Taking Care of Caregivers, Part 2

Learn the importance of sharpening us all concept now sharpening requires two things self-care as well as receiving care from other people put that in your note stage sharpening the soul requires self-care as well as receiving care from other people. Are you a giver by nature, you have a God-given gift to serve others. If you want to keep pouring out sooner or later you have to have something for it in with thanks for being here for today's destined for victory with pastor Paul Shepherd, Senior Pastor destiny Christian Fellowship in Fremont, California coming up next. A welcome reminder to all of you who spend so much time giving that you seldom have time for taking today's the day to re-energize to get a little help to sharpen yourself and stay with us now or visit Pastor Paul.net. You can listen in your recent destined for Victor message on demand. That's Pastor Paul.net for the life of Elisha.

Here's Pastor Paul. Today's destined for victory message taking care of caregiver's one of my favorite authors Stephen Covey, the classic books title was the seven habits of highly effective and Stephen expressed some really important truth throughout that book. I remember getting it in 1989, which is the year I moved to California. That was the year it came out and it immediately blessed me. Here I was a young preacher I was young back then I was 31 and and I came about his vision and ideas and excitement and all that and read my book just inspired me all the more he talked about how to be a highly effective person and it talks about seven key habits that highly effective people develop the seven habit is what drew my attention as I thought about this part of the series. The seven habit he learned sharpen the saw. Sharpen the saw.net down. That's important. An important concept sharpen the saw. Let me paraphrase the illustration he gives at the beginning of the chapter where he talks about the seventh habit. I'm paraphrasing the illustration you're in the woods you come upon an exhausted man working feverishly to Saul down the tree.

Picture this, you ask the man how long he's been added. He replies over five hours. You suggest that he take a break. He's worn out, gather himself, gather some strength and you suggest that he sharpens his Saul the man replies, I'm too busy to do that and that's how Stephen opened that section and of course to give many wonderful points as he teaches this value.

This habit that should be developed and there are a lot of us letting you listen to me right now. Even here in the sanctuary all online and you to have a doll.

Saul, you got a lot she was trying to do. But your Saul is jacked up and you're pushing and pushing and solid and sullen and working and working and frustrated and you need to learn the lesson of keeping your Saul shop sharpening the Saul is part of what's necessary for those of us who are caregivers for other people. If you're a parent dependence you are caregiver for other people on many of our jobs were caregivers, many of you all care for relatives outside of your immediate family you care for uncles and aunts and you care for elderly parents and you care for people in need in your extended family and you take care of a lot of folks. A lot of us are caregivers whether or not you do it by vocation from some of you are by vocation caregivers, but whether you are not most of us, especially people of faith who have learned that you can't just have faith to yourself. You gotta bless other people. We do a lot of caregiving, and it's a regular part of who we are and as I said last time someone was doing so much we don't stop and think about how much we give out. We just given out is just what you do you wake up and start given and so I need to talk to you and tell you based on this simple part of Elisha story that while he was coming back and forth in the showroom ministering the people prophesied "doing everything I do get Vogel more than the Lord help people in need, whatever God had them do a proper didn't have a job description. He just made what the Lord said to do and as he lived his life and this this show my woman saw him coming back and forth. She said you know what that man is when it was that about to become the town have anywhere to stay and she was well-to-do. I talked about that last time when the Bibles of the woman's well-to-do is very significant to me she marry money said because married money and so she's had money but she is respectful of her husband. She nods and then tell him I'm building, room you know that the wise women elect are. That way you know your husband probably don't know what we told you running things, but at least let him feel like you got some really let him feel like he saw me all the land that was the memory drop that owned into the we know you know what you will do. You had your mind made up, and she knew she go build him if she had the money was. He said honey why don't we build him a room. So when it comes to – explained he's a holy man to God we trust them and all that Celeste given his own little sleep and that meant building in Bible days admin building an extension by building up on the roof and he had his old penthouse suite and debridement of the modern time in their house and her husband know he's a guy I very he thinking is some you don't know what you will do but pretend like you might like you.

By partnering with us in when you read the Bible you could get it any was here when God created he mostly what he woke up and that is why she had been away and he was.

She always knew when it will end when his message so so based on the fact that she said last take care of this man who takes care of other people and somebody all need to learn the importance of the sharpen the soul concept now sharpening.

Saul requires two things self-care as well as receiving care from other people that in your note sharpening the Saul requires self-care as well as receiving care from other people. That's what I want to talk about the remaining half hour so and then I'll be done with this part of the series I need to talk to you about your commitment to do two things to practice self-care and your commitment to receive care from the people God will raise up like he raised up this woman for the prophet Elisha, God will raise up people who want to bless you. But you gotta be open to receive and a lot of people who spend their lives caring for other folks are great givers and poor receivers you got your grade you get A+ at given, but some of y'all get a D is not a flat out receiving the hill. God will send you pastor Paul Shepherd will be right back with the second half of today's destined for victory message taking care of caregivers. Remember, you can listen to this broadcast on demand@pastorpaul.net that's pastor Paul.net. There you find a host of great resources in our online store. You can also listen on your mobile device by downloading our free destined for victory, mobile search destined for victory. The app store and listen to pastor Paul right in the palm of your hand. Stay with us after today's message from Pastor Paul jointly from a studio in California, but first let's get back to the rest of the message. Taking care of caregivers once again is pastor Paul Shepherd so let's just talk about you. Do you have goals you want to reach task you need to accomplish assignments. You're preoccupied with completing desires. You are longing to fulfill and realize dreams that you can't wait to see come to pass. If you have any of that. I'm here to tell you you need to prioritize staying sharp.

You gotta stay sharp.

If you go do all that. Oh, I got so much I wanted to okay then you gotta stay sharp because you're not slowing down all the trees in your life with a doll. Saul and somebody all bless your heart. I love you but your doll has a lives in the potato truth.

I'm looking at you in your faith in your doll. Y'all online your doll know help me here is a return. Some I look at him.

Say your doll. Thank me I don't only one told is a male just told you. Some of us are trying to do good things. Praise God because God has put good things in our we look to that earlier in the series.

Matthew 12 Jesus said God puts good things and a good man out of what God puts in their heart brings forth good thing you got good things you want to do. Praise God. But you know it. If your doll gotta sharpen that Saul so that you're not working harder, working smarter, so I need you to I need to really get this summer.

Y'all are stressed your frustrated your dissolution been trying to do a good thing and it's not working out the way you wanted and you just get all frustrated mess that you had a good thing in my all and you could well I'm coming to give you an answer was wrong is not prioritizing the right things. You gotta be your best in order to do your best you can do your best and your raggedy falling apart so let's let's look at it look in Luke 10 verse 38 here in NIV as Jesus and his disciples were on their way. He went to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. Now these people lived in Bethany is about a mile and 1/2 or so from Jerusalem and he stops by their with his disciples because he has been establishing a relationship with this family.

One of the ways you're going to stay sharp when I talk I'm coming to is you gotta build the right relationships with folks who have a sharpen get there so we just look at this example from Jesus. Verse 39 of Lieut. She had a sister, Martha had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord's feet listening to what he said so get this Jesus that his disciples came to the house and Mary sees this is Jesus, and so she parks on the floor and just wants him to talk and Martha verse 40 is distracted by all the preparations that had to be made because right there so we all declare stuff in your life and having to happen and the fact is that half to happen. You might want to happen. It's a good thing but just get the essentials separated from the other desires at a starting point.

You got to prioritize the essentials goes out to and out of the strength that know when you have to lose you. You receive. You can then do something you want to so Martha feels like Jesus and the disciple to hear the cook.

The bomb meal and she is distracted by all the preparations she had to make.

She came to him, look at this frustration that Seminole can personally relate to see come to him all frustrated Lord, don't you care that my sister left me to do the work by myself. Help me.

I know you don't want to but come on, somebody just going to practice a lot of the how many of you know what it felt like she felt like that day in slow merit your life you got so distracted by everything you had to do that you took your frustrations out on other people and receive them on is all thank you but at this anybody who had to hand out preformed the way you know what that's like to get so worked up over something that is what you get worked up over it to make. I love this verse 41. Martha, baby. He said you will worried and upset about many things, but you things are needed until your symptoms are different from the you got a lot in the wrong category you sent to is nice if you got the trip and the wherewithal to do it.

He said, but there are still things that are needed and they said for indeed only one in this context.

He said Mary has chosen what is better lazy.

She's made a choice. How often do you get to set and talk with the you get to sit at the top lazy.

She's so Jesus said she's chosen what is better, and it will not be taken from her. No, I'm not make her move. I'm not going to rob her of the sensual to join you in frustrated desire, so must need to learn when you are in your life right now.

You frustrate with us, your kids, your spouse, your shop sometime. Your life will bunches of things in your life you will worried about many things I do not do anything but I thought you got a do one of these days you will check out here and when you go you better be feeling yourself and so one thing he said in this context is needed. She chose that I'm not going to come help you narrow the distance a stop show how want to put the thing on December we will fellowship greatly like buddies trying to straighten out her priorities. That's what you would need get our priorities straight and keep them straight. Opening self-care is selfish, no self-care is essential so I can keep getting killed all the people on planes. What they don't tell you on the plane when they give you the emergency information they say if oxygen is needed, they will drop from above and to do puts you on. I know that my baby that's a baby is about to have an accident. Give me take care of you if you only so we got to get busy with church will be holy for we gotta get this straight.

If not selfish are not carnal because you looking out for yourself. Going to the spa is not carnal, you will love God be set up here being really no fees on the Holy Ghost. All who know and love.

Didn't Manley think that a zero: Manley and I'm heading only goes thanks so much for being here for today's destined for victory message taking care of caregivers right knowing pleased to welcome and pastor Paul once again who joins me from the studio to talk about a great resource which goes hand-in-hand with the message you heard today. Esther thank you for these moments together I'm intrigued by the title this book are often caregivers need care to tell us more about it and why you believe will be so helpful to anyone who's listening. You know what I was preparing a sermon series based on the life and ministry of Elisha. I was struck this time by the fact that such a powerfully anointed prophet as Elisha needed others to take care of practical needs in his life right and it dawned on me that I shouldn't just preach about the miracles God walk through this man's ministry.

I needed to also stop and talk about and examine and unpack fact that care givers need care themselves. So many of us with what we do in our lives whether it's apparent when it's been a spouse. Whether it's been a family member assisting a relative indeed. And we need to know that there are things that we can learn. One is how to recognize we are not a resource that can care for ourselves very well. So God sends along people who will help us in what we have to do is open our hearts open our minds and let other people be a blessing to us.

I don't know Wayne if if you're like that, but I tend to want to take care of everybody because I'm gifted to do it but often I feel my neediness and I'm not sure I'm as good as I should be letting other people fill those needs. So this part of the series.

I hoped I'd just as it spoke to me. I hope it will speak to others and help them understand the importance of caregiving. So when we woke the booklet.

It was a no-brainer. We've got to share what was given in the sermon in book form so that people can take it away and more importantly apply it to their lives.

It's true pastor. We all need help from time to time. Even those who devote plenty of time caring for others need care themselves. Again, the booklet is called caregivers need care to. It is our gift to you by request for your generous donation to destined for victory this month. Call 855-339-5500 or visit pastor Paul.net to make a safe and secure donation online. You can also mail your gift to destined for victory PO Box 1767, Fremont, CA 94538 Solomon, who was with the wisest man other than Christ walked the earth. And Solomon said wisdom takes time and builds on a strong foundation of seven pillars.

You gotta be wise enough to build and make sure your life is balanced in every area. What are the seven foundational pillars find out next time pastor Paul Sheppard continues his message taking care of caregivers.

Until then, remember he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion.

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