God’s Dream For the Family

You know, and we started dating, I came over to your house. I actually thought I had just walked into the perfect family, as it was pretty fun was and it was amazing, but I was deflated at the same time because I was nowhere near the perfect barren family, but we had our baggage to go. I found that out pretty quick. Welcome to family life today where we want to help you pursue the relationships that matter most and Wilson and Dave Wilson and you can find us if family life today.com or on our family life app is family life today.

I'm always excited when the topic is family and with family like today that important topic for family almost every day. But this topic today is going to be specifically about families and even when you bring that word up to conjures up emotions and feelings. I know it the weekend to remember we've been speaking at that for 30 years some years and yeah and so at the beginning when we split up into men and women sessions I'll say to the women. Can you say a word and I want you just to blurt out what comes to mind when I say this word in the first word I say is mom and so women will start responding with the highest of praise all amazing, wonderful, present, and then you'll have absent abandons you know so you have these highs and lows and I think I can happen with the word family because some of us have had the most wonderful experiences and some of us have had really hard experiences mean you know this but on the other side of the outer wall in the hotel ballroom I'm speaking to the men when I say what comes your mind when you think of your dad the word dad is emotional.

I mean, again, it's similar.

You hear positive skill. I think they think they can't say anything negative I somebody will say something negative in this order opens up a flood of emotions in the room and I've got it to you right here think my den. I think absent. He just wasn't there and so the word family is emotional worded so that attached to emotions growing up in the now. His parents were trying to create something that when our kids were are asked mom or dad. They have a positive feeling scary because you think I know where my kids get a say and what will they think when they hear the word non-so today we get to listen to a message that I gave a couple years ago at our church on family ELA. You are my favorite preacher. What else you gonna say. I think I can say nothing you or I love it when you face is glad somebody does. This was is obviously topic I'm passionate about and I'm trying to say.

Okay, what's the ideal family that we all have a vision. Our head and what does the Bible say that looks like and then also say we can't reach that.

So for not the ideal were the real how in the world do we live, and I hope to give people a clear picture of.

There is a beauty in being a real family and doing to God's way and it looks like this.

Here's the thing about family. If you think about it if we don't have you know we have all the things that are in common.

What do we have in common and everything. Here's one of the first things I thought of. If you're like me, you, you know this in your family. You're the smartest person in the entire family. My right there's nobody here family as smart as you, MRI, you say that I love it. If you go to a family gathering you would just love to grab Mike when you go ahead if you give me 20 minutes I can fix all this you know you need to get a job and you stop drinking so much as you start treater in my right. We all have opinions on family and were always right and there was wrong because you're the smartest person feel here's the other thing that I thought about family that we all have in common. Family is wonderful and family is hard for some it can even think family is wonderful. Maybe your versus been really really bad is that wonderful off, but I think every marriage, every relation of every job or report life.

There's parts of the debtor are wonderful, beautiful. There's other parts that are really really difficult. MRI think about this family is not neutral. Family is emotional. The word father or dad is not a neutral word. It's emotional. You hear that word and you have emotional thoughts, good or bad, or in between MRI and I are speaking next weekend we can remember family life. We can remember marriage on Sunday morning that conference with the newness of 30 years, we will separate the husbands and wives from each other for the just the morning session and I will speak to the men about being a husband and a dad from God's point and speak to the women about being a wife and mom. Here's how I'll start the dead talk is uniquely almost the same everywhere I go. I'll say guys get picture your mind of your dad okay was the first word comes your mind when you think your dad and José yell it out and word start coming out of the audience and their emotional it might be really good.

Using the word start and are good and somebody will be honest and say he wasn't there or he was a drunk or and then bam they come out here like. While this is not family is not neutral you think your mom you think of a brother or sisters or uncle or aunt, or cousin like your bike at cousin Eddie and their family right.

Here's another thing that we all know already set families are not perfect. There are no perfect families, the Wilson's, of course, but there are no perfect families are not going to sit right here so I can't say anything today here it is correct because he was part of that family. But it's like there are no perfect families and so here's all I do today is like we want to look at what God's dream for the family was about you, but the family I grew up in single mom dad gone really didn't know them shows everyone as I can remember lying in bed and thinking why can I be in Mark Davis's family there.

The failures on my best friends who live just down the block is dead.

Money is mom with a marriage of three brothers.

They take me on those trips to their little cabinet had many bikes and four wheelers in we let off dynamite and the cereal for dinner and they walked around pajamas all the time and they were fond that I had nobody just my mouth. My little brother died. I remember planning delicacy Lisa God. Why do I have this family and Marx got that family. Some he felt that the surveyors overlook it for the series. What is God's dream for the family.

So it's really interesting out of your Dennis to go to the Bible you pick it up, you say okay what is family like in the Bible. Let's look at families in the Bible to get a vision for what God wants the family to be. Have you ever done this.

I didn't know this. I thought all the families of Bible perfect is her right about as perfect as on just about do this, I'll give you a quick very quickly. You should design your own families in the Bible are you talk about imperfect. I don't know if there's a good one anyway.

Maybe one the first family was it Steve husband wife go.

Adam chose Eve over God as John Elder says he says man chose woman over got a minute been doing it ever since their sons first homicide in the Bible for chapters and you got a murder from the first families kids all that's going really well right you get to the patriarch Abraham. We talked about last week. What you do hi honey lie as if they think you're my wife there to kill me. So say you're my sister okay that's going really well again.

I could do this all day you go all the way through the Old Testament is the first civil in history is who father son David Civil War, Thousands of People Are Killed Because of Father Son to Go If You Read the Story like We Could Stop This, but That's Family Imploding. I Don't Think That Was God Treatment Had Several Wives and Concubines like That Was Ever Got Something Wasn't yet Mended. This Is so You Don't Look There so They Okay It's Better to New Testament Right so You Go to New Testament Jesus Family Think about This One, They Lose Him at the Temple for Three Days. If You Do Get to Jail You Know Your Son Is for Three Days.

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We Gotta Find It Somewhere.

I That's the Premier Family Is Unbelievable but Here's a Quick Question Was Is Give You a Flyby Real Quick and What God Says about the Family in Terms of the Ideal Is If You Read the New Testament. This Is Where You Get God's Vision for the Family and Redo Just a Couple Verses You Bounce around and Many of You Will Hear the Single Man Is so Old School That Is like You 100 Years Ago, I Summoned That Culture. When This Was Written.

This Was Revolutionary Thinking. Why Because Women Were Not the Property Shoulder Were Not Even Capt. Leslie Could Give Them Some Kind of Legacy so They Had No Value and Jesus Walks in Us. It Is Made That Elevates Women to the Same Status As Men. This Is a Male-Dominated Culture Where Women Had Jesus Elevates Them and Then As You Go through the Rest of the Test of the Apostle Paul Writes Much.

Peter Writes Much about Marriage and Family. Any Elevates Children Any Elevates Women and He Says This Is What God's Dream for the Family As I Get You Think This Is Very Old-School, and yet in That Time. This Was like Brand-New Thinking Here about Ephesians 6 Will Start with Children First Visa Successes. Children Obey Your Parents in the Lord, for This Is Right As I Know, Just Happen in the Room, All the Parasites Yes Yes You Here That's on Your That You Go Home Right Now You Hear the Rest of This Is, Obey Your Parents in the Lord, for This Is Right. This Is Look This Honor Your Father and Mother As I Come from a Rhino Want to Take Members Which Is the First Commandment with a Promise He Went with the Promises. The Promises If You Honor Your Father, Mother, You Will Live a Long Life. He Connects Honoring Your Parents with a Good Life. Think about That One, Because All Very Trader like Yeah I Want My Kids to Hear That They Need Obey Me. Let Me Ask You a Question.

Parents Have You and Are You Honoring Your Parents Trust Me on This One There a Copy More What You Do Than What You Say or Even with the Bible Says, How You Doing with That One.

That's Just One Perspective Alike.

Here's What It Would Look like from God's Dream for the Family There Be a Sense of Honor to Parents and Back to Children and beyond.

Okay, Jumped Out Of the Book of Colossians Were Paul Is Writing Wives You Love This One. Wives, Submit Yourselves to Your Husbands, As Is Fitting. Lord, That Goes a Dozen Husbands, Love Your Wives and Do Not Be Horses and by the Way I Can. Let Me Just Coherent.

That's Revolutionary Thinking to Them. I like What I Also Love My Wife.

She's Just My Wife. Jesus Piece of Property. I Got a Wife and Kids. They're Here to Serve Me.

Got a Change in the Whole Paradigm.

L. Let Me Give You Vision What My Dream for the Family Is Theirs Honor Going Back and Forth with Obedience to One Another. Their Submission to One Another and There's Love and Not Harshness with Your Wife and Your Children in a Goes on to Say Fathers Do Not Embitter Your Children or They Will Become Discouraged Again Raising the Value of Children. This Was Revolutionary in That Time and so Is Gidget Pictured in the Last One First Peter Weigela Businesses Husbands in the Same Way Be Considerate As You Live with Your Wives, and Treat Them with Respect Again. New Thinking Changing an Entire Culture.

You and I We Heard These Things, Why It Should Be Our Culture Now, but Where Did This Start.

This Started with God's Design for Marriage and Your People Say the God's Design for Marriage Is Outdated and It Is the Bars Been Raised to This Is the Ideal so I Just Put These on One Side Is like. Here's a Summary of What We Just Read from New Testament for the Different Areas of Family Husbands Here for Called to Do Otherwise. Be Considerate, Not Harsh How You Doing Wives Submit to Your Husbands, How You Doing Children Obey and Honor Your Parents.

Fathers Don't Irritate Your Children. There Is a Picture That Centers the Ideal. That's the Ideal Family from God's Perspective. So Here's a Question, How You Doing on That. The Real Doesn't It Match the Ideal Is Really Interesting.

What Does God Say to Us Who Are Not Reaching for Struggling with That Because Nobody Here Does All That Perfectly We Don't Live the Ideal. We Live in This Reality of the Real and There's a Gap Let Listen This.

What Does Jesus Say about That Yuri Says When You Don't Reach the Ideal He Says I Forgive You and I'm Gonna Die for That Is What He Says He Doesn't Change the Ideal or Lower the Ideal He Keeps the Ideal Right Here. He Doesn't Redefine Marriage to Be What the Culture Wanted to Be. He Says No. This Is God's Design for Marriage and Family, You're Never Gonna Headed but That Gap I Died for. I Love You Anyway.

I Take Care Of That.

I Forgive You Now, I Will Show You Who I Am. I Will Fill You with Me If You Believe and I'll Give You the Power to Start Living Closer to the Ideal Than the Really Are so Sad. That's the Beauty and the Power of the Gospel and That's What Happens When We Invite Christ in Our Life. He Says Okay You're Never Going to Hit My Ideal. I Do Not, Lord, to Your Culture, It Still the Ideal, but I'll Give You Power to Live Closer That You Understand That That's the Beauty of Give Your Life to Christ and That's What Happens. A Family of Faith Should Look Different Than a Family without Why Because There's a Power Source Available Only Plug in the Christ That Gives Us the Ability to Get Closer to the Ideal Say Okay for Now Can Be on a Receipt.

Ideal Got Live in Reality What We Do Is Give You One Word That I Hope Is a Word That Permeates the Atmosphere of Your Home, You May Be Empty-Nesters like Me, It Does Matter Permeates Your Family Structure.

Whatever Structure This One Were to Notice You Were Young. On the First Service Grace and Assorted Is Grace That Hears the Word That Came to Me This Week on Her I Probably First Sought to Study in Ephesians 6 about Honor Your Mother and Father, but It's the Word Honor and I'll Never Forget Years Ago Back in the DHS Days When We Watch the Tape Analyzers Are for Service Was a Tape of Guiney Gary Smalley Wrote a Book Called the Blessing a Thought about This Word Honor I Never Heard This before, so I Looked It up and Study the Hebrews. The Word in the Old Testament for Honor and Exit Word for Blessing and Honor Comes from Our Roots.

That Means Thou or to Bend the Knee. I Love You Know Hebrew in the Jewish Culture Is Is so Very Visual like Every Word, Every Ceremony Had Such a Visual Thing Is so Beautiful in the Really into Just beyond Words That the Pastor Thinks Something about This. The Word Blessed When You Bless Someone or You Show Them Honor It Literally Is This You Been, or Bow the Knee Now in Our Culture, We Don't Do That We Don't Live in a Culture That Some I Wanted to Go, You Know, Showing Them Honor by Getting Low and Bowing to Them, but There Are Cultures That Still Do That Right and It's a Beautiful Picture Because the Bless Someone Here's What Happens When You and the Need Is Someone You Are Saying by Your Posture. What I Am in the Presence of Someone Extremely Valuable.

Their Valuable Honor. They Are Weighty, the Word Want Honor Comes from the Word Weighty Vacuum Add Value to Their Life by Honoring Them Blessing Them by Your Posture and Again When I Can Literally Bow but It's a Great Image Assignment When You're in the Presence of Somebody Really Valuable. You Bless Them and You Honor Them Is like Him to Show You Value and Add Weights to Who You Are.

I Think about That.

We Still Have Some of This in Our Culture.

How Does a Man Propose to a Woman on His Engagement. This Is What They Do Ever Ask Why This Is What They're Doing There Saying by Their Posture. You Are Extremely Valuable.

I Am Saying Your Most Important Woman in My Life. I Would like You to Be My Wife Forever. It's a How You Posture and by the Way, Some Your Wife You like You Can Just Stay There and Do This or Hold Marriage Stress, Your Life Would Be Good like We Do That One Day and It Goes When It Said Daily Family Believe That I Am in the Presence of a Mom or a Wife or a Dad Son, Her Brother, Who Was Extremely Valuable. None Were Never Going to Do This, but We Can Show Honor by Placing Value on Them. By the Way We Treat Them. We Serve Them, We This Is Family Life Today and We've Been Listening to the Message You Gave Dave Back in Our Church on the Family.

Yet I Tell You What I Was so Excited I Member to Give This Message Because We Get into This Concept of Honor and You Remember I Do Early in Our Marriage We Listen to Gary Smalley.

He Was Asked Favorite the Day He Was Amazing and He… Is As Great As Suffers. Grady Wrote a Book on It. But When He Taught and We Read about Honor. I'd Never Heard It Taught like That. The Concept Is We Just Heard Bend in the Show Honor and Reverence to Someone As Their Extremely Valuable and What You Thought about What That Looks like in a Home with Your Kids Felt Honored If Your Spouse Felt. Honor Your Parents Thought Honor It Would Change the Entire Climate Environment and Really Aroma of the Home and People Want to Rent It at Home for Sure yet. It's the Way God Treats Us, He Honors Us and We Don't Deserve It and You Get into This a Little More and I'm Excited to Hear the Rest That Because the Truth Is That We Live This Perfectly in the Wilson Home. Guess We Didn't Know He Didn't Know, We Didn't Even Come Close, but At Least We Had a Goal, You Know, like, What's Honor to Look like in Our Marriage in the What's Gonna Look like in Our Family.

It Could Be a Great Conversation, Even to Have It Your Dinner Table Tonight Is This, Do You Feel like I Honor You. Do You Feel like We Honor One Another in Our Family. My Wife Miriam and I Were Talking This Week with a New Bride Who Was Lamenting the Fact That She Keeps Messing up As a Wife. She Says I'm Not Doing This Right.

I'm Not Doing It Perfectly. She Was Really Feeling A Lot Of Pressure for the Ways in Which She Feels like She's Failing As a Wife and We Reminded Her of All of the Things She's Doing Right and Then Reminded Her That the Good News of the Gospel Is That Jesus Knows Were Not Going to Get It Right That Were Continuing to Grow and That There Is Grace and Forgiveness.

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