Handling Your Unresolved Conflicts (cont'd)

God bless you, moving you got a deal with what is behind you in the way that I am struck and watching with it then. I'll let you move forward and be some of us need to join Jacob on this journey. Hello and thanks for joining us for today's destined for victory message with pastor Paul Sheppard were so glad you're with us today in our last broadcast pastor Paul began telling the story of Jacob and Esau sibling rivalry that festered for 20 years before it resolved. If you miss that message visit Pastor Paul.net. You can listen any recent destined for victory message on to me. Pastor Paul.net you can also listen or subscribe to the destined for victory podcast at stitcher at Apple podcast or wherever you get yours now coming your way next Pastor Paul picks up the story right where you left off last time with Jacob having left home to go to work for his uncle Laban. Two decades of gone by. That's when Jacob decides to resolve this past so that God can bless his future. So now here's Pastor Paul. With today's destined for victory message handling your unresolved 14 years 14 years down there. He's working this tricky plan of late. After that he stayed there six more years and during those years. The Bible says God prospered him not point this out because it's really important for you to understand the fact that God is blessing you doesn't mean you don't have to deal with the ugly truths see some people want to believe because I'm. That means I'm favored and everything is good and God saying God made all know you because he's got like that, but he's what you do this lifetime and so he's blessed. He's married he works hard. The Bible says that he prospers while he's living down there.

God blesses him.

God prospers them. Things are going well, but he still has to deal with. He no heart that things are right. He knows in his heart, so he's not have to face his brother and that brings us to Genesis 32 where he leaves his father-in-law's household and heads home to handle his business. When you get to Genesis 22.

He has been down there 20 years and he's been blessed during those years, but being blessed some of you sitting up here right now. You are blessed but that doesn't mean you can ignore the ugly truth you've got a deal with what you got a deal with now let me stop just long enough before I walk you through the rest of this to help you identify what it is.

The Lord is speaking you about using well I'm not aware of anything that I really need to do. All you need to do is get quiet and say Lord I want to be right because I want to be blessed, not only during the season. I will be blessed for lifetime and I need your blessing your favor on my entire life. I need your blessing on my kids.

I need your blessing on the whole household and therefore God, if there's something that needs to be dealt with from my past.

I want you to bring it to my attention, and guide me in doing if you get quiet. The Holy Spirit speaks when you get a chance read in Hebrews chapter 4 tells you that the word of God is quick, and powerful, sharper than any two-edged sword, and it's so precise it cuts between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow.

It says God is a discerner of thoughts and a very tense of our hearts. So whatever you tried to play down God knows exactly what the deal is what you tried to excuse God knows exactly what the deal is that all you got to do is get quiet and you will hear that still small voice. You feel that marriage you'll know in your nowhere.

I never heard God no know you're here and you just don't hear them audibly, but you will hear them in your spirit, he'll nudge you. And when the space do you cannot resist it, and so all you need to do is say Lord is there some thing I've done. I've said that needs to be properly addressed, because I don't want any hindrances to what you have in store for me. I don't want to miss any blessings that God has lined up for me and I dare if you just get quiet.

The Lord will speak to you in a very certain way and so here he is in Genesis 32 now going back home 2122 to the last fugitive, but he still got a deal with what he left behind. And so here you are looking verse three Jacob sends his messengers before him to Esau. His brother and he commands the messenger saying speak thus to my Lord Esau. Thus, your service, Jacob says I have dwelt with Laban and stayed there until now I have oxen, donkeys, flocks, and male and female servants, and I have sent to tell my Lord that I may find favor in your sight, the savings did you say 20 now talk about your servant you in my Lord language God has done no work on the side of him to come but God has done over the course of that time. The latter part of those 20 years. The Lord has shown him, you can't stay blessed unto you, will humble your self I came to tell somebody you can get all the blessings God has for you because you're too prideful and stuck up your cell. I can tell somebody who's a maniac. You said what is that looking up. It's a person with a pregnant ego that refuses the earth themselves, and I'm planning to change that one. You might not be one bullet down the road as a megalomaniac somewhere on your rope somebody so that when you look up in the dictionary, grinning, and it what can I say I just got it like that and I came to tell you, God is ready to call it what you have old, not God. But what you have old somebody. God loves see some of us want to get right with God and does not care about people. I hope you realize by now that this is in the Shelton message you not believe here dancing and then he prayed highly. Not one of them, that mean I'm a man of God like a preacher. Happy every week you can get happy all the time and we can talk about Shadrach reach I get a bad may grow all the time so we gotta get down to and talk about this and and so a lot of you will need to be on the same journey hidden somewhere might not of been like this but you know what it is.

God knows what it is that has not been properly addressed. All have sinned welcome to but God insist you got a deal with what is behind you in the way that I am struck and what should bear with it then. I'll let you move forward and be blessed. Some of us need to join Jacob on this journey and look at it.

He humbles himself some of you gotta humble yourself. Yes, I know you're full of pride. Yes you you are conceited, but the Bible says humble your self what is that mean, don't ask God to humble you got we might have to slap you in a casket.

The rest of today's destined for victory message with pastor Paul Sheppard. We want to thank all of you whose prayers and financial support help desk or Paul share the gospel all over the world. Your donations do make a difference. So as God leads prayerfully consider making a generous gift to Destin for victory today. Give securely online@pastorpaul.net that's pastor Paul.net or call us at 855-339-5500 if you want God to exalt you. You've got to take active steps to lower yourself sometimes it means saying you're sorry to someone you've wrong pastor Paul once again with today's message handling your unresolved conflicts about some of you don't have these skills because you never exercise them.

How many of you have people in your life and you have never heard them say wrong. Just think for a moment how many you all can think of some folks in your somewhere in your spirit." I've never heard him say they will say forgive me. I never heard him say I did that I blew it. I never heard anything like and I came to tell you if you've never heard somebody say it is probably because they never say. And God is saying it's time you in here asking me to bless you and favor you women increase you and multiply you and all of that stuff you pray the prayer of Jabez. Bless me indeed.

He said I can bless you. Indeed, to you humble yourself.

Indeed, and you do what I tell you to do to handle your here is the promise of the word of God. If you will humble your cell in due season, God will exalt you all know me, God will say humility, humble heart, you because you first humbled yourself.

Humble yourself under the hand of the Almighty God, that he might exalt you in due time.

Lot of us need to join me while I'm at it, let me just say apologies don't have the word if I'm trying to help you we got all these people. I have yours and I say if I did something cute trying to go apology for I apologize because I know I did or said something wrong. I know I injured you know I tricked you what I try to get his blanket.

Apologies if I did anything inalienable. You know covered in this one thing I did anything to you. I'm sorry that's not an apology because if it is not a preposition of certainty. It's a preposition of uncertainty, an apology is not uncertain. An apology is targeted to specific. I know what I did to you when I know it was wrong. I know what I said and I know it was you would say, but I really I know we had some skirmish, but I really can't recall.

It is what the Bible tells you goal. If you know your brother has all against you. Matthew chapter 5 amendable while you're worshiping you have your gift at the altar. Jesus said and you remember that there someone who has all against you.

He said there all and talk to the person who has a issue which you see the Bible is real clear some things we know about close were supposed to engage people because of what they did to us. But if you did something to someone else and maybe your not clear by changeup on you and you and you don't quite know what it was about that happens that have reset so okay I'm certain we've all been there. Then the Bible says go to them and say it's clear there's something between us.

I need you to help me understand how I've been an offense to you see that way I'm giving them permission to tell me exactly how I hurt them. So even if you think I'm certain you're not in the clear.

The Bible says you gotta go to them, though, so she got a problem on what is my Hoshi okay do so. We all just your head, just wobbling in his fire. How prime is the need goes away get upset because if I need a therapist will know what it you gotta go and say, would you help me understand clearly there's something I try to play don't go there, surprise, UK, is that you say that I want clearly is not all right by the answer, which are what you talking like that and look at all funny may help you get it straight goal to them be pro active if you go to them and they are in denial and release you've made every effort and you leave them by saying well listen if you ever decide you really want us to get this reconciliation done. Please get back to me and let's handle it at that point you've done all you can. You can't make someone reconcile with you who refuses to reconcile. I'm trying to give you all sides to it because I would you leave your under false condemnation. Sometime people need to get right. But they won't. Some people want to just have used through and they just want to put you off in a corner somewhere and never deal with it.

You're not supposed to live under that kind of bondage. But you are supposed to make every effort I counseled couples. A strange couple all the time and I help them understand you can't just leave this where it is you do what you can find peace with all men.

Bible teachers do follow please find the path of peace and pursue it as best you can.

Now I can't make you reconciled. You will keep your eyebrows all up in your eyes rolled all around in the back. You okay I can't make you deal with it, but at least I'm making myself available if we need to talk please get in touch with me. I'm happy to deal with it because I want us both to be blessed by the Lord to let God work on your heart because in the early stages.

Sometimes you don't want them to be blessed not see that you're going all right, make how many of you all know what I just said there have been times which will save sanctified self that you may want them blasted all you wanted to be trying to help. You want God to give him you want him to give you a seat. Trying to help somebody. I want to see with popcorn 32 lamps and just popcorn and drinking let God what you do on your 20 year season. I don't care how long yours is let God speak to you and help you see you can't want to prosper and condemn somebody else you're not the person who holds them one of the stone foundational principles in your Bible is James is my will say more you write to exact vengeance. He says it belongs to me. Do the pay and so here he is going down. He's humbled himself and then look at verse six. The messengers returned saying we came to your brother Esau. He coming to me to watch live and 408 UN ID you go through. Enough trouble is hunted income to meet you with people. Verse seven. So Jacob was greatly afraid because he's afraid last thing you want to. So we thinking this might be the day. This might be my last day on earth. This may be he been nursing this for 20 years and he is going to pop me good.

Otherwise, he has said on your side and I'm coming to meet you because I want to give myself over in your hand he's doing everything he can to humble himself be encouraged today if there someone you have wronged God wants to help you make it right. If you've made a mess. You can still make amends. And God will bless you for having humbled yourself under his mighty hand if you need prayer today for unresolved conflict in your life or for any reason at all the destined for Victor ministry team would like to join you in prayer for my homepage. Pastor Paul.net use the contact feature. Let us know how we can pray for you and while you're there, be sure to ask for pastor Paul's monthly letter of encouragement. Yours, at no cost or obligation in your something else for you in appreciation of your generous gift today. Pastor Paul will send you his booklet trusting God and scary times when the Lord told Abraham to send Hagar and Ishmael away from the family home. What followed was a great deal of uncertainty and angst. God promised Abraham that he make a nation of his firstborn son but circumstantially it looked pretty bleak.

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