Making What Everybody Wants - Part B

Conflict follow this advice, be humble, go alone because pride and arrogance, smugness, desire for revenge. All of these enemies of peace. Remember forgiveness even forgiven you. Not because of my God clear the path because the traffic there. Peace began at the cross of Christ, and it can flow in and through us connect with skip.

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Anybody can build a wall.

Anybody can have a reason and excuse to sever our relationship portable peacemakers, build bridges, but at this point. Peacemakers drain their moats know what I'm referring to. In ancient times and there was a castle, it would put a moat around what was in the moat would submit out of water. What was the purpose of the moat to go swimming into sale and little boats and now it was to separate people from you it was to keep outsiders outside it was to keep enemies away. The only reason a person would drain the moat of their castle is that they have no more enemies peacemakers drain their moats when one of the best ways to destroy our enemies is to make them our friends make peace so Jacob approaches these thoughts as I want to make peace in Ephesians chapter 2 verse 14, Paul said, for he himself. Christ is our peace, who has made the 21 and has destroyed the barrier, the dividing wall of hostility, Jesus Christ, who makes people one who brings them together is the basis for a piece.

Now I want to take you a little bit deeper into this text I want to give you the third component that is peace peacemaking detail to give you some practical steps, practical steps, the Jacob used in approaching his brother Esau five tips for making peace with somebody now you might immediately think will why do I need tips. Why do I need to make steps Jesus just say you go to the person that you have something against was wrong. You just go directly that person.

Matthew chapter 18 and and deal with it. Yes he did but I think you also know that sometimes relationships can be very complicated and that the steps that I'm going to show you that this man took can help untangle the web and make path clearing just a little bit easier. So think of it this way. Matthew 18 is the principal go to your brother when I'm in a show you are the particulars to give you five tips number one use 1/3 party use of third-party not always, but sometimes use 1/3 party.

Jacob did notice again in verse three, Jacob sent messengers before him to Esau his brother in the land of seer the country of Eden. He sent a mediator to give a statement of intent probably out of fear. To be honest you know it's good to happen. But this was quite common and by the way is still common when nations are going to make peace. They usually send diplomats select the president and that person's Prime Minister Kaner would dictator get together diplomats get together and they discussed terms of peace. The use of third-party.

Now most conflicts in your life, you'll be able to handle one-on-one will be able to go directly to that person. In Matthew 18, but sometimes it will require outside help. Sometimes you'll need to find a spiritually mature impartial person who can sit in the room and observe how these people communicate and how they respond in their communication and because in any conflict. Emotions can be very edgy third-party can help home. The waters in and remind one party. What he didn't say it that way that's not what I heard what you know it. This is what I heard and and can restore objectivity. Are you not to turn there, but you may want as if you're taking notes and I hope you do take notes because otherwise you'll forget 95% of any message, but first Corinthians chapter 6, go read that sometime first point in chapter 6 the whole beginning part of the chapter is, is this Nepal is saying why are you guys taking each other to court as believers in Christ. What he's suing each other for can you find a single mature spiritual person in your midst, who can be an arbitrator or mediator in and help resolve this conflict. So that's the third party and even Jesus himself said we are going to make peace with somebody in and you go to that person alone.

If they don't listen to you.

You bring one or two others with you. That's the injection of 1/3 party, so use 1/3 party number two second tip.

They the conflict in prayer. Now this almost goes without saying, but because we do forget the simplest things we stated today that the conflict in prayer, but on a verse nine Jacob said, oh God, he's praying now, O God of my father, Abraham. A God of my father Isaac the Lord who said to me return to your country into your family and I will deal well with you. I am not worthy of the least of all the mercies and of all the truth which you have shown your servant, for I crossed over this Jordan with my staff not staff of people, but like wooden stick and I have now become two companies deliver me.

I pray from the hand of my brother from the hand of Esau. For I fear him, lest he come and attack me in the mother with children for you said I will surely treat you well and make your descendents as the sand of the sea which cannot be numbered for a multitude.

Okay, so clearly Jacob is scared that Esau is going to make good on his promise years before and killing but what I want you to see is is what he does he. He prays he prays he realizes peacemaking is impossible in my own strength I can send 1/3 party, but peacemaking apart from God just won't work.

So he includes God in the process.

Did you know that God should be our first response rather than our last resort. Why is it that he's our last resort.

Why is it that we even say stuff like this. There is lots to do except for will dude you should've started there, then you would be so freaked they did in prayer begin in prayer should be your first response.

Not your last resort, you know, most people doing conflict. They don't talk to God they talk others is called gossip that doesn't resolve the conflict that describes the conflict rather than talking to others about others talk to God about others talking to others about others is gossip.

Talking to God about others is prayer. And that works so he talked to God, made in prayer. Third tip bring a token bring a token there was a token while tokens a gift. Okay, not always, but sometimes let's look at what he does verse 13 so he lodged there.

That same night. Chapter 32 of Genesis verse 13 he lodged there that night and took what came to his hand as a present token.

A gift for Esau his brother's. Let's see what he gave them flowers are candy gave him 200 female goats and 20 male goats 200 using 20 g 30 milk camels with their colts 40 cows, 10 bowls 20 female donkeys and 10 souls he gave his brother 550 animals. He gave them a farm is to not probably, he thought. By this largess. He's gonna pacify his brother to be just a great statement of generosity.

I am not suggesting that you try to buy a person off. I am not suggesting that you can erase months or years of conflict and resentment by a little gift.when it's part of the total package. The total plan using the third-party debating it in prayer and some of the other things it will show the earnest attitude that you have, to be a blessing to that person you're there not to take you there to give you there to be a blessing to them and to make amends.

Proverbs 1816 says a man's gift makes room for him and brings him before great men. The idea of making room as it opens a person's heart out.

It makes room in that person's heart for you it, it provides access that has been shut up.

Up to this point. Take some off guard. They don't expect that gift Jesus said if if somebody wants to sue you to take your shirt would you do you counter some of that wood uses that sum you want to see you take your shirt's calendar so no said give him your cloak also given a gift given more than he's trying to get that'll flip them out.

That'll take them off guard.

So bring a token number for fourth tip making peace when you make peace walk with a limp walk with a limp. So we are trying to go through the whole story. But while he's going on to meet his brother Laban. He meets the angel of the Lord is called the angel of the Lord by one of the other prophets and the Lord meets with them and and Jacob and the angel get into a wrestling match that lasts all night. Just let me take it out of verse 24 so Jacob was left alone and a man wrestled with him until the breaking of day.

Verse 25 now when he saw that is the angel of the Lord saw that he did not prevail against them. In other words, this Jake guy is just heaved he's a fighter.

He just won't let go.

He touched the socket of his hip and the socket of Jacob's hip was out of joint.

As he wrestled with so Jacob gets into a wrestling match with an angel by the end of it, probably toward morning, his hip is out of joint, which means that when he sees Laban later on that day. Number one is really tired as he been wrestling all night. Number two, when he saw his brother Laban is probably walking without a joint right is walking with a limp.

He's walking with the left so he is not filled with strength and power. He's walking with a limp. Why is that significant because it's so appropriate. Jacob means the name Jacob means he'll catch her.

Because when those two boys were born, Esau came out first.

Jacob came out second. They were twins. Jacob came out grabbing the heel of Esau. So they called him. He'll catch up. That's his name, one who grabs the heel and it proved to be prophetic as he he tripped his brother by stealing his blessing later on so I love the fact that heel catcher is caught and heel catcher is walking with a limp.

So he comes in and out with hubris but with humility as you walking with a limp. So in conflict follow this advice. Be humble. Go low because pride and arrogance, smugness, desire for revenge. All of these are the enemies of peace, remember you. You forgive because you've been forgiven. You love because you been loved by God, you you you clear the path because the path is been cleared for you. Be humble or you'll stumble. That's number four and number 550 little tip in the details here let down your guard let down your guard unit. Typically, when people go into the room to make peace whether to husband-and-wife or whether it's people who are at business and at odds with each other and you have an arbitrator or mediator.

Usually, things begin very formal and they can stay that way. But real healing takes place when the parties let their guard down, so once you watch this in verse three of chapter 33, Genesis 33 verse three.

Then he crossed over before them, and bowed himself to the ground seven times until he came near his brother know this was all formality. This is how they did it nosed so I'm Jacob and Esau's down the other end of the platform except he's way way way way far away soon as he sees me. I stop and I bowed.

I do my little formality like that right and then so he knows a guy just bow down way way out there so that must be Jacob gets a little bit closer. Now you can sort of make me out little easier. I do the same thing again. I bowed down and I get a little because I keep doing that seven times all of that was just formal peacemaking strategy, but verse four, but Esau ran to meet him and embraced him and fell on his neck and kissed him. Watch this and they left to grown men once swore to kill the other one deathly afraid that he is going to be dead by night time. They both left us letting your guard is no macho man here is no brave face they put on here. This is just authentic staff that touch that embrace they been away so long and there is a willingness between them to make things right. This is authentic emotion. Let your guard down. So we have peacemaking to find we have peacemaking demonstrated and we have peacemaking detail is go back and close this thing off in Matthew chapter 5 verse nine we give you peacemaking detected. Jesus said blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God. Notice he doesn't say Blessed are the peacemakers for they shall become sons of God.

You don't become a child of God by being the peacemaker you become a child of God by receiving Jesus Christ.

That's how you become a child of God. John chapter 1 verse 12 as many as received him, to them he gave the right to become children of God, to those who believe in his name, so you become a child of God, but having become a child of God who would be called a child of God when you make peace that is people will be able to say you must be related to God. You remind me of God because God is a God who likes to make peace. God likes to clear the path and you're doing that you must know him, you must be related him. You must be a child of him. There's a family resemblance that I see. That's the it will be called sons of God. You know what peacemaking is a great advertisement for the God of peace in the Prince of peace versus a person who says now and make peace on the peacemaker that your general attitude. You are a great ad for God because he was not a great ad for God grumbling and complaining, being disruptive being divisive, quarrelsome anybody lives that way.

We have doubt to question a person's walk. Blessed.

Oh how happy, to be envied blissful satisfied, the peacemakers, they will be called we can detect that they are children of God. So peacemaker seek solutions not arguments. Peacemakers calm the waters. They don't stir them up peacemakers work for reconciliation, not division peacemakers lower their voices rather than raise their voices.

Peacemakers generate more light than they do. Heat at the peacemaker last are the peacemakers. Now, as we close. Just remember where the peace initiative began peace initiative from God began at the cross at the cross, God was building a bridge so that God and humanity could come together could be reconciled. Romans chapter 5 verse 10 we were reconciled to God through the death of his son was a husband and wife who had the worst possible experience and that is the death of a child there only son died. They buried him in try to work through it, but S is so often the case, the relationship was so utterly strained after that that they broke up they were estranged from one another and he, the husband moved to another side of the country. Wife stayed in town. Years passed after that sons death and the husband was back in town for business and werewolves the first place. He did what was the first place. He would visit the grave of the son went to the cemetery stood there for hours left had memories of the past was a very difficult moment was a healing moment at the same time and as he was about to leave, he heard footsteps behind him and he turned around and he saw guess who is estranged wife, who was also visiting the cemetery that morning.

Their first response in seeing each other was to be repulsed to pull away to turn away but they didn't because they had a mutual interest in that one grave so instead they clasped hands and began a reconciliation process. They were reconciled over the death of their only son. We are reconciled to God over the death of his only son. As painful as I was for the father.

It brought you and I to him. We are reconciled to God through the death.

We like to have peace internationally will not be peace among the nations of the world until there is peace in the individual nations themselves. There will not be peace in the individual nations themselves, until there is peace in the communities within the nations themselves. There will not be peace in the communities of those nations until there's peace dwelling in the hearts of the people that live in those communities.

And there will not be peace in the hearts of those people until the Prince of peace occupies stage center the throne of a life. What if you've done.

I wonder if you've allowed him to occupy the throne of you.

He is your Lord and Savior Hermas. If not perfect. David then concluded SCIF hijinks message from his serious give peace a chance now to Skip to share this broadcast going strong, connecting more people like you to the gospel of Jesus. God's truth is the best foundation you can build your life on in our goal here is to empower your life with his truth through these Bible teaching so would you please consider giving a gift today to keep the messages coming to you and to help more people build their lives on God's word here so you can give a gift to help more listeners like you build an unshakable faith, call 800-922-1888 to give a gift today 892 to 1888 is connected with skip.com/donate that's connected with skip.com/donate generosity will keep this biblical encouragement coming your way and going out to help change more lives.

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