Husband and Wives (Part A)

The husband is the head of the whole. If he is supposed to be the wife is heart and when those Windows tools working together the head and the heart have a happier home fallen world when those two are not working together your problems. Many struggle with this many women and men alike demanding equal authority not rights start.

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Rick is the pastor of Calvary Chapel Mechanicsville. Pastor Rick is currently teaching through the book of first Peter, please stay with us after today's message to hear more information about cross reference radio, specifically how you can get a free copy of this teaching, but for now let's join Pastor Rick in the book of first Peter chapter 3 as he begins a brand-new message called husbands and wives. We are in first Peter chapter 3, first Peter chapter 3 will take verses one through seven. In one moment wives.

Likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word they without a word may be one by the conduct of their wives when they observe your Chase conduct accompanied by fear. Do not let your adornment be merely outward ranging the hair wearing gold or putting on fine apparel. Rather, let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. For in this manner. In former times the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves being submissive to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him Lord, whose daughters you are. If you do good and I'm not afraid with any Terra husbands. Likewise, dwell with them, with understanding, giving honor to the wife as to the weaker vessel and as being heirs together of the grace of life that your prayers may not be hindered often. I'm sure the reading of the word creates questions in the minds as we read through these verses and well that's why we go verse by verse two address some of those questions and hopefully answer them all. This morning, husbands and wives. That is the topic handed to us by the Holy Spirit want to start off with the proverb from King Solomon writes when the righteous are in authority. The people rejoice when a wicked man rules, the people grown, well, he would've had as an example, Saul and his father David.

David certainly was a good king and Saul was just a misguided or just a bad king. Even though David had stumbled and people paid for with the proverb stands when the righteous are in authority in humans. 10 tend to dislike being under authority at some point some point they don't want it any longer.

I have been guilty of this. Much of my life there been those that have been over me in authority not been very fine with that until something that they do or say are some decision they make is doesn't sit right with me and I've been working on that over the years, had asked her. Esther not voluntarily submitted to Mordecai God would've had to raise someone else up to be a great instrument in saving his people. So without authority and submission that must go with authority.

Society breaks down it splinters it becomes what it what it does not become what it could have been our hands or feet and our tongue there supposed to be under authority when they are not.

You know what happens when they're not. This is part of what he is been saying throughout this first letter he's going to get to suffering later on in the letter, but he must settle the issue of submission. First, from the Christian perspective submission comes first, and then we work from there. So now we look at verse one wives. Likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word they without a word may be one of the conduct of their wives will evidently there were problems in the early church as they are in today's churches, there is always been churches of made of sinners and marital problems also to sinners of married each other there going to be issues. Some have tried to take this verse and make it mean what it is not intended to mean to the satisfaction perhaps of their audience to the butchering of the meaning of God's word. Peter uses this word here.

Likewise, connecting his present statement with the preceding verse of the last chapter what was previously said in there. Of course he dealt with submission. Submission to authority to a government submission to the Lord is the overseer of our soul employees continuing a now he takes it to the home again only after dealing with submission does he take on the matter of suffering which this church all these Christians because it was not a single church. These Christians were reexperiencing, so must the wife submit to the husband. Let's get this right out Ephesians chapter 5 verse 22 wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord enough bear with me every make me saying you may already be resisting years ago at Brandy Creek. When I taught from this passage of Scripture Scripture.

When I got to the wives being is submitted weaker vessel someone did not even wait to hear any explanation got up and left. I hunted her down. You have to listen to the whole thing.

I will make it beautiful. You watch I don't know what I'm going to do wives submit to your own husbands, my wife getting as to the Lord for the husband is head of the wife also Christ is head of the church and he is the Savior of the body.

Therefore as the church is subject to Christ, so that the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Well, that is, of course, the ideal that's the target. What should the Scripture say wives resist the authority of your husband's call. Why should he have a new you to go all sorts of bad places with that does not mean that she is to submit to sin. For example, if he wants her to lie. She is not to do it. Not an option. She is not to do it if he wants her to steal a car, she should tell them you do it I'm not doing so what we're doing here is we are considering the God-given roles of the Christian husband in the Christian wife and its ideal here. There are those hard cases that messed it all up will cover some of them is no way to exhaust this not a popular teaching to say to wives, be submissive to your husband that is is likewise we are submitted to Christ.

The overseer of souls. Likewise wives be submitted to your own husbands again not popular in this society that we live.

And of course the women are assuming more and more prominent roles in yet. The Scripture does not back down is not alter its intent, its meanings, and as I mentioned clearly this was an issue going on in the days of Peter wrote this otherwise would be no reason to say these things. But if the husband is the head of the home if he is you supposed to be the wife is the heart of the home and when those when those two are working together, the head and the heart. You have a happier home in a fallen world when those two are not working together your problems. Many struggle with this many women and men alike demanding equal authority not rights, authority never lie what God says I don't like that because we humans as I started off we have a problem with authority. So it comes down to this is the Bible absolutely the inspired word of God to man or not you believe it is. And God knows what is best is a yes I agree with that but my husband hasn't.

But what's best we could have work through that. But we still have to work through it in the light of what Scripture says women are not inferior to men that must be understood that there is no debate on that women are not inferior to men. Christians that are not submitted while me put it this way, Christians submit to pagan employers were not inferior to them, we submit to them. If you're in the military you submit to the ranks that are over you. You not inferior to them mentioned many times in many ways are superior to them. Men, some of you work for foul mouth pagan rank sinners, not superior to you but you still have to submit because the alternative is the breakdown of authority is anarchy. Wives have been given a subordinate role, but not an inferior role. This is so easy to prove because when the wife when there's a marital problem and with the justice for this example of the wife is the one because it's equal. Now husbands can be just as much of a knucklehead as the wife can be. But if the wife is not submitted to a godly husband you going to have problems and it will go out of the home. The subordinate role which God has put them in is under the headship of the man that's his assignment that his role again. Don't lose sight of the fact she is not inferior to him and he is not inferior.

Her would be the alternative tug-of-war. A lot of Lotta spouses believe marriage is the competition yet outdo the other one to bring strife friction into the home that doesn't belong there. He says that even if some do not obey the word looking to cover this again will come back to it because it is a broad subject, even if some do not obey the word when no passes given. Jesus doesn't say, well, you married a nonbeliever so you do not have to conform to the role that I've given you that is not the case. Incompatibility is not grounds for rebellion.

The classic example in Scripture would be Abigail that sweetheart of of of of a woman that was married to that monster of a man named Paul marriage can be disastrous. Doesn't have to be. If the work at Hosea asked the prophet Hosea is that marriage working out for you disaster.

He stuck with it all the way through.

They could've had his wife's stoned to death. He did not man.

He says they that hear and in first Peter chapter 3 verse one. They without a word. Maybe one by the conduct of their wives.

We still haven't gotten to some the meat of this, but we have to address this verse.

Of course, actions actions make gains often times where words cannot talk is cheap. Action speaks louder than words. That's what he is telling the flock.

Christ did not send any of us to be nags if the word is not working with someone you don't Casper before swine us to turn and travel you underfoot. It is a basic principle of the Scripture in the New Testament so if without a word, they can be saved but not without action, and make sure the actions where they need to be live the gospel with of course this applies to all of us everything he is saying here on the topic of submission applies to every single one of us men find themselves in roles that a subordinate other men is nothing wrong with that. It is part of order. Every organization must establish such a chain of command. Some husbands are mean someone to want did want more of a mother than a wife because they do not want to be in the role as the head of the home.

They want to defer to her as I mentioned earlier, someone just hard cases negligent of their God assigned duty. These things create strife in trouble some spouses not just men are just troublesome through and through unreachable.

Far as we could see and that's why Peter says you can win with the word you make sure you live the life right to Christ and you leave it to him. Peter not insensitive to abusive husbands to suffering Christians and marriages and you you you would think that Christian marriages had a better chance of surviving than non-Christian marriages. I'm not so sure. Nowadays seen so many of them fall apart many of you had to suffer through things like this and I don't want to be insensitive towards that. But we have to keep what the Scripture says, before us. There are exceptions in certain places and there are certain that other places there are no exception and it is up to us to dig into the word of God and find out where we belong. But like mindedness blesses the marriage rolling in opposite directions does not make you get to the destination. God is sent you on who decides what destination a couple are two row towards God. Yes, the head of the home was part of his role to establish this. Certainly, the wife can control will and does contribute must contribute Amos famous words we know these famous famous words can two walk together. Lester agree know they can fight together if you're not, how can something so ordained by God.

Find itself so ruined by men and women alike. Self-serving sin, always a smoking gun not to oversimplify but successful marriages are successful because they are spiritually intact psychologically. The head is in the right place physically holding your ground. We are supposed to.

These things must be maintained and you gotta work for them.

We should excuse newlyweds from this morning's consideration joke. It's funny because when you're first married most of the time that all the time but is just wonderful. At least one of you may be right. And then as the years go by many challenges of surface is not excused from dealing with those challenges. In fact, your call to function in spite of them. That's what he's telling the women anything in a blaze of the men. Also, if your spouse is not doing right to your call to action you're not excused from duty so verse two when they observe your Chase conduct accompanied by fear.

I'm trying to keep the tone right because I believe God's word does not need to be apologized for. I'm sorry sisters that it means is that it is firm. It is sure, but there's also there are also a lot of those believers who are hurting because the marriage is not right and you must know, of course, God's God sees it.

He knows all about it. He's not jolly over it either is focused and he will not be moved from what from that which is focused on is it will what is the focus on my don't always know exactly I don't know. Overall, is righteousness and holiness. I get that part of thereof detail that I don't always know about but I know what I'm supposed to be doing and that's the challenge. Where would we be without such verses in Scripture. Whatever he said wide rebel against your husband that they're a pain in the neck is something he's already doing that I don't need the Bible to bill me. He says when they observe your Chase conduct Chase your righteous condo blamelessness is the goal of a husband and a wife. As I mention he's talking to the women, but this applies to the men equally. If they don't want to hear it, then let them see it now.

That's what he's telling them she is to preach with her life and her behavior not not to be in a spot where she is condemned because of what she refuses to stop saying woe to the man who torments his wife, Walter, that man who sins against his wife, woe to that wife who sins against her husband while in the sense that this is not something that is blessed a bowl we can make words on your in the pulpit do it all the time.

You should try it. Verse three.

Do not let your adornment be merely outward, arranging the hair wearing gold or putting on fine apparel the adornment the word adornment here in the Greek is cosmos which means there can be translated. The world orderly arrangement.

That's what it means in the Greek we get our English word cosmetic from this Greek word, and he is not saying to abstain from cosmetics as some insist that it means because he also goes on to say that that is not putting on clothes, certainly not telling them to abstain from that and so it will come to that in a moment what it means. Don't overdo it. Do not let your outside appearance be overdone. Do not draw undue attention to yourself that outward appearance. You have to be very careful about their laws. There are laws in the universe that are bigger than us. And if you excite those negative laws. They're going to have negative results. You reap what you sow hairstyles jewelry and attire. They are all acceptable in Christ, so long as they're not over done women can like attention too much.

Men can to keep it tight to the women because men can want to give it too much.

What is the biblical example of that David and Bathsheba.

She wanted the attention and he wanted to give it in the true creative disaster. He says, arranging the hair I don't know if I'm still qualified to speak on this one certainly not a prohibition to have nice hairdos is nothing wrong with nice things so long as they do not get out of control. As I mentioned with attracting too much attention.

We know what that means you don't need me to elaborate on that a person can dress in such a way that there attracting too much attention. My or my one of my goals in the pulpit is to show his little skin as possible in your grateful about you view a joint pastor come up in a tank top. The well of course I can make that state without saying I'm the exception, but I don't.

Leadership is not by exception, but example and so as a rule less skin is a good I a good idea.

He goes on to say wearing gold or silver or anything else that is overdone. Nothing wrong with arranging the hair wearing the gold or any other fine metal or even wood too much wood on it make a lot of jokes that one or putting on fine apparel not fine in the new King James Edward is not there in the original Greek is is or putting on clothing and of course that's not what he meant his audience knew this is trying to bring it down some is a word is gotten back to me.

Some of you are overdoing it in your causing problems. Your drawing more attention to yourself and to Christ you're not Christ centered your self-centered this happened to be more of an issue with the women at the time that he wrote this letter. There are times of course men can be gaudy.

Remember years ago my wife and I went to a restaurant to young men came into the restaurant to scarf down some food and they had so much cologne you couldn't breeze and it was this awful. So yet again the excesses drawing attention negative attention to themselves. So again, Peter is not forbidding any of the siding items here.

John's gospel chapter 12 verse 32 Jesus said if and if I am lifted up from the earth, will draw all peoples to myself. You do not say if you are lifted up. If you self promote. If you go overboard. Now there are those that insist again that women cannot do this, they cannot put on jewelry wear makeup through their hair and you anyway I you know I've never met anyone with that rule. Who's ever impressed me spiritually. What a loving person is not is been a legalistic judge.

Melbourne maybe you have. I just don't recall that bringing a person to the point of small sin. These things are useless against the worst of the flash flash is going to be the flash you can take off all those items will and still being carnal.

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