David Eaton: How to Love Your Teenager

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This is family life today so we got David Eaton studio today. David is a teenage expert that really is an expert on raising teenagers because you start a ministry called axis. David, you tell me you communicate with 200,000 parents and teenagers a month about 10 we equipped 200,000 parents see below 400,000 twins, and teens in her life and we help them of non-anxious Chrysler conversations about culture and about talking about fashion trends and about Jesus and about technology and we want Jesus to be the center of family so that's what axis is all about. I hope every parent listening just to lean forward and I need this program. I knew they did.

I was like they're all like regular how I get this how I get axis.org axis.AX is not ACC so ASIS.org and go there and check out the culture translator comes out every Friday since your three things going on your kids world and it is awesome. All I get it. Every time I have no idea what you talk about I start teenage in the homemade anymore, but it's like we need to be on top of this understanding culture, especially if your parents of preteens or teenagers you will be out of talk their language and understand what's going on to start conversations but one of the reasons I brought this up really early you said you have like three what trick question how you hijacking this radio show… It's like enough interviewing me I'm interviewing you now's the tables have turned is never a watch out game on so I guarantee my wife will be an answer. All three and I will be an elder any of okay will this three trick questions in their scenarios or situations so bear with me. The first one is you are looking for something in your 17-year-olds room because clearly he took something of yours and maybe you lost it and you're just like looking you are innocent awesome parent looking so you looking you can't find joy just a look at his closet. Maybe so you open the closet see others boxed on their silly, maybe some box so pick up the box you open the box and as you look inside the box you find 1/2 consumed bottle of whiskey and an open box of condoms. What do you do Wilson's I say and have a conversation with her sons about this now.

I mean honestly, here's my answer unless it's right answer and love to know what Amadou that I would go to in and we go hey look what I found listed them with whoever sons room. It was all three of our sons were in the same room, so could better try to use the oldest one first and say you know is this yours in your can we talk I mean we did find porn on our home computer when our oldest was 13, and that's exactly what we did. We said down in first and said is that you and I said no is not me that we had a conversation and he admitted it was him and it led to a really good conversation that is ongoing. Ghetto locksets are what I would do have two questions about the first of all I know, yeah. Oh it's on Amazon you thought this was safe. How would you feel when you open the box the first time and you see those things, I have just a pit in my stomach. Especially if you are not suspecting like if you had no idea any find that I would cry. Honestly, my first thought was same thing and we take it to Dave if he wasn't home at that time I probably and I did this many many times I get on my knees I tell Jesus everything I'm feeling I'm afraid Lord what's happening. I don't want to do. I don't know what to say. What should I do. James one says that he will give us wisdom and generously variously