So You Want to Get Married Part 4

To become emotionally when you're ready to move into interdependence.

That means you're not only aware of your strength, your way of your weakness.

What you can do well of your need for partnership and support hello and welcome to this Thanksgiving day addition of destiny for victory with pastor Paul Shepherd, senior pastor at destiny Christian Fellowship in Fremont, California.

Thanks for spending part of your holiday here with us coming your way next a challenge to men to become mature in four key ways spiritually, emotionally, financially and vocationally.

Ideally this will take place before marriage, not after. But it's never too late to start doing things God's way as he continues his journey through the book of Ruth.

Pastor Paul will go into detail about each of these four areas ladies stick around if you can, because today's message will help you discover the kind of man to look for the husband. Stop by Pastor Paul.net. Recent testing for victory message on demand. That's Pastor Paul.net you can also listen to or download the podcast at stitcher or whatever you get your podcasts right now.

Here's Pastor Paul.

Today's message so you want to get married life is serious serious serious business.

You want to be on his right you got to grow up. You can't be all 27 what you are the season in your life when you need to get married and is growing up.

There is no such thing as motility. When you are emotionally immature will immature it will stunt your spiritual growth because God calls us to me that you sell and you get the focus off of you and the stages of emotional state dependence.

Second, independence and dependence played out in everyday life. When a child is born, they are born dependence depend on other people. They don't have the option to the Bible and their own freedom to go find someone please them take them, maybe they all because they need you to tell your children to 22, 63 from me for my take care of me. I need somebody to affirm that I need somebody to show me why am I me somebody will take a chance on me.

I need because you should've grown up by now, you can't be a baby Healy when I was growing up there was a cartoon on all you will know baby Healy is not a pretty sight. So you gotta learn to get past that stage and get into the independent state that the second stage of emotional independence and you see it child is raised right based on how dependent they can't help it. You don't beat them up will be independent. They have to be. That's where you start in life teach you everything you know.

But then you move into dependence if you're growing emotionally independent begin to take pride in what they have internal so now they no longer want you to button a shirt.

But I want to play right you all and you really where they want to do it themselves.

What you don't all just want to see and try out all the big show but is not the final state of emotional development to become emotionally when you're ready to move into dependence.

That means you're not only aware of your strength, your aware of the weaknesses only aware of what you can do your need for partnership and support you are able to choose interdependence sin by people in Christ they know God has a sense of knowing how much I know will in many cases not that many cases we need, when you know about yourself into a meaningful covenant with another individual. Enter dependence is looking for a ball as tied to mama now to leave and clean way back in Genesis man leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife also told him who trained him wonderfully in the things of God to be a man to be responsible thank you all lives, but I'm ready to leave you with all my life in a single year become responsible in their home or this is good, they allowed us out of their house. They didn't kick us out before we got married on the college once you went to college job in school and in some jobs. My parents home and got married well and I got married I still had the key when in a few days after we got back from our honeymoon.

I thought you may let go and see my parents but he went on in the kitchen table when in the door side interested house near the kitchen and so he looked up in the kitchen. He said the table and what we thought we'd shoot the breeze to marry me. So the conversation came on his face.

He said you get in here please. I just pop and check on you and mom is okay will see later key that led and he meant it when some some apple juice while we were talking come over his face and I knew that look meant little apartment you my little life you go home, drink only low-level but I like okay all right then later when I went to the house ringing the doorbell. He will hold my mother was there. We hung out talk a little bit to get one up to the third floor where my room to room and bathroom up there and I went up there and lo and behold, my bathroom was no longer a bathroom. I went she's all so you got married your father called the contractor he turned her bathroom into a bedroom had been turned into a study now to everything I could teach you about being a man to live in my home single and enjoyed you when you are not stay with us the second half of Pastor Paul Shepherd's message is coming right up. Always grateful for your prayers and financial support, but we certainly want to see it today as we celebrate all the blessings God has given us your gifts are making a difference. All around the world make it possible for Pastor Paul to share the good news of salvation in Christ with a growing audience destine for victory solicitor supported ministry, as we find yourself still walking through a season of uncertainty. Your support is even more critical today.

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Suggestion for victory message so you want to get married emotionally man is time for you to most of the stages and become into dependent meaningful relationship responsible believable because I can think of it will not take even God calls us away from man's responsibility to see his family cannot relate to these brothers and take all points for seasonal unemployment season changes responsibility women you will you responsibility will decay away you to see how that works and see how you do because you have to do what takes to take care of your household work ethic lazy man of God. Job quit job on the job and people get affirmation at work.

I can't relate to all people need to make me feel disrespect you. You should respect all treat me just if you get a check should be financially work ethic of examples in current job which you say God I okay got a mouse is again all alone is Monday morning know Jesus all right God spiritually goes a limit on the Lord and something and does it work so well till he got promoted in the house of a pagan same thing with the Hebrew boys. They work so well until locationally that the last type of fitness, I would encourage you to until they were you even among pagan Bible says go head and shoulders above their contemporaries because they took God in Scripture to work with job persecution case work it out among people who don't know how to make that work you believe and believe about business.

Listen the principal Scripture is you can't until you cooperate God will not let you wake up and wonder most people will make you like Moses on the backside of the desert. Nobody knows what your name is promotion what positions you will position the group will position will position must commence a writ with my expertise. I believe God coming but this might not be season for job commencement which is the season when you listen secret by deceiving myself and I got a job go and be mistreated, but you you you and in due time to bring you one you take the job that God opens the door for and go when you work faithfully and prove yourself: who deserves a man she's waited long enough where you are trading down at this stage in life. Will somebody believe God will take some household and I want to challenge you brother. Be a man after God's own heart. You don't have to have all this together with perfection making commitments are likely to be pointed in these directions as you take on why she knows where you're going start talking while what you need to do is live in the right direction financially so into the kingdom and patient and everything in man I can be somebody stole my direction.

Those four areas are crucial for every Christian man, but they become especially important in marriage when men are called to be servant leaders of their wives and families. And here's one final word for single men and women alike. Honor your future spouse by honoring the Lord what your single, follow the unchanging precepts of his word rather than the shifting sands of cultural relativity. In doing so will be better prepared to be the kind of husband or wife. God is called you to be.

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