The Real Victims of Transgender Ideology (Part 1)

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You certainly heard a lot about the so-called equality act, a bill that passed the US House of Representatives on February 25 and that would elevate the classifications of sexual orientation and gender identity to legally protected status similar to race, color, religion, sex, and national origin in the Civil Rights Act of 1964 were also seeing a push in cities and counties across North Carolina to pressure elected officials to add these classifications to local ordinances relating to employment, housing, and public accommodations. These are exactly the same types of laws and ordinances that have been used to attack and punish Christian business people across the country like Colorado cake artist Jack Phillips Washington state forest Burnell Stutzman and many others who are simply trying to live their lives and operate their businesses in accordance with their personal and deeply held religious beliefs but these radical activist efforts by the LGBT Q plus community go far beyond just trying to cancel Christian business people, their ultimate aim is to use the power of the government our government to force and coerce every citizen in our nation to accept comply with and celebrate their behavioral choices, their lifestyles and their ideology. Today we want to share the personal side of this very critical and important issue. You likely heard a lot about the transgender movement from both sides of the debate. But today we are joined by the mother of the transgender identifying young adult who is bravely chosen to share her family's difficult story. Christie lives in the Triangle region of North Carolina and she and her husband Kevin are parents to four children. Christie's oldest child, Danielle began identifying as a male back in 2016 when she was a senior in high school. Since then Christie and Kevin have sought to love their daughter will while still holding firm to their faith in God and his truth about creation, human identity and sexuality. Christie joins us today to share her very personal story and to shed light on the incredible dangers of the transgender ideology that is getting such a foothold in our culture. Christie, thanks so much for joining us today. Thank you Semites for having me Christie as we begin tell us a bit about your background in your family well. I grew up in eastern North Carolina and a small town called Fairfield and I went to UNC where I met my best then here is from New York.

After we got married we need to New York, and has them was attending law school (I was working in accounting for private equity firm and I did dad tell my daughter was born, and then I became a stay-at-home mom has been Lost for a little while and then went on to follow his lifelong dream of working as an investment banker in New York and he did that until he was ready to retire and not that time.

We decided that we should return to North Carolina to raise our children here and play take advantage of that wonderful universities that we have here in North Carolina so we may just as my daughter was starting high school.

So Christie, how did the issue of your daughter's gender dysphoria. First come about. Well, she came in one night when I was cooking dinner and just said to me, mom, I'm transgender, bland, always been up away and I need to start transitioning and this was during her senior year of high school it came out of the blade. She had had a normal girl childhood and then all of the typical things that girls do fun playing with baby dolls to watching Hannah Montana – not the belay band one direction just as a typical teenage girl until that senior year and she had become friends with another girl that was already identifying as transgender and she just quickly wanted to start transitioning. She started wearing boys clay things she had cut her hair short.

She was claiming to be in that span and that year when she was at home was very, very difficult. I had many conversations with her I would try to get help for her from therapists and it turned out to really cause more harm than good, but it was when she went away to college and she did get out of state when things really fell apart. She was insisting on starting medically transitioning, and at that point she was 18 years old so my husband and I really had no say said in what she was doing, but we did try to condense her to wait at least until she graduated from college before she took any type of medical steps and she she didn't want to wait.

So through the help of a former friend of mine is a social worker in New York. She sat up again find me, that would help her pay her college tuition and and start medically transitioning so when she did that she became a celebrity overnight and she left our family. We had only asked her to wait until she finished college and she proceeds to do that so she started taking testosterone and within six months she had started growing facial hair. Her voice had dropped that was in 2018 so we been estranged from her for three years and she has recently had her breast amputated. My family is very upset about what she's done. There's nothing really that we can do to stop her, especially when there are so many cheerleaders out there trying to encourage her to keep going down this path of self-destruction was incredible. And thank you for sharing that. I know it's difficult to talk about but you been gracious enough to share your story with us previously and I know that you work with some ministries that seek to provide assistance and support to our families in similar situations. I love to go back a little bit and just one pack some aspects of off what you shared in your your families story so you said the change in Danielle team to come about pretty abruptly pretty suddenly when she was in high school and that she was hanging out with at least one friend who identified as transgender. What other influences. Do you believe had an impact in that. I would say the Internet was 100% a major influence and her coming out as transgender.

She spent a lot of time on those social media sites like tumbler read it Instagram. There are so many people out there that are doing this and it's unfortunate because these children are just vulnerable kids who are trying to find their way in the world and united with our culture that we live then there's such a push to identify as something and for a teenage girl who maybe isn't sitting in with the popular crowd at school. She's trying to find her way and I think that was definitely a big part of it and she was also suffering from depression and had a lot of anxiety. Just knowing that she was about to graduate and go off to college but also in her school. There was an gay straight alliance that she had become a member of as an ally and I think that there is a lot of influence there as well to Christie, all on that note, what actions did you and your husband to try to help Daniel address this issue of gender dysphoria that she was struggling with. We had many conversations with her, trying to figure out why she was feeling this way and to help her throw it. We also immediately sought the help of the therapist that could question why she felt this way and and help her figure it out. That therapist turned out to be affirming, which really just validated her thoughts and made it harder way also took her to a doctor to get some medication for depression and anxiety that really didn't help and within 20 minutes of talking to that Dr. the doctor was calling her by her preferred name and the male pronouns and it really just blew my mind that medical professional could sit there and see that she's a girl but yet the doctor was calling her behind the male pronouns. We also talked to school administrators.

I spoke to two different teams at the University that she attended and I spoke to my priest. I talked to any politician that would listen to me. I sent emails. I really felt like there was no one out there that wanted to help me. I eventually did find a wonderful support great in a prayer great and these prayer warriors are praying for my daughter and all of these children that had fallen prey to this transgender epidemic, and on top of that, I joined a support group for parents as our IDD kids do use rapid own food gender dysphoria. That's correct, so rapid onset gender dysphoria is a term that was coined by Dr. Lisa Littman you is a professor at Brown University that she basically coined this phrase rapid onset gender dysphoria.

Because these are people who never showed any type of gender identity disorder prior to puberty so there has been some pushback on this whole idea that there is a new crop of kids that are already GG that the evidence they are and the statistics show that there has been a 4000% increase in the number of girls that are coming out as transgender a little button and our daughter definitely came out suddenly we didn't know how to stop her because it was just so powerful. The more that we talk to her about it. It was almost like she dug her feet and and and went deeper into this is very frustrating and it's also very isolating because I had kept it a secret. I didn't tell anyone, not even my mother whom I share everything with so it does affect the whole family. My three sons have certainly been negatively affected by it. Probably my oldest son has been affected the matters and he's only two years younger than my daughter. They grew up together and it's just very hard because he can't get away from it and he has a special memories of times when he and his sister would just go out for a drive or when they were working together and she's just she's left our family and they feel like they've been abandoned. They were also taken by surprise when she came out and said they are hurting. They really hurting and as teenage boys know they don't really share their emotions very easily. So I do think that they're holding a lot and there's a lot anger and grief that they just don't have share you been listening to family policy matters. This is been part one of a two-part series featuring Christie, the mother of a transgender identifying gold for more information about the transgender issue. You can visit our website it into family.org and click on the parent resource God banner in the middle of the page here resource God is a comprehensive and detailed resource for parents and educators, and individuals who want to learn more about the dangers transgender movement in our nation. Be sure to tune into family policy matters next week as we continue our conversation with Christie. Thanks again for listening and may God bless you and your family