R393 Living Well With One Another Part 2

Welcome to this edition of The Encouraging Word featuring the Bible-based preaching of Dr. Don Wilton and a message on living well with one another. Today we bring you the conclusion of this two-part series as we study not only how we work well together, but more importantly how we work well with God leading us, guiding us and directing us every single day will be headed to Ephesians book chapters 5 and six and just moment with Dr. Wilson want you know we have a number of resources available 24 hours a day on our website. Haven't been lately. It's a brand-new website, freshly redesigned@dewonline.org drop by today TE W online.org while you're there.

Would love to have you follow*social media and sign up for the daily Encouraging Word devotional an email from Dr. Wilson every single day. You can sign up today online@tewonline.org now Dr. Don Wilton what it means so what it means to be some object to one another, as unto the Lord Jesus Christ.

It means my friends that we are never going to have absolute efficiency in our relationship. We are never going to enjoy a smooth working in our relationship and we are never going to experience complete and ultimate victory in our relationship.

What God is saying here is listen if you want to know how to get along with one another. You need to understand God's order many years ago during the Los Angeles riots Rodney King, who was beaten up brutally by the police went on television and he said, and we will never forget.

Let's just get along chronically just get along with one another and the apostle Paul is saying that listen the reason why people don't get along is because of I me and myself. And when you subject me and myself under the ship of Jesus Christ and you understand the spiritual dynamic of what it means to be subject to one another out of reverence for the Lord. Guess what's going to happen you going to have complete victory. Most marital problems come down this issue. Most problems in the workplace come down to decision problems at school on the faculty come down to this issue. Problems in the church can come down to this issue.

Much of conflict resolution, even in the Church of God. My friend is when people begin to rescue ascendancy over the Lordship and the headship of Jesus Christ and many people in the church today say that the church is a democracy where everybody has arrived.

The Bible says the church is not a democracy. It's like theocracy in which Jesus Christ is the head of the church. Jesus Christ is the head of the church. What is Paul sorry he saying here that the whole idea behind our relationships with one another must carry with it the complete relinquishing of our rights to one another. First Corinthians 1616 Paul said be in subjection to faithful ministers and everyone who helps in first Peter chapter 2 verses 13 through 15. Submit ourselves for the Lord site for such is the will of God nations you have no order resulting anarchy folks are being around some of those nations many years ago I was given some of those nations. Anarchy when order begins to break down anarchy breaks loose. That's when we usually have to send in the United States troops and try to arouse the United Nations from the lethargy to do something about it and all these things. Anarchy breaks loose because there is no order. And God says if you want to get along with one another follow my order of things. The writer to the Hebrews in chapter 13 in verse 17 talking about the church, put it like this.

He said by our leaders and submit to them. Why because they watch over our souls, as those who will give account and so God takes these principles and he applies them to the hope. What is he say husbands, love your wives, wives, submit to your husbands, children, obey your parents. Employees submit to your employer.

That's what God says and he uses as his illustration. The church now because of political correctness and nervous tension.

The questionable authority is become misdirected and distorted its become sometimes abused and misused in the hope in other words, friends, how can anybody expect a wire who is being abused by ungodly behavior on the part of the husband to submit to him, how can. How can anybody, Paul says, how can anybody expect the child to obey parents when those parents are exasperatingly children and are abusing them in whatever form or fashion that Mike Drake you see friends, not even the smallest household can function if each member to moms his or her her own way all the time. It's not going to happen. And here Paul explains that the structural function of the family like the church requires two things authority and submission that you have.

I listen carefully you type those two things out of your home out of your school out of your workplace out of your nation out of your state and you got the ground root of major problems authority and mutual submission that you can work it anyway you want to you can throw the Constitution of America edit. You can conjure up the ACLU to bring about a lawsuit you can devise every kind of plan and strategy ever known to man, but I'm going to say to you, beloved friends would God is saying is this like authority and submission out of reverence for the Lord out of any institution and you got the makings for cardio you got the root or the seedbed of problems down the road. There are two factors which are vital in the home and the church, one must be controlled by love and number two it must be modified by mutual and I want to emphasize by mutual submission. I love being a husband because most husbands boys. I love to talk about verse 22. But what we husbands don't seem to understand that if we looking at ratio and proportion fall more time is spent in the fifth chapter talking about husbands than about five. I think there's a reason for what is Paul sorry for says that the husband is the head of the wife, just as Christ is the head of the church. The husband must love his wife. In verse 25. Just as Christ loved the church. The husband must love his wife. In verse 28 and 33 just as he loves his own body and here's the clincher. This is the one where God just kind of goes overboard. He says the husband must give himself to his wife in the same way that Jesus Christ gave himself to his bride. Now, what did Jesus Christ do for his bride. He gave his life for her.

He gave his life for his church husbands today are you willing to give your life for your wife. Are you willing to submit to that extent. How far are we willing to go in order to submit to one another. The submission that God talks about in chapter 5. My friend is not a one-way street. God is not saying that wives need to get on their knees. He's talking about equal status in the glorious divine balance of the makeup of the female and the Maio and he says wives you submit to the headship of your husband in the home because and on the basis of the absolute sacrificial giving of the husband and love to his wife in the hope if you don't do that. How can your wife submit to you as the leader of the home. Every obedience and spirit filled Christian is I submitting Christian. That's what Paul is saying it's not just husbands or wives and the husband the mom submission but does not recognize he's own obligation to submit to his wife, distorts God's standards and cannot be a godly husband.

That's were pulled aside. Parents who do more on the obedience of their children, but are not adhering to God's standards are distorting God's divine order and all duty of upsetting the wonderful balance that God has in store for his children, not pull right through the apostles and through his letters talks about this for example in first Corinthians chapter 7 he talks about the physical relationship between a husband and wife and something very interesting that Paul says now folks listen very carefully this morning.

You can go to a therapist. You can go to a marriage counselor. You can read every book that's ever been printed about our physical relationships together because what Paul says in first Corinthians chapter 7 he gives us the secret he gives us the key, according to God's divine order of mutual submission.

What is a site he says the husband is not in charge of his own body, but the wife and the wife is not in charge of her own body, but the husband what is Paul sorry Paul is saying that if you want the key to absolute unity in marriage, physically, emotionally, spiritually and in every other way and in this instance he's talking about the physical relationship between a man and a woman he says he has the key selfishness has no part.

If you are selfish as a man, or if you are selfish as a woman you going to have problems in your marriage. That's what he sighed you have to do what you've got to know so you go to say what you and what I want is absolutely irrelevant compared to what my spouse for you and what my spouse wants.

It is a dictation of me and my so how because of the spirit of God in honor of my spouse. That's what submission is all about. Please forgive the eruption will be back in just a moment with the completion of Dr. Don Wilton's message living well with one another. Dr. Don Wilton me to remind you that we are available to pray with you and for you as we move forward in this struggle of not only making the best of our relationships. Living well with one another for the struggle that we have against good and evil. There is opposition to the Christian way of life. Today more than ever, and we have a wonderful resource about this spiritual warfare, including the strategy of Satan and what it means to be fortified on our website right now. It's a wonderful resource by TE W online.org. Take a peek at what is going to be. I think one of the most powerful resources remain available. This entire year I get is online right now@tewonline.org. The good news is we know who wins in the end, but the battle is very real and would love to pray with you and for you to connect with us at 866-899-WORD any time the prayer support for you.

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First and foremost for prayer, but also to connect with great resources like you find online in TE W online.org. Now back to today's great teaching with Dr. Don Wilton of The Encouraging Word, so it is here that will conjures up five pictures. First of all, Jesus Christ, and God wanted Jesus, I am God the father. He said not my will be done. The second picture he gives us with Christ and the church wanted Jesus to do for the church.

He loved the church and he gave himself of the church. Certainly husbands and wives. What is he saying the same way, husbands, love your wives, wives, submit to your husbands. The fourth victory gives us parents and children. The first picture he gives us is all slaves and monsters and when you bring it all together from the workplace to the playground of the school room to the board room to the White House and right there to the fireside in your own home where ever you all pull gathers together all the people of all world and he said listen, but use for you. You can get along together. You know how you can do it in Jesus Christ so wanted foresight or wives perhaps three things he says you have a manner it is, as unto the Lord Jesus Christ right there in verse 24 you have a motive. What is your motive. Jesus Christ is the head of the church. He looks all the wives of all the years and he says you have a model and his name is Jesus.

Then he turns to husbands and then he nails they hind leg to the wall.

He looks at husbands and he says can't you get ahead of yourself, buddy. Don't think more highly of yourself and your altar. What is he say the husbands. He said they must be absolute love in your heart for your wife. Second, they must be total sacrifice according to verse 25 second part, just as God, Jesus Christ gave himself up for the church. So husbands need to be willing to give themselves up for their wives.

They must be purity in the home purity in love.

They must speak head in the home for the wire for the children.

What is that would care how does Paul describe he relates it and he ties it into the way in which one cares for one's own body. What is he saying here Paul is saying if you want to know how to care for you.

Why just think of how you spend a lifetime trying to take care of you only how you're always looking to satisfy our number one Paul says that's what carries care is subjecting all the things that you do for yourself and giving that to the ones that you love and then he says the fourth, but not final instance to husbands. He says there's gotta be commitment. What kind of commitment. It's the leave could even become one flesh kind of commitment to verse 31.

He says you gotta be totally committed if you going to give you going to live in a right relationship. You gotta be willing to go 100%.

I've said this many times. Forgive me for signing up and I'm going to cite a thousand times more if I said to my wife when we got married many years ago to listen, I'm I'm going up I'm gonna love you was 97% of myself.

She wouldn't appreciate that you know why because we wouldn't accept anything that hundred percent because what happens in marriages we get married sign.

We gonna love each other hundred percent and as the years go by. We clipped off a few percentage so that by the time we get to 15 years or 20 years we loving one another with 60% and says it's not good enough. Not good.

It wont get the job done to children. Paul says oh by your peers because this is right the word right there is the same word that is tied into the righteousness of God.

It is pleasing to God. It makes God happy. But he says honor your parents and the fathers and mothers, he says, do not provoke you want to live in a right relationship done provoke them will. How can you provoke your children. Let me give you 11 suggestions number one by being overprotective. You can provoke your children by being such a fine mommy in such a fine daddy that you don't allow your children to do anything.

Never let them out of your sight during trouble you provoking number two favoritism. All children are different done show favoritism one over the other.

Number three comparisons you can provoke your children by making comparisons either with other children with next-door neighbors constantly telling your children about this one down the road and this one up the road. Number four. Unrealistic expectation. We dance all perhaps the worst with convinced by gonna run down the hill at Clemson and play ball. Just like we did with convinced I going to become a gamecock and I get to shoot hoops just like we do. They gonna throw football just like we did they gonna hit a ball down the fairway. Just like we did and we impose unrealistic expectations on them.

Number 45 public flashers you want to provoke your children.

I was in a grocery store in Spartanburg and some little young chap there had the misfortune about eight or nine years of age to find he's candy could not understand it, but as his mother was checking out his hand. Just suddenly started to lift. I mean I was there.

I watch that he couldn't help but there was about 10 rows of chocolates. What you think.

His hands going to die designed to do that please hand it was just a Leica and reaction and I just reached up and to just grab two or three of these things and stood there waiting for his mommy to say. But of course honey pot thickens. You can have all the chocolate you want. She didn't do that. She publicly lashed sheet tour strips out of him. She assassinated him.

She told everybody around a what she thought of him and what a nuisance he was and then turned and started to lecture me and the other lady that were there about all the pitfalls of this young boy folks let me tell you that is in excess usable behavior that is abuse of the highest order. It is acceptable.

Bible says done, provoke your children not spending time with them as provoking, discouraging them is provoking them, making them feel unwanted is provoking them.

How many parasite of the children. We didn't want to anyway your mistake. You were a surprise.

We didn't plan.

But I suppose you go now so we just yet. We think it's it's wonderful but it provokes our children.

What about a lack of discipline in the home, always living in a bloated day and I gonna speak to superintendents of schools to we got some of the finest superintendent of schools in Spartanburg anywhere in this country and had monsters and principals and school teachers and I going to tell you across the board. One of the greatest problems that we face today. My friends is an absolute lack of discipline in the home. Parents who refuse to tell their children that there are boundaries.

There's another one. Unlimited freedom you want to provoke your children tell them they can go anywhere at any time do whatever they want to do just call if you need anything Unlimited freedom parents or just let their children watch television without any kind of supervision or watching you not you doing your allowing your children to be fed with absolute drunk it's unlimited freedom. It doesn't matter what the constitution of America has to say about it folks.

This is God's preset God's principal spare the rod and spoil the child. We so nervous about it. People walking around in America waiting to see someone give their child a spring so they can report to the welfare society and the courts of the Lord. Upholding this, people can just do what ever they want to do and God's standards of discipline are null and void. What about physical or verbal abuse. You see, we could go on and on water sports. I look at that verse, Paul says fathers do not exasperate your children do not exasperate them.

Don't provoke them and then he gives to us the things that we must do instead bring them up in the training. Now that would training that is interesting because that word training is the word pioneer and that word is discipline bring them up in the discipline and in the teaching or instruction of what of the Lord Jesus Christ. What an incredible thing to think that God could perhaps be so interested in us that he gives to us. Some of these small details that help us you know something all of us here today might strike, but it's never too late.

It's never too late. God will bless you and your family because you are sincerely before him trying to do that which is will pleasing in God sign you been listening to Dr. Don Wilton but it's our prayer that the Holy Spirit, the Lord himself has underscored what Dr. Wilton said moments ago.

It's never too late.

No matter how far you feel like you've run from God. God is ready to rebuild and restore relationships, and most importantly, the relationship with him even hearing Dr. Don teaching now as he steps in the studio appraised. Open your heart to what he wants to share from his heart. Are you ready to give your heart and life to the Lord Jesus Christ. I'm so happy to hear that wanting to pray this prayer with me today. Dear God, I know you love me very, very, and I know that the Lord Jesus Christ came and died on the cross so that I might be forgiven of my sin.

Today, I repent of my sins, I can face my sin and I invite you to come and Jesus if you prayed that prayer that may be the first one welcome to the family of one. I hope that you know how much I'm going to be praying how very important this is for me: so we can talk to connect to the right place you can begin this wonderful journey.

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