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June 17, 2021 2:00 am
Since the voices we listen to have so much power in our lives, comedian Michael Jr. gives us insight on how to deal with "the hecklers."
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Got another question for you. The question is, what's the toughest hardest moment of our marriage. I would say her tenure infection. Is there any good came out of it. I mean, I feel like our lives totally changed direction because the night when I told you I had nothing left. I had no feelings for you like our marriage was a point 5/10 and I thought it was done. And yet God but God in his grace and his power in his sovereignty took us to a holy place and has allowed us in our brokenness to share the truth of the gospel that Jesus can change everything. Welcome to family life today where we want to help you pursue the relationships that matter most and Wilson and Andre Wilson. You can find us if we live today.com or on our family life app is family life today was the toughest hardest moment of her marriage, I would say her 10 year anniversary.
I knew you could answer the exact liquors and that dark moment. We both thought it was over. God shows up not only saves our marriage but then says I actually want to use that moment to help you discover your purpose is to help other marriages and here we use our pain in the past is right here so we get interview Michael Junior, who many people would know as a comedian but if you ever listen to them or you read his his new book. Funny how life works. You discover he's more than just a funny guy. He has purpose behind humor, so my Junior welcome to fair alive today were so glad to have you all so much for real, where circuit is over working out your dog .051 all yes and I thought we were 9.5. I was so clueless again and that moment I did know what was going to happen. And yet it's the moment, just as you've shared in your book and in your comedy that God uses the setbacks to set us up for our punch line item you told that everywhere you go you even told that in our churches. We did. Funny how marriage works a date night for couples where you brought the funny and we brought the marriage and it was just a beautiful beautiful night, but I love what you do in your book.
I love what you do in your life and it's literally never heard a comedian talk about how you talk about the punch line. That's your whole so again tell us what the punchline means because it's about pain in your purpose or pain be in your purpose.
Your purpose so you part of the wall is a great name your wrestler yet soldiers are paralleled in comedy in life.
One example of your freshman in comedy. Everyone I figure we were before. When Indiana Freud headed down to show 100 years ago. Namaste, one of the worst poverty comedy and heckled but is due back and winning the war. 21. Michael Junior I wonder what all black people look like hell freezes is like a free you get mad cochair, what happened with me and set this as all heck of a infraction with Dr. Goldblum. I will say, do, how the scope workout you know and what I said these words out even think of when I said these words. I was here for first talk was I not doing a lot of black people look like a look-alike guy could I hold you sheet a lot bigger all the place exploded in laughter dude who said it to me stood up on his chair and gave me a standing ovation will direct the it was amazing moment. So there's a few things that took place in that moment. Instead of addressing pain with pain because clearly it was in some pain, I just showed up at my gift just like God and give us all gifts. I just took a breath and deliver what I felt like I should deliver. I responded I supposed to react.
The other thing to happen is I just recognize it was a heckler in a heckler's part of what you have to do what is a comedian when life when you're in pursuit of your purpose, you're going to have heckler the hecklers of our people around you don't necessarily want you to succeed speaking negativity into what it is you're trying to accomplish. Unfortunately, more times than not, that heckler is and even exterior that heckler is your own communication with yourself. Say you not do it. Marriage on the last apparent American laugh last. Why would yours. You have to know how to address the heckler. The Bible actually says cast on every impure thought that is not God. That's a tool in which you use to address the heckler greater tool be followed up with God's word. God's word that counter what ever the heckler just said you liked is going to be hecklers. You have to know how to dress up.
If you have any had was at all. That just means you're not walking your purpose because if you're walking in your purpose.
I'm guaranteed somebody someone in some way is going to try to stop it `that is confirmation that you walk in the right direction.
It's easy to think that people that are somewhat successful in Iraq off that your really successful year movie star.
Do you ever hear hecklers voices in your head now absolutely hear them all the time but I know I address them immediately how'd he do that because I guess almost everybody has a heckler I would say that that can be old voices in her head that can be Satan that can be old wound. So how do you deal with that. So what I do immediately select say something like I'm hearing a voice say no. I do like your book.
As I graduate high school ring, 1/4 grade level, writing a book. So heckler my demo blog and read his book. He came right and always assume this is Satan, or to my workable and then followed up God's work and I say I'm more than a conqueror. You think it's just natural. So you have to address that scenario because what what is happening. You probably let some negativity in the ear gate or I get some work in a movie watch my missing radio, something we heard the phrase, and now the enemy is using what you saw against you, and reminds me of Romans 12 to Paul says don't be conformed to this world that is transformed by the renewing of our minds. And I tell you talk about the heckler I had that in my mind for years. I like you can't do that near ugly. You can't do this. I just would go there with that it created this neurological pathway Highway in my head that I would just normally out.
That's just where I go down that road and down that path.
Even in my marriage I would critique Dave in my head and I would think he would only do this and when God when I was reading that and I felt like Lord, I need you to transform my mind. I need you to renew it. It's like it's hard at first, it takes practice. So I like that you're committing Scripture over it and then your choosing to take a new pathway. At first it can seem a little like they have never done this but after a while that old Highway. That old pathway has weeds on it and it's not as easy to go back to it but I love the practicality of what you're saying is the heckler we have literally made her go.
I spoke to about this right.
One of them played for a team that was going to win the Super Bowl. They lost in the very last play member of the Seahawks and the patriots lost in the very God wonders that was done for two weeks late on his house to go to work two weeks to suck up his coffee talk you start to believe anything about thoughts are with people all day long. You need to make sure you don't expressively try to do something.
Dan insert a comedy in your life is what I hope I like to do some anybody's good laugh if you go to Michael Junior.com/extra you can get more comedy special, downloaded for free. No charge. What would your entire family can enjoy their summers negativity in a power struggle in the world who want to get as much laughter. People time to go right now I don't expect random things.
It just hit me when you are talk about the hecklers and I read the same thing in your book is how much Scripture you just quoted from memory as you talked about it and did the same thing and I thought so many of us.
We have hecklers we don't know Scripture, we haven't stored it away. We haven't memorize it so we can't counteract it.
We don't even know what our identity is in Christ, as he never really read it. Your quote in Philippians 413 your quote got me just movable bullets like look at what you've stored away so that the Holy Spirit can bring it up in that moment is and I've hecklers. We all hecklers a way that we may take the thought captive second printing is 10 take that thought captive. But what we replace it with you – that's it right. Yes, you spoke back to the heckler return the whole you know room around and we often don't speak back and we don't know what to do it that I know there's a song is been around quite a while now. A worship song that I would play in our worship in church every time I hear the line I tear up back there in the base plan. I don't sing their let me sing but get unplanned and you know the line because I am surrounded by the use of the father. I am surrounded by some minutes you know that it's just an indemnity song. I'm no longer slaves to fear. I am a child of God, and it's one of those moments where you have to say that to yourself to remind yourself the hecklers wrong. The truth is I'm a child of God, and that's my identity and I can walk out freedom and I can even laugh at a joke because I'm free to build enjoy humor sober.
I have a good friend his teenage daughter was really struggling with anxiety and depression. She was hearing that heckler constantly reminding the girl was brave enough to tell her mom was going on in her head and the mom just started playing Scripture on her mirrors Scripture wherever she would go and just sticking out Nancy Spicer.I can take it away, and pretty soon. Her daughter started adding the Scripture to it to the point that when the mom walked into the room the entire mirror was full of Scripture just saw this little place for her face was all around. Her face was Scripture she said to it that we just discount the power of the word of God and discount how it affects our kids and our hot our spouse and our family like it's powerful I mean Jesus did it. That's how he got rid of the heckler you know when Satan tempted him in the desert, so that's big it's good soul group. Remarkably talking much of the show could go with Brinker's mind. You were thought Dave.
My reason for assessing we start singing or you do, do not I get a legacy but a letter so that a so many great stories in the book I made honestly the second chapter and again, maybe that's not what your favorite stories with the story in the pit of my dad drew a matter of you want to tell us a story, but it was. I mean there were several times I don't want to miss this, I cried reading your book I might tear it up. Our level of laugh in one moment teared up in the next and I'm like wow look at the how God uses humor to open a heart and then truths to just drive it home and you do that so well so talk about that living in the pit or get out of the pit yes all Mike for two years old and I had a job will take place. One day I were going to pick 14 years old. My morning started like 6 o'clock in the morning walk to school to football practice go to school cuts to buses will take place value.
Working on these cars.
It was hard hard work.
I learned a lot, and then periodically outcome about the pigs also passed out finish of three basic cars before the Gaza topper every don't see changing oil change. From change in oil and I would come and talk to help people know at Eric's retired would not know we got this new Assistant Manager do. In this dude was he was right, I'm super slow to call people racist like I'm really really slow always tried to keep her benefited out just challenged African-American doctoral work necessary. Like me. So one day about a minute in the pit and I decide to call for help. Everybody in this tooth has become cross-linked like big Mark is his name in the book you don't have a phone call from a customer that I buy off as a junior boy, get yourself back on the pit where you belong and I could respond to his own amusement. Don't respect them. My fourth year ago and I'm her position. The first time a system like that to me talk that much about it and then I hear his voice that reminds me of my dad's voice and he says Mark Khmer, my heart starts bubbly because I know the market in trouble and the reason I boy sound like my dad's voice is because it was my dad towards my dad was the area manager and he just happened to pop into that locational work at the exact time.
He says that to and I can see exactly was taking place because I'm in the pit. You can imagine, I'm down in the pit. I have a car over the top my head there's probably about 8 inches of overview that I have two of my dad and this other guy in there walking often all I can see is there boots focusing marks size 9 or maybe 10 dad's black size 13 and are both walking in markets followed behind my back and they get ready to talk but I can't hear what you're saying because the engine starts up the trade of money and on my bottom up to all like to see is about 6 inches at her feet, and the bulk told her told face each other and then at some point C marks left boot. Leave the brown, which to me indicates he's about to walk off and no longer listen to my dad said when effort raises up then the right foot also raises up both feet are hovering off the ground as my dad is communicate with the illegals back to the ground. The motor turns off like it's a movie I don't hear what was said by go back out. The pit went out of the bathroom and Mark is suddenly the most amazing individual. He is the most helpful person I've ever met and I hope you get anything as anything but what took place as my dad explained to me sit explained to me earlier in the story about how it's very important that I meet people where they are with regard to customers and communicate communicate to customers like all committed to my home is that you can't do that you have to meet people where they are when the incident happened with Mark afterwords.
He said son is very important to understand how to be people worry are sometimes you gotta let them know where you're from Chile. Literally walk through the whole situation and I look back at the book, I realized there's a lot of people right now. Such a mix is pandemic you feel like you're in a pit, but you have a father who wants to take you out of that pit wants to protect you, wants to make sure you're in the right place. You just have to be willing to do what it is is causing the Duke to walk in the purpose he has for you. Just trust. Sometimes it feels like it's worse at first, but as my dad said currently. It may be worse.
At first it will get greater later just got a pretzel work Mark Eisele did another one. I love that it it connects to the father's sort of voice. I remember the guys name that your body that had the nice cars study Serta picked up from some friends.
Mathematically, yeah, that was only dad on the one used to.
He would never buy me stuff I committee would never did get mixed up in my friends parents were always just buying stuff and give it to him in high school and I would never buy me things you bunched up and he said to me, all parts will give us he was going after the one that you guess what he said was, I guess he was having told to get all the girls got the best loan sales rectangle hacks and I'm sitting here with this smolder anyway.
So one day when my friends rose up a brand-new car. The way it's really nice car really nice car and when it was Bill who always had the latest things he he was the first person on neighborhood who have a pair of black tennis shoes like tissues didn't exist until this dude showed up a pair of black Reeboks and it was so awesome I never was part of the black rebuttal for three securities black Reeboks in like manner as possible. He pulls up in a T top Trans Am and am leaning over Trans Am talking tool and it is a brand-new call is like a man, he will become as it would make the girls and I wanted to go discard nice and right before I get ready.
Think about getting in to hear my dad's voice say to me because she was going happen one day. Don't get too close to home. What watch what you don't watch it, and I hear his voice out of nowhere and for whatever reason I like not mankind will go medical costs, aggressive state led to cut the grass in the backyard which is miserable every 20 torturing the thing that struck me. He pulls all burn rubber boy you like best friends in high school who takes off cut grass. I got a portable screen like 86 times whatever I finished cutting the grass and sit near my dad comes only turns on the news, but he always did was sit there watching TV dinner.
Some lady on the news reporting about an accident that took place on the 130 more frequent and I'm sitting here watching Mac I can go nowhere. Can't do anything and if there was a Trans Am like Trans Am us with the prayer but with Trans Am still completely still and I'm still not plenitude in a little bit of this a black and red Trans Am. Just like the way had my heart, being like a notice. Try not to waste product away and initialed a car wreck and they say that the car hit a pole over 100 miles an hour the driver was thrown out of the T tops the car flipped four times in landed on top of drug and at this point and unlike please don't be doing.
Please don't be away please please please please don't and then on revenues lady saying this is Carol Jones or something. Signing off the 131 freeway in the hardest part upon the particle. He never said it may end in the last camera shot. I will never forget the very last camera shot was on a black Reebok tissue and I was done I knew it was him. I took my dad. I think that is what we did in the car would go to check on Alyssa know like you know like no and I got in a car with there's no way I was going to buy it because for whatever reason and that moment I was able to hear my father's voice in the midst of some excitement and will seem like it will be fun. I was able to hear my father's voice there's people out there probably listen, there's a lot of excitement is a lot of fun and a lot of confusion is pandemic talk this through back can you be still for a moment and be here to father's voice before you make that choice and if so, I think you have a pretty awesome story. On the other side of yet. I think you know as I read that in your book and you just did it again how you drive home the priority in the critical fact that you listen to the father's voice. I mean I'm thinking there's a husband listen right now who's thinking about an affair or going to a website or sign a contract and he's been here in the still small voice. Maybe it's a shout of the father said don't do it you know where this could tell the enemy you did not get that car because of a nudge from your father's voice and saved your life. This could save your marriage could save your legacy. I don't know. I got sent just affect your listeners broadcasting here and story is God speaking and he said don't do it. Don't get caught up in doing the math God says don't do it and you don't even know why but you can figure out why you would do it. Going to try to grow up like there's nobody providing them Jesus was going to get my car outside no idea who God was none at all. I thought God was somebody that you bring up after some might leave us all about his goblet should show don't try to do the math on well if I don't do it. Like God is saying this will happen. This is no don't even do that Mac just trust and will watch what takes place when whatever that thing is walkway walk away from the deal or just decide not to meet up with that person, whatever that is. Listen to his voice and watch what will take place yeah I'm sitting here beside my wife of 40 years because of the knowledge of God, tell me to walk away from a relationship with a girl is gonna marry in college I thought she was the one and the guy kept saying no no and I kept saying I don't care what you think I know better. When I finally realize God is right, I me I would've never met you while we never be here, there would be a legacy I would be in ministry at tribe you divorced man today. You know Lewis would've copied what I saw my own home and again. That's how powerful God's voice is. He loves us. He is a better plan for us and we have and it's just the fact of heaven encourage Sam to do the right thing and it would cause me to do a thing as really struck me with both of you with Michael you and you day his the power of the dads voice the power of the father's voice and then if you put a godly man with that, like your dad was a great man and then it for you. Two men Michael and Dave and he put Jesus in your licensee have the power the Holy Spirit is like pierced superpowers. You know it's a great way to put it here such strong mandate hear God's voice.
The father's voice and so that makes your voice in the home with your kids with their wives anywhere you work like it's such a powerful voice.
I think it's easy for us to feel like our voices don't really matter. Kids are like whatever that they really do have so much power and they have so much influence in your homes. I look at Dave and have always been jealous have told Mike Challis at the power you have over our kids lives used talk and there's just like oh that's good. Dad where you know they can give me that I roll thing when they were younger man, I just think it's important for men to hear the power that you carry and then when you listen to God's voice on top of that, it's your superpower father's dad began to come by with a light on a lot of your dog what you hear voices all time just don't know which one it might be God. So there's three ways to know God talk to number one.
It always lined up with work, whatever that thing is whatever you do, it will always line of work to be confirmed with one or two other believers like minded people that was his name.
That was her name from like-minded believers. Number three you will feel peace about if you got those three things jump water God of my proof. That's right. If I got those three things I don't do anymore Mac there's no more math to do is run, jump and do it and you see in a book or something that I've done. It was really hot out there and looking back at it is because I had all that even on the map and just jump over to New York I moved to New York City on New Year's Eve night.
I got off stage in Royal Oak, Michigan camp, Castle God and must 1997 Chevy Lumina start driving to New York City.
All my possessions in my car, my car got stolen everything about me was just gonna listen. But God completely worked out because I just jumped because I knew I heard his voice stop doing the math God's map is difference yeah I just get a say get Michael's book just seriously. Funny how life works are so many stories like this that have life-changing truth, you get a read of this to be a fun book to read with your family. I feel like a kid before bed. One chapter a night. The kids would love it and the proceeds parted all of the proceeds conversing with the world is going to a black family in America definitely is he have copies of Michael Junior's book.
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