Divorce — An Ugly Topic (Part B)

When wives will not submit, especially to a husband. This debt does not want him standing up. This is my home on the head of the home and she's fighting him every step of the way men sleep up on the roof tops on their equally bad male-female can be so any believers that are exposed to these things must be ready to submit to God's word and look for the blessings, whatever things are true, noble, just, pure, lovely, of good report concentrate on those things. This is cross reference radio with our pastor and teacher Rick Gaston. Rick is the pastor of Calvary Chapel Mechanicsville. Pastor Rick is currently teaching through the book of Mark, please stay with us after today's message to hear more information about cross reference radio, specifically how you can get a free copy of this teaching here is Pastor Rick with part two of this message. Divorce ugly topic in Mark chapter 10 one hard hearted spell.

Sometimes the old granted, but many times it's just one and the one who is loveless and unkind behaving like a devil on a regular basis.

There is the problem, but will they face the problem in a sermon like this.

Nothing will go to church. This is on. This concern is like this.

I like they'd like taken.

I think all the coming of something I don't know maybe someone's listening. Maybe your online listening. Maybe you're here in the church and and you know you are the cause of trouble in your marriage because you're in the flesh all the time you're not in the spirit you're not looking to love and to be kind, your critic, your attack and when the other one shows you kindness you exploit it in some way.

You become criminal in your heart stop it. Stop doing you be better off and so will everyone else around you.

Why should everyone's one of the lights dim when you walk in the room so to be unhappy with your marriage.

This is a newsflash for some does not give you the right to send in your marriage when I'm not happy so nobody is going to be happy.

Did you pick that up from you know where did you get that from the come out of your Scripture will what incompatible was no excuse. You really don't have any excuses. Jesus going to button that up again.

Hosea did not ditch Gomer and he had reason to be stuck in their Abigail ran her home as best she could in spite of her doofus for husband and a ball.

She did what she had to do in the evidences of that is when Abigail spoke to the service they move they did what the she told them to do. She kept at home in order in spite of him yeah then you're here will so you in a matter session 1 and the good spouse will say what I know I have my shortcomings and you want to stop it. Everybody's got nothing to do. You got a wide margin here so you mess up every now and then, who doesn't Yami exception because I'm a preacher so Bathsheba she was the problem in her marriage. Not riotously way can be one-sided. That's my points we get this thing and I had well, you know that both centers.

They both can be doing every study both of those two people, a mess of know is not. Sometimes it is sometimes it is not, then these folks again will pretend to be Christlike and loving when they go to church and they go home and their monsters and their too slick and stone hearted to admit it and get caught easy and this is unfortunate, but you need to know this happens is two sides to every story and sometimes one of the sides is just flat out corrupt. There's nothing redeeming about it is, there are people that have no redeeming features. Just, you know, there's nothing nice about that person. This is very sad things.

But it's a fact. And we said his part of the deterrent I want to be that guy ever.

I don't want to be that person that has no redeeming features. Nothing kind. Nothing lovable, nothing good, and it's not that hard to be good in Christ this way and anyway verse six.

Keeping in mind those who blame others for their ignoring God's word and being hardhearted and that's what they do blame somebody blame the other spouse, verse six, but from the beginning of creation God made them male and female.

He's going past Moses now. Paul does this.

Also, he says listen since the beginning that man is the head of the home. I will not suffer woman usurp authority of the church for any goes all the way back to Adam and Eve and that takes out the cultural argument will total was different well that this is the culture were going with when the goddess's intention in God's intention was that the male and the woman. The man and the woman would complement each other through companionship to primary reason for marriage is companionship other than gold. The second her children. A second important secondary companionship is number one you break that part up everything goes bad and divorce exist because sinners just don't listen to God, but not because of God. So Genesis 121 is where is created where he's referencing God created man in his own image in the image of God he created them male and female he created them.

Now it does not decide don't take a little break from the marriage thing today we live in. It doesn't make me a bigot in the eyes of God.

To disagree with homosexuality and her militant advocates for this new bunch that's coming up the don't know if there male or female. I mean it's almost comical, but it's not funny.

I have here in my hands. This form from the Department of Health in the state of New York where they don't know how to vote governors for governors we not too good either.

But anyway this is the covert, 19 immunization screening consent form and so on. The first line well after your name is pulling your name is recipient name and then preferred name the great one. I don't know. But then this current gender ID current gender ID like it changes so they have W-4 woman girl TW for transgender woman girl M for man boy TM for transgender man boy and before non-binary person GNC for gender non-is kind of off the page conformance. I guess Q4 not sure/questioning.

I don't know who I am from Guelph you not. I mean really, this is what Sullins told him they can be like this you could be like this I can anyway and some of you getting like you you're wrong, you're wrong. You're not very loving.

Why because I'm telling you you're stupid when you are that makes me not loving you're not loving or smart NR choose not to respond.

GML gender not listed. I would be offended. I'd say wait a minute with Martian then is an*gender pronouns writing by client's name. Then there's another box right after this 16 assigned at birth.

Why why you got everything up time so has male-female intersex which is possibility that's a legitimate one. And then of sexual orientation not listed why do they have all of this because they want people to honor this behavior is only relevant information.

Why doesn't he give it a shot you want payment as Asian shut. Why does anybody on the go through this yet to be brainwashed and we don't only want recognition.

We want you to honor us. Not enough that Caesar thinks he's God you have to put incense on his altar to honor him, you can say live and let live, you have to bow down and say this something noble about this stuff. There is Satan is your God, and so this is the kindest of the gifts are censored now is no longer free speech lease not according to the tech world free speech is evil.

You have to conform and agree or you are censored. So again, this does not make me a bigot because I side with God and I can reject your sin without hating you, but they won't help you if you persist in your sin, this goddess told us to love people who are being tripped up by Satan because we would love them.

Otherwise we have to be commanded. Makes perfect sense. Jesus, as was listen, you're going to encounter people that you gonna not like, but I need you love them and want them say and do what you can do to be part of the salvation process because of you said or you can hate them, then we would be like Islam and try to destroy our enemies. You may say that's a bigoted statement. I'm just telling it like it is anyway. First Corinthians looking for reconciliation. First Corinthians 6 verse nine do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God. Do not be deceived me the fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites of the regional governors, nor drunkards nor refiners or extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.

These of the impenitent ones not the troubling trouble once I was a struggle with these thing was I don't care what God says about these things in the church comes along and says listen this kind of behavior has to be faced and not promoted not honored worked in the industry. Where was a dishonest and not be that the bar at lunch time. Why don't you go with us you don't like us medevac know when you go there and I don't AW Tojo said failure of future historians will record that we of the 20th century was written in the 20th had intelligence enough to create a great civilization but not the moral wisdom to preserve it is what Christ going to draw a line and come back because of the lawless of lawlessness of many because of lawlessness, the love of many will grow cold. So this read this gender re-identification it is sin, and some of you sit here maybe you listen and you and you don't like hearing one not want. Why don't you like because the world's got its talons and you sucking your life from that's why verse seven. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife. God made them to be together as a unit and husband and wives have no right to go to devil on each other, not what God intended. Proverbs 1129 he who troubles his own house will inherit the wind pool will be servant, the wise of heart where Jesus quotes this Old Testament verse, a man shall leave his father and mother leave as in forsake if necessary.

If they become a problem and start dividing the marriage, and you know what that II can't. I can do that can allow you behave yourself we can keep the doors open. But if you misbehave to the point we are breaking my marriage I got to shut you down to protect my marriage and join cemented together, which is necessary.

Remember Adam's words when he was given a wife Genesis to Adam said, this is now bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh, she shall be called woman, because she was taken out of me. There was more to it than Adam saying she shall be called woman was like wall hole dresses nice.

This is the last of my flat bone of this is nice God. That's what was going on there. We know that because he made the blunder of being so endeared to his wife that he disobeyed God and so we learn we are relook for the deterrence verse eight and the two shall become one flesh. So they are no longer to now. The early church had to deal with polygamy.

That was a problem. People with multiple wives were children from these wives are coming into the church early church did not put them out.

They just okay don't keep doing this. Okay you got the nine lives normal all right anyway.

The Bible says these two shall become one flesh.

Not these three of these four. Polygamy is never something God endorsed something you tolerated and were not going to get into that at the moment but the new churches I mentioned had to deal with so many problems that were foreign to the experience of these apostles who came out of Judaism and they did it in a very good way so the New Testament church today has to look for solutions to people who have made a mess of their lives according to the Scriptures. Verse nine therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate. God intends marriage to be permanent and pastors are not to help divorce and okay.

I encourage given what we don't do that we must labor to uphold Scripture. Galatians 6 a beautiful verse. Every Christian should know this verse, especially if you tend to be critical of others and you critical of others and being critical of you will brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness, considering yourself lest you also be tempted.

Some will provoke you and so that gentleness goes away that not you know you can't give into that I've done it and it has not worked out well as some in marriages provoke the other. When you provoke them and then blame them for being provoked cheap stuff is that so it all coming to the pastor looking for loopholes to get out of a marriage is not advisable. I find when a Christian is considering divorce. They are already cutting ties with what Jesus wants again anyway. Verse 10 continues, Jesus finished speaking out concert with the Pharisees, verse 10 in the house that his disciples also asked him again about the same matter. They were disturbed by this this permanence and marriage. Matthew says this is disciples said to him, if such is the case of the man with his wife. It is better to not marry and to said if matters goes bad I can't get out of it. I want to get married. Jesus said, he said, well, there are those that can do that because from birth they don't have this attraction to the opposite sex. There are those that are forced to be UNIX and of course then they lose that attraction. Then there are others that just have enough willpower to go such as Paul, for example, that they can go in ministry and in that's not an issue. Otherwise you stop and that is just the fact. And so then you have to say okay I do have this attraction I would I want the companionship. I desire it. Nothing wrong with any of that. Okay commit yourself to make it work the vows of four, you are committing yourself to make it work now. Again, this is painful to some of you may have been you know, victimized, or you may have been the violator well what are we going to fix now looking to condemn, not looking to hurt you.

Getting those things which are behind, reaching forward to those things which are beheaded as the eye which I had not beard which are ahead, that would be bad. Jesus held a very high standard permitting divorce only in the most extreme circumstances and they were disturbed by that second Corinthians 5. Here are our marching orders.

Christians reconciliation pulses now all things are of God, who has reconciled us to himself through Jesus Christ and is given us a ministry of reconciliation. Don't let that be missing from your Christian toolkit. The ministry of finding solutions. He says that is that God was in Christ reconciling the world to himself, not imputing their trespasses to them and is committed to us the word of reconciliation of someone making it possible you cannot reconcile them.

They just of this rebuke and that's it. Because of their hard heart. Penitent and is nothing you can do but then there are others that your I sin pastor. I really blew this and I blew it terribly right see what we can do. Sometimes you just can't because there are others involved in UU state of the blood you have to fix this, but you gotta fix it in another church.

You can do it here.

Love you God is forgiven you, but the people that you have violated are here and now we have another conflict in you.

Sometimes you just you just can't verse 10 a come back to that verse 11 so he said to them, whoever divorces his wife and marries another, commits adultery against us. Jesus not backing down because they don't like it never back down because you too little babies are you also little if the others are left me before. Repeating what I didn't.

What they didn't like. Here is a fact. The pastor says I make mistakes. I am not perfect. Every vices. Amen we saw that statement if he proves that he makes mistakes. Some don't give him the benefit of the doubt of the mercy that's it. He said that all that's it I'm done psycho anyway. I had to get that out. I carry around with me a lot. So knowing the Scripture does not make one a Christian. As we mentioned, Satan knew the Scripture not accorded to Jesus and said he certainly wasn't a Christian.

I say this because there are those that try to hide behind their knowledge of the Bible to justify the trampling of the Bible is a crazy and people they follow if they believed them.

Sometimes there stubbornly disobedient and defiant their self-will is sinful. Their un-Christlike and they are slick of the wind get away with others. In all, the person I just want everything to work out what is living in you and all wonderland somewhere just kind of enables them to be this way and evil vicious husband mean non-submissive wives, so long as they stay that way. This problem again. I'm saying these things to deter any would-be violators saying these things this way to cause the guilty to say I bet amend my way and to cause the others to stop cutting slacker select does not belong. For those travelers that I can agree with you. I think that you're trying to get out of your marriage and your wrong, I love you I care about you, but I do not agree with.

It's okay to do that you may be attacked for that unit may be physically attacked for that but that is what it is that many times there just flat outliers.

Having no intention of submitting to God's word. While they're quoting it now. I will have to add this is very important.

Many churches impose a lifetime sentence on celibacy for those illegitimately divorced. You can never marry again this year with the problem of the first marriage that works very nicely on paper, this has something to do with most with Moses was saying in Deuteronomy 24 that they repented they genuinely repent what you do you you have to look again for us. The nameless message solutions to ugly problems. You cannot ignore the anguish caused by the failure in a life and you cannot ignore that there's a lot of life remaining to be lived and you cannot slap on people sentences that they have no way of fulfilling what we could do treating a penitent soul that way is send them into the arms of the world or to a heretic church that will show them more acceptance than those who are thinking through the word you say what basis do you have for this pastor.

Matthew 1818 Jesus speaking about authority says this to his apostles. Assuredly, I say to you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.

Paul exercise this when he got out into the Gentile world. He said you know what you want to eat shrimp habit is none of these restrictions on food you want to be a vegetarian, fine be a vegetarian is nothing to do in your faith.

These things are useless against the indulgences of the flesh, the Jews hated him for this. Paul was given this authority by God to bind and to lose bad doctrine from good doctrine. Application of the word for misapplication of the word for us. We would all be just back in Judaism church that takes too hard a line on divorced, illegitimately divorced people.

Again, forces them to go against the urges that they cannot shut off. You cannot say to someone, you can never marry again, and that's final. However, the person is penitent you is that you can't come here if you are not admitting your sin, you cannot come in here holding up your arms to God love telling about you love him our holy. He is while you are thumbing your nose in his face. At the same time and we happen to know now you make us perpetrators along with you so is deaf difficult things you guys after sermon like this. Hearing about how pastors have to deal with broken marriages and restoration of Christians you want to be picketing outside this church for a raise for your pastor signs, we demand a raise in pictures like Mao and Stalin all over the place of the pastor and white patent leather anyway so stupid right illegitimate divorce can proliferate adultery can spread it if these things on handled the right way, it can give cause to it and that's what were trying not to happen.

Banishing them forever from ever worshiping again is not the solution, even in Christ, otherwise he would've said Yep she's got an adultery all spoke of Opal the first stone.

Calabro said he did not do that the mercy of God solutions we have to find verse 10 and if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery so he leaves it. He says God standard is high, but he doesn't abandon the topic. He leaves it for his apostles to shrink and that they did.

And remember, they had some big problems. Would Paul wrote all of them over almost over time. Why won't. When Paul wrote, Corinthians to the Romans he was writing what he saw in Corinth and at first chapter and he had to deal with that in his church.

In verse 10 of woman divorces her husband. She remarries another. She commits adultery close with two Scripture verses. Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them. Colossians 319.

Ephesians 522 wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord when husbands are bitter. It makes the marriage awful when wives will not submit, especially to a husband.

This debt does not want him standing up.

This is my home on head of the home and she's fighting him every step of the way, half man, better to sleep up on the rooftop. Solomon said their equally bad male-female can be equally bad so any believers that are exposed to these things must be ready to submit to God's word and look for the blessings, whatever things are true, noble, just, pure, lovely, of concentrate on those things and those who will not submit the door open if possible. Perhaps later they will, but until they behave, they must be treated as those are incorrigible. Thanks for tuning in to cross reference radio for this study in the book of Mark cross reference radio is the teaching ministry of pastor Rick Gaston of Calvary Chapel Mechanicsville in Virginia to learn more information about this ministry. Visit our website cross reference radio.com once you're there you'll find additional teachings from Pastor Rick. We encourage you to subscribe to our podcast. When you subscribe will be notified of each new edition of cross reference radio you could search for cross reference radio on your favorite podcast app that's all we have time for today, but we hope you'll join us next time. As Pastor Rick continues to teach through the book of Mark Reiki on cross reference radio