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I'm Jane Pauley and this is Sunday morning. Thursday is Valentine's Day day for love and togetherness, as will note in some real-life love stories throughout the morning, yet at the same time it can be a very trying day for those who are going it alone is Susan Spencer will report in our cover story.

Valentine's Day is coming you feeling lonely. Not alone. Problem that affects millions of people you talk about this almost as if it's a public health crisis. I think it's an urgent public health issue is loneliness really and later on Sunday morning couple weeks will be hearing the Oscar night call for the envelope please director Spike Lee is among those in contention in multiple categories is Leslie stall will show us black men. Spike Lee imagine Spike Lee's pleasure last month when he and his latest film black Klansman got six Oscar nominations, including for best picture actually you don't have to imagine it on Sunday morning. Oscar-nominated directors tells us the story behind black Klansman will be the People's Republic of Brooklyn, New York.

Here for green and more coming up when our Sunday morning podcast continues as wonderful as Valentine's Day can be if you're in love can be a little tough for those who are going it alone. Our cover story as reported by Susan Spencer, musician John Francis likes to let his banjo do the talking. That was the only talking so your 27th birthday rolls around you.

What happened you know I have to do something really different.

I'm not going to speak for a day just one day turned into two days then a week then a month and finally I can't get my head around this.

You did not say one word to another human being for seven teen years: that's right.

27 Francis decided to stop talking. Any decision until he was 40 years old. There were about four times by accident when I bumped into someone at the grocery store and I said excuse me while I was watching I was. Charlton Heston was on toll roads supported this when God he spent those quiet years, hiking, camping, and making art. He says he didn't really miss conversation it wasn't working for him anyway. I would listen just enough to say stop listening which in effect cuts communication.

That feeling of being disconnected went hand-in-hand with something bigger.

Loneliness I think I was lonely before I started this in the sense that I didn't want to be alone with myself, that makes you lonely but anyone who feels lonely is far from alone, according to a recent study, nearly half of Americans now say they sometimes or always feel alone and one in five says they rarely or never feel close to anyone to be lonely do you have to be alone no because it's about the quality of your connections with people such as how many friends you have, it's about those friends know you authentically former Surgeon General Dr. Vega Morrissey made headlines when he called loneliness and epidemic even says loneliness can be fatal. The increased mortality associated with loneliness is equal to increase mortality we see with smoking 15 cigarettes a day, yet you know what is in fact greater then the mortality associated with obesity.

It doesn't matter who you are or even how old you are, the assumption that many people often have is that it's older people who are lonely, but it turns out youth and young adults may have the highest rates of you think younger people may be more likely to be lonely than older. That's what some recent studies have in fact indicated, and especially among millennial's the ever present phone may in part be five days of the people who use the social media the least are the most and look at this this is amazing. The higher it is more your odds of feeling lonely Brian prime back at the University of Pittsburgh heads the center for research on media, technology, and hell, he says, the more social media we use the lonelier we are likely to be. This is totally counterintuitive say I have 3000 Facebook friends. Why am I lonely one is this idea of social comparison. People are able to take three 400 pictures of themselves and post that one that makes them look like they are that much more thin there that much more attractive are that much more successful the impression from the outside can easily be on social media. Wow, I can't measure up with my very normal life. We interviewed a professor who believes that social media has contributed enormously to people feeling alone and when I have to agree with that someone served us recently to me if you have four really good friends. You're lucky you're lucky person as opposed to 4000 like 4000 likes. It's not new that technology is in our homes. Radio was her home's television came out.

How is this different with regard to things like radio and television. You still can think of them as a little bit more of a social experience of a gathering around my Facebook. It's really whether or not social media is to blame. Loneliness is not unique to this country, the UK government has now developed a minister for loneliness no way does the minister of loneliness do well. The minister of loneliness tries to figure out why people are lonely and then figure out what kinds of interventions might help smooth out like a lonely job.

If the US had a minister of loneliness, psychotherapist Tracy Ruben might be. I believe everybody gets lonely. With that in mind a few times her mom and her team set up impromptu offices on the streets in San Francisco strangers for free when you first propose this idea and your colleagues react with crazy but four years later. Her project called sidewalk talk is 3200 volunteers strong in 48 cities around the world. But most people would think that one tele-stranger. Actually, people open up to strangers more easily than they do the people they know, a few months ago I had a young guy sit down and he said to me, I didn't realize just fresh out of college. That work was to be like this that I would sit in a cubicle all day looking at a screen talking to no one and he didn't say anything else.

He just sat and cried for about 10 minutes and then he said, great. So much better.

What you do you think is lonelier to to be with people and not feel that your fully communicating, or to actually physically be by yourself loneliest. I felt was when I was with someone, but I was still lonely. John Francis started talking again in 1990 that part of his personal journey he says was over. I climbed the mountain and that this bottom of this mountain. I was lonely and on the way know you're not lonely you're just alone. It just turned into solitude and solitude was something that craved you wanted you. You look for inspired by nature from early on today at 72. He's an environmentalist and author, and remarkably compelling public speaker. Thank you for being here my mother to jump up to get lonely today. I got a wife and kids think it's a sort of happy ending that all the folks we met. Would like to see her off our social connection is the foundation on which we build healthy and fulfilling life.

I would like people to start notice how much they need actual connection. We need vitamins we need vegetables we need clean air connection Valentine's Day without love stories will be sharing a few doors way roll along this morning.

Is there a secret to making the marriage go the distance from Alan Barbara Kornblum of New Jersey.

There is with in writing within the bike together for 45 years now says they tried riding on separate bikes. At first and decided on a switch.

Over the time we realize that the equalizer that's how we have it up with him to get out. February Rod according to Barbara it was a great way to spend time together to be fit and to just have a great time, much as it works for them and Barbara realize sharing a tandem is no universal prescription for wedded bliss doesn't work for everybody. You have to be willing to share what to help your partner patient's lots of patience it takes to learn how to write together on a tandem. Together they biked through most of the 50 states and many a foreign land as well and to hear them tell it, not about to stop where at 197,000 miles now, we never thought we get this far.

It was just just happened.

I love biking I love Mel so loving Mellon biking is one Sunday morning on CBS and here again is Jane Hawley, 1992 movie Malcolm X dolling Denzel Washington just one of many memorable Spike Lee films lots of movies but no directing Oscar. Could this be the year Leslie Stahl of 60 Minutes, has Spike Lee's story warning, there's language. Some may find offensive.

Here nominees for achievement in directing black men Spike Lee imagine Spike Lee's pleasure last month when he and his latest film black Klansman got six Oscar nominations including for best picture. Actually, you don't have to imagine it won't watch my son just leaving those doing it videotaped as I know what you see, was and I don't doubt the best picture in your all will dump it down after 40 years of directing nearly a film a year, this is Spike's first nomination as director and best film. It's a sore point going back 30 years and is widely praised film do the right thing. He directed and acted as Mookie the pizza delivery man overlooked for best picture always got it gone a lot. Did it hurt and reason why her the bid. They chose a great great though. The best picture cooled with the choice driving Miss Daisy that will up against yours hurt like it did at the do the right thing and will solidify the Malcolm X. I was never going to be be put in position myself where I look I need someone's whatever is to validate my work like to get the value of amine. I know what I do and the people let me know. People tell Neptune is a lie probably never thought about going to college of what is soul school days I that we would not help the black people make movies is ironic. I think it is that now that black Klansman has been nominated you're up against the green book which is you know, kind of a reverse driving Miss Daisy, a white man driving a black man well there you go that funny strange I had a talk my wife were not speaking about nor the films were tickly that one if it wins you're not going to say a word I say that if you haven't seen black Klansman is the short version 6 words black men traits that was it. That was it was it the greatest ever. Six words but it happened you didn't make that up. A black cop, Ron Stallworth really did infiltrate the client. Sorry much talking to this Ron Stallworth called from Colorado Springs, Colorado.

Our today's film lawn played by John David Washington Dan Zell son gets on the phone with David Duke, the clans, a grand wizard played by Toepfer Grace and it seems like there's less muscle. Space 1978. Stallworth, a Colorado Springs detective began an undercover investigation into the clan and later wrote the book that inspired the movie. How on earth did you get away with this little bit of luck, a lot of skill and with the participants that we were investigating being dumb as they come. The members of the Ku Klux Klan is correct gullible number, dumb and dumber and dumbest to persuade the clan of your authenticity. You said some vile things over the phone user language to language. Yeah, what like what I wanted to join as exchange Jews In anybody else's.

Quite like I in the movie as in real life, Ron answered a clan recruiting at when he was invited to join there had to be to Ron's black Ron on the phone, you probably should call Sarge and white Ron played by Oscar nominee Adam driver who would go to clan gatherings so is a pleasure. The real Ron showed us his clan membership card that he keeps in his wallet. It's it's signed by Duke Duke just Duke last summer when the movie came out. Ron got a surprising phone call from someone he hadn't talked to in 40 years. Duke himself had issues with how he was being pretrade and you want to discuss that with me. I guess he thought I Spike pills Spike to tone it down a little bit that's so that I going to go but that's what he called Ron's wife Patsy recorded the call on her phone.

Spike was called the N-word many times when his family became the first Blacks to move into cobble Hill then Italian-American neighborhood in Brooklyn.

Did you have any other acts of racism against you want to join the Boy Scouts and they said I could do because I wasn't Catholic that will we all knew it was more volatile. What was so at that said F. Boy Scouts, I want to be his father jazz musician who wrote the scores for most of Spike's early films taught him another lesson you have a policy against drugs.

Have you ever even had a joint yourself is will publicize my father had addiction did not just saying that as a jazz position at era that ever jobs this is you know they were doing stuff and so that his mother, who died when he was away at Morehouse College was an English teacher.

My freshman year I was very lonely. I missed I was homesick right my mother every week and every week. My mother would turn those letters I wrote and looked like she had cut her wrist on the paper was all marked up in red. And if you tell him I can't believe I was on the goals of Morehouse. The semiliterate, the semiliterate, now 61 years old and just nominated for writing the black Klansman screenplay bought this building in Brooklyn 25 years ago from all the money he'd already made on his movies. It's the headquarters of his production company called 40 acres and a mule. It's where he cuts most of his movies with his editor Barry Brown shot that Spike is a lot very effective. Spike was the first movie that uses it's where Spike keeps all the stuff he's collected over the years, including shots of him spouting off at Nick's games in a way that's earned him his reputation as an angry black man. They all will know I get my game, you know, you know, do you know there were reminders of his career as a maker of an actor in his famous ads for Nike air Jordans all there's just one thing missing in all the clutter in his office and Oscar for best film called upon-year-old Oregon boy nicknamed Bonnie and this dress alike.

Australian Labrador loading Dragon love story love story. Reagan showed Buddy so much love and Buddy showed Reagan that love and return that Sandy swore it off Reagan's owner. Her daughter Carrie Lewis's little body's adoptive mother at the story of love and power of what love can do little body originally came into Carrie's family as a foster child Reagan. She says helped ease the boys way bringing him into our home through foster care isn't like scary situation for a child and had to have a dog till I cling to you and feel unconditional love from is really and get down side-by-side with Reagan for a kind of joint interview little body agreed and they're not the only ones to share the fun and some have some 450,000 followers on Instagram and the proceeds devoted to helping children in foster memory and getting a love child. I get getting on Moraga and I got a brand-new podcast.

It's all about people who have long fascinated me. One thing they got in common. Gerald had the name of my brand-new podcast obituaries from the 20th century's greatest entertainer. He could play any likening father just doesn't seem to get much respect. Everything wrong, so there's no statue. There's no signature on the Declaration of Independence to learn new things about people you thought you knew you aware that the day of your inauguration. Audrey died people who aren't real, not have the right for the brother because the Fonz became the older brother join me this premier season of obituaries has found a way to see life Sydney aquarium in Australia seven-year-old male in his three-year-old male partner match supervisor to tell each other before long span and magic were exchanging using them to set up a set of magic went on to have baby check from the Penguin egg they been given to sit on. No says to Shannon real special thing that they wanted to check his email and she's doing just fine, which makes it medically very much expect that this next any I'm Jane Pauley. Thank you for listening and please join us again next Sunday morning progress and crazy time once finals is. The point is we need people in the best way to protect good people is to convict the final season Millstream