS PRESENT AT OUR FOUNDING WHEN EVERY KID AT A GO TO SCHOOL FOR TWO REASONS TO LEARN LITERACY AND TO BASICALLY LEARN VIRTUES TO BE GOOD CITIZENS IN A DEMOCRATIC SOCIETY WERE GETTING BACK TO THAT AND IT'S REALLY BEEN GROWING INTO A NATIONAL AND EVEN INTERNATIONAL MOVEMENT OVER THE LAST THREE DECADES AND IT BASICALLY INVOLVES FRENCH CREATE THE SAME KIND OF CULTURE IN THE SCHOOL THAT YOU'RE CREATING IN THE FAMILY AND VICE A VERSA PROCESSES ARE REALLY PARALLEL WHAT WORKS IN THE HOMEWORK IN SCHOOL AND THE OTHER WAY AROUND RESEARCH AND SHOWS BASIC PROCESSES ARE VERY SIMILAR IN BOTH THE MAIN AND THOROUGHLY TELLING THE PRINCIPAL GRACELESSLY YOU REALLY CARE EVERY BIT AS MUCH ABOUT CHARACTER AS YOU DO ABOUT ACADEMICS AND PERHAPS EVEN MORE YOU WATCH THE CHILD TO BE A GOOD PERSON YOU SUPPORT THE SCHOOL AND WHATEVER IT DOES TO HELP HELP THE CHILDREN GROWN CHARACTER YOU APPRECIATE THE REINFORCEMENT OF WHAT YOUR TRY DOING FAMILY LIFE. SO THE SCHOOL KNOWS THAT THIS IS A PRIORITY. LOTS OF SCHOOLS OF IMPRESSION THAT PARENTS CARE MORE ABOUT TEST SCORES AND GRADES THAN THEY DO ABOUT WHEN CHILD IS KIND AND RESPECTFUL AND THAT IN FACT IS NOT THE CASE.

WE DO SURVEYS PARENTS SAY THAT THEY CARE MORE ABOUT THE CHILD'S KINDNESS AND RESPECT AND HONESTY AND RESPONSIBILITY THAN THEY DO ABOUT THE GRADES THE GRADES ARE IMPORTANT, BUT THEY PROVIDED CHARACTER MOST HIGHLY. IRONICALLY, PARENTS AND TEACHERS HAVE HAD JUST THE OPPOSITE PERCEPTIONS OF EACH OTHER SO INTERESTING. PARENTS CARE MORE ABOUT THIS). THE TEST SCORES. SO WHEN YOU GET AS A BASE TO REALIZE THAT WE BOTH CARE DEEPLY ABOUT CHARACTER IN THE SCHOOL. THE FAMILY OF TWO GREAT FOREIGN INSTITUTIONS ALONG WITH RELIGION. THE THIRD, WHICH HISTORICALLY BEEN RESPONSIBLE FOR PASSING ON A LEGACY OF GOOD GUYS NEXT GENERATION AFRICAN STARPOINTE TOGETHER TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN OUR CULTURE LISTENING TO ME SO I SPENT TO LISTEN TO MY RADIO SHOW ONLINE RESOURCES HAVE A PLACE OF PERSUASION IN YOUR COMMUNITY WEBSITE FAMILY COLLECTING NOTHING, NO MATTER HOW WELL WE RAISE OUR CHILDREN AND NO MATTER HOW KINDER THEY MAY BE, IT IS INEVITABLE THAT AT SOME POINT THEY ARE GOING TO CONFRONT A BULLY OR ANOTHER KID WHO'S JUST PLAIN MEAN. HOW CAN WE PREPARE OUR CHILDREN TO PROCESS AND RESPOND APPROPRIATELY TO THESE KINDS OF SITUATIONS AND NOT BE CONCERNED THAT ALL THE GOOD THINGS THAT WE'VE TRIED TO INSTILL IN THEM AT HOME, COME COMPLETELY UNRAVELED WHEN THEY CONFRONT THIS TYPE OF CONFLICT THAT THE REAL WORLD INCLUDES PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT GUIDING THEIR HABITUAL APPROACH TO FACTOR JUST THE OPPOSITE HERSELF THROAT RESULT IN HUMILITY RECOGNIZE THAT WE REACH OUT UNKIND MOMENTS WE REACH CAPABLE OF CRUELTY SO WE KNOW WE ALL CAN REFLECT ON WAYS THAT WE'VE NOT BEEN KIND TO SO WE WILL BRING THAT HUMILITY TO THE SITUATION, BUT THERE ARE SOME KIDS SORT OF MAKE A PRACTICE OF MEANNESS AND GET FORTUNE VERY GOOD AT IT. SO WE NEED TO PREPARE OUR CHILDREN FOR THAT THEY WILL ENCOUNTER THOSE BOYS LIVE WITHOUT GOOD FRIENDSHIP TO BE MY SURGEON IS TO FIND SONS BRIGHT, KIND BOYS AND THEY'VE EACH BEEN CALLED TODAY BY THEIR HIGH SCHOOL CLASSMATES AND TOLD THAT THEY SHOULD KILL THEMSELVES, AND GOT TO THE POINT WHERE IT IS BOYS ASKED IF THEY COULD GO TO SCHOOL SO WE DO NEED TO PREPARE OUR KIDS GOING INTO SCHOOL ENVIRONMENT CAN BE GIVEN A PRIVATE SCHOOL BUSINESS AFTER PUBLIC SCHOOL TO ENCOUNTER THE VICIOUS BEHAVIOR ON THE PART OF SOME OF THE PUREST SO PERSONAL TO THINK TO YOURSELF AS ONE LOCAL SERVICE. EVERYBODY'S FIGHTING A HARD BATTLE AND THEN A CENTERFIELD SYMPATHETIC UNDERSTANDING OF WHAT ONE OF THESE KIDS ACT THIS WAY. PEOPLE WHO HURT OTHERS ARE HURTING THEMSELVES TO LAW AND THE RESEARCHERS KIDS LIKE THIS COME FROM HOMES WHERE THERE IS OFTEN HARSH PUNISHMENT FOR THE DOCKABLE OF THE NEED TO BE GONE THROUGH SOME SORT OF SUPPORT THAT EVERY CHILD NEEDS SO AS A ONE PERSPECTIVE THAT HELPS SECOND NOT NOT TO RUN IN ST. LOUIS LASH BACK WITH A VERBAL RETALIATION BULB SAME TIME TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF. YOU'RE NOT A VICTIM LIKE ANNETTE YOU CAN PROTECT YOURSELF FROM BEING A VICTIM. A COUPLE WAYS FOR SCHOOL BOARD SITUATION WERE DISINTEGRATING COUNTIES SECOND B WITH A FRIEND.

BOYS BECOME PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT WITH SOMEBODY ELSE. SO THAT'S IMPORTANT TO ALSO START KIDS TO BE PUERILE EYES OF SOMEBODY IS BEING VICTIMIZED BY BULLIES UNITE WITH ACCURATE YOU GIVE HIM SOME PROTECTION THAT THE BACK IS WERE YOU YOU AND OFFER THEM EMOTIONAL SOIR�E DON'T PAY ATTENTION LIKE YOU KNOW THE SCOPE HAVE LUNCH TOGETHER OR I'LL SEE YOU LATER. ALL LISTEN TO THE BUS WHATEVER TO SOMETHING THAT BEFRIENDS THE KID'S BOY. FINALLY, I REALLY RECOMMEND SELF-DEFENSE ARE CHILDLESS ARE YOUR OLDER SON WAS FROM THE PAST COULD KNOW WHAT TO SCHOOL WITHOUT A REALLY AFTER I WENT TO SCHOOL THAT HE WAS PICKED ON BY SOME BOYS IN THE PLAYGROUND. I DON'T KNOW HOUSE HOW SERIOUS YOU CAN SEE EVIDENCE THAT HE WAS REALLY UPSET BY THIS BUT THE KNOWLEDGE THAT HAD THE FACE OF PURE CRUELTY SO MUCH SCHOOL EXPERIENCE IN THE LATER ALWAYS DELIVER PAPERS AS AN EMERGING ROLE IN AUSTIN ACTUALLY WAS On THE STREETS.

ONE EARLY ONE MORNING DELIVERY POSSIBLE FOR SCHOOL STARTED TO MOAN FOR JOINT BELIEF IS HELD BY POINT IS PROBABLY ON DRUGS. MAYBE 1920 OR SO WE TOOK KARATE LESSONS. AFTER THAT, FATHER AND SON AND AS 1/7 GRADER. HE DEVELOPED THE SKILLS OF BEING ABLE TO HANDLE HIMSELF. THE ONLY USE THEM THOSE ONCE WE GOT BACK IN HER HOMETOWN RETURNED FROM BOSTON TO JUMPED UP FROM BEHIND.

HE MADE A MOVE TO CYCLE FROM FROM UNDER THE KID TO WIN CLIMB BACKWARDS ON HIS BACK AND NOBODY MESSED WITH HER SON AGAIN AFTER THAT. BUT THE REAL CHANGE IS THAT WHEN YOU KNOW YOU CAN DEFEND YOURSELF, YOU SEND OFF DIFFERENT SIGNALS CHARTERS OFFER MORE CONFIDENCE SO I DO THINK SELF-DEFENSE FOR GIRLS AND BOYS THESE DAYS GIRLS ARE INCREASINGLY RISK OF SEXUAL ASSAULT OR DIVERSITY WERE IN A BAD SPOT CULTURE REGARDING I THINK IT'S IT'S IT'S GOOD TO KNOW THESE BASIC SKILLS WOULD YOU SAY TO PARENTS WHOSE KIDS ARE OLDER AND YOU MAY THINK IT'S JUST TOO LATE TO CREATE A HOME ENVIRONMENT THAT ESPOUSES VIRTUE AND KINDNESS BASED ON YOUR EXPERIENCE. IS THERE A TIME IN WHICH THESE EFFORTS REALLY BECOME FUTILE OR IS THERE ALWAYS HOPE FOR PARENTS TO BREAK BAD HABITS AND TO FORM NEW ONES THAT CAN BRING THINGS THAT YOU TALK ABOUT IN YOUR BOOK, KINDNESS, RESPECT AND GRATITUDE INTO THE HOME. WELL YOU KNOW IT'S NEVER TOO LATE.

THERE ARE STORIES OF TERRIBLE KILLERS IN PRISON. HAVING RELIGIOUS CONVERSIONS STARTING OVER WHAT WILL FACE AND SO THERE ARE STORIES OF INDIVIDUALS WHO MEMBER VIRGINIA WAS REALLY A MEETING, KID IN HIGH SCHOOL AND I SAW COPIERS LATER IF YOU BEEN IN THE MILITARY FOR TWO OR THREE YEARS IS A TOTALLY DIFFERENT VERSION IS CURTIS FRIENDLY, JUST A DIFFERENT PERSON.

MATURED THE MILITARY AS AN INSTITUTION CAN BE CAST BUILDING EXPERIENCE FOR MANY IF NOT MOST PEOPLE LOVE THAT EXPERIENCE AND CAME OUT A DIFFERENT PERSON SO THERE'S A HUMAN POTENTIAL. ALWAYS TO GROW NEVER TOO LATE, BUT IT MAY MEAN THAT YOU HAVE TO BUILDING A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR CHILD. OFTEN PARENTS GET CAUGHT UP IN NEGATIVE DYNAMICS MAY BE THAT IT IS A LATINO KNOW THAT ROCKY ROAD I MADE SOME MISTAKES I WANT HONEST IN YOUR FEELINGS ABOUT THINGS TAKE A LONG WALK IN THE WORDS YOU HAVE A HEART-TO-HEART AND THEN YOU MAKE A PLAN FOR WHAT YOU WANT TO DO DIFFERENTLY, INCLUDING RULES GIVE YOUR CHILD A CHANCE TO SPEAK UP FOR WHAT THEY THINK IS FAIR AND SO THAT THEY HAVE SOME BOYS FEEL COPPERS OR PRINCIPLES IN THE PROCESS. BUT YOU TRY TO RESPECT THEM AND UNDERSTAND WHERE THEY'RE COMING FROM AND I KNEW REGULAR START TO DO SOMETHING FOR A FAMILY MISSION STATEMENT ANYWAY. SURE YOU BUILD IN THE CONNECTIVE RITUALS YOU'RE MAINTAINING THAT ONE-ON-ONE TIME MANAGEMENT BEHAVIOR. SPENT SOME TIME TOGETHER DOING SOMETHING THAT YOU BOTH ENJOY HELP WHAT YOU SELL JEWS REALLY WANT TO GO FOR BREAKFAST ON SATURDAY: KEEP THAT ONE-ON-ONE TIME GOING SO YOU STRENGTHEN THE BOND THAT GIVES YOU AN SIDETRACK TO THE WORLD OF COMPUTING� BUT IT'S NEVER TOO LATE TO TURN AROUND THE BABY THINGS HAPPENING IN THEIR LIFE THAT ARE DISRUPTIVE PROBLEMS IN SCHOOL AND HAD A TRAUMATIC EXPERIENCE IN FAMILY COUNSELING, FAMILY THERAPY, IN CERTAIN CIRCUMSTANCES, BUT THAT NEVER THROW IN THE TOWN OF COURSE PRAY WITH KIDS JUST ASKING GOD FOR THE GRACE TO DEAL WITH WHATEVER CHALLENGES YOU FACE INSTRUMENTS IMPORT NOT IN THIS ALONE. THAT'S A GREAT ENCOURAGEMENT AS WE CONCLUDE OUR DISCUSSION, AND I DOCKABLE ACCOUNTABLE, SO WE'D DELETE I WANT TO GIVE YOU AN OPPORTUNITY TO LET OUR LISTENERS KNOW WHERE THEY CAN GO TO GET A COPY OF YOUR NEW BOOK, HOW TO RAISE KIND KIDS AND GET RESPECT, GRATITUDE AND A HAPPIER FAMILY IN THE BOARD. WELL, YOU CAN GO TO MY AUTHOR WEBSITE, WHICH IS SIMPLY THOMAS LAKOTA.COM AND LAKOTA LI CK OH SO THAT'S THOMAS LOU:.COM DELETE A LINK TO PLACES THAT ARE THE BOOK THERE THREE DIFFERENT CHOICES SO PEOPLE LIKE AMAZON A LOT OF PEOPLE PREFER OTHER BOOKSELLERS SO THREE CHOICES THAT OTHER BOOKS THAT THEY HAVE DONE IN THE PAST THAT PEOPLE MIGHT BE INTERESTED IN AND THEN SOME FREE RESOURCES THEY CAN TAP IN A CHARACTER EDUCATION CENTER COLLEGE FOR RESPECT AND RESPONSIBILITY THAT A LOT OF FREE MATERIALS AND SCHOOLS CAN USE A CHARACTERIZATION TRAY ONCE OR MANY OF OUR LISTENERS A VIABLE INFORMATION AND WANT TO GET A COPY OF YOUR BOOK, HOW TO RAISE KIND KIDS AND GET RESPECT, GRATITUDE, AND HAPPIER FAMILY IN THE HORGAN WITHOUT DR. THOMAS MCCONE.

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