EXTRA! Jennifer Lopez

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Learn more@edwardjones.com hi, I'm Jane Pauling and this is our son morning featuring a memorable story from our most conversation that offers insights beyond the broadcast on this episode Jennifer Lopez, superstar, dancer, singer, actor and producer.

She's engaged to marry baseball legend Alex Rodriguez. She talks about life and love with our Tony to cope.

So this is it really got a person thinks it's only number I am, I mean honestly, I don't feel any different than I did when I was 25, 26, a 70 years old get a much bigger life and having a bigger you listen, I'm meeting you and I have 26.

I played silly numbers leave those like every moment in my life has an amazing moment for me, even some of the hard stuff that sticks out in my mind when I think about the good stuff is just as all part of the journey, I just think now it's different if I have all this experience. I still feel very kind of useful live in at the beginning of great adventures feels really, really, really, I'm 38, nervous about going 40 amazing yeah yeah well maybe actually don't know anything you realize you don't 29 meeting 30s. You realize that you don't know anything and so that's kind of like a crazy time. Okay I don't know everything okay in the Army you're playing. You are an actor on stage is for special so because the movie called marry me because you were wedding dress in the movie I got asked. Right now I guess when I tell you, you know you have a date for you live.

I wouldn't even tell you that what I say is many mistakes about over sharing don't share now.

I like to share. I just think certain things have to be sacred and be protected careful and delicate me another person. It's our kids it's our family and I learned that along the way. I will say you seem to be doing a very good job of blending for all yeah yeah not easy to do a very lucky to have somebody say that they like to hugging each other is helping to do something and I was like they love each other. They just became fast friends and kind of felt that it was love and acceptance on both sides.

This was in about anything except a place that was provided more love for them and I think they felt that immediately felt safe and just got to know each other like kids get to know each other knowing when everything there is no weird thing on it are no weird energy around it. They just embraced it and again we have four very loving well-adjusted, talented, beautiful kids in the marriage thing, but I do want to would love to.

I would love but I do want to bring up Justice Ginsburg, yes you currently set down Ruth Bader Ginsburg with Alex. Yes, you asked for marriage if I did I did. It was funny on the data. Alex proposed that night we were in bed and we are watching a documentary and my sister told me about our meeting documentary and I like to know what I heard. This is really good and we both kind of work into it. We love documentaries are watching this and besides all of the amazing things she's done for this country and as a as a Supreme Court justice. The thing that hit both me and Alex was her marriage marriage to Marty and that that partnership that they had and when I went to lunch where we would be going to Washington DC and we reached out and asked if she wanted to come to the show and she's like it's a little late for me by. I'd love to meet you and Alex and please come by to my chambers and we went to Chambers and we sat with her and we talked about a lot of different things will one of the things was ill you had this amazing marriage with Marty like what's your piece of advice, and she said it's good to be a little tough sometimes. Like okay she's like an unkind word perfect. Sometimes you just have to let it go and and and staying calm and being in that to me as a superpower of hers and often. Alex and I I will now reference like RPG like stay calm, stay calm, you know that's the superpower. When everything gets crazy people get out of control when there is like heightened emotions don't go there with people just stay calm, strength, yes. And that's that's what we we walked away with from her and and that it was awesome was awesome to meet her hustlers. Yes no no I love I love you. Is it true that when you first got the script there was not the scene using talk to you is to raise their eyebrows and noticing of that wasn't originally in the script.

No, it was not that it was written as Ramona's entrance was basically she does a final flourish on stage like the end of her music and she walks down and meets destiny is asserting that she's the queen of this place. You have to see it but were telling you you're supposed to see it.

Kind of. There was voiceover there is like you know I had my eyes on Ramona. I had my sights set on multiple she was the moneymaker will why don't we not say that. And how about show. She is yeah and I just thought the best way to show it was to show her on stage.*The club understanding the game.

Having that a lot. Knowing how to get their money different from the performer that was on stage right before who collected a few dollars off the stage and at the end of hers. It's like everybody's come up to the statement here mean money and we talked about thing on stage and dance that is very indicative of who she when she does that means you have a character for the direct have this and you know you don't have to like you don't have to strip you don't have to do think it's really that in a movie about exotic dancers that there be some exotic dancing, some stripping me some of that was her moment of hesitation that you have the idea narratively. You said you have to show us anything.

That means I have to show right yes there's always that kind of human fear of not wanting to know expose yourself in a way that you have done before.

Not meant in this case, not just emotionally but physically you know, and so that was a little bit scary for me it's something I had never done you know Stephen just as a woman being insecure with your body thinking harder about your field while I worked really hard, so I wouldn't feel insecure working out and learning the pole and becoming that type of body for that role. His heart was still in your mind, you know, nobody thinks of themselves as perfect, you know I'm here I go. I was like a camera ready. But I still felt very vulnerable and when you got on set and there's 300 men there and whether their background actors are not still men my guy getting it up right now is our question will record 40 films, nearly all the good ones you want. Big box of balance.

This is a good morning role noticed no Oscar so for North nominations for know yet you think this may change as the one hope so. I hope so. Part of the performance, what it is on the second thing anyone else's combined these different strands of the entertainment industry and one grade like you have think you mean. I looked up to people like you know Barbra Streisand, Diana Ross and you know that Midler and you know senior performers Barbara because she directed as well. The singer and performer, but also she directed and I love Tina Turner for her performance, quality, and it was different people that I looked at it like I want to do all that that's that's that's what I wanted. That's what would it be like you knew you were very clearly knew you were to be is moment 2001, 2002 were the tabloids are telling you. You are yeah whatever was that tell me what you think and so will first is the error. Okay, you're definitely a really, really, seriously, this is like the inauguration of the celebrity couple are you a better, more combining names like that that was new. Yes.

So what you know like because AZ will you call the puppy I called the puppy. Are you going to be an era was like a crazy time in my life.

You know, pumping. I would like up in the Bronx.

He had been in the music business and how the success I was just starting my first album when I met him he became kind of a mentor to me in that moment. We had this kind of crazy tumultuous relationship that ended in like a bank say and yeah and and it was nothing more but I felt it was necessary like he is meant to be in my life at that moment to teach me what I need to know about the music business about kind of kind of artist. I wanted to be in the music industry. And when you talk about the benefit Jennifer Everett is so weird I'm talking about this like to talk in that way.

So you know I don't look at them as errors in that way I look at them is like these are people in my life who I really cared about and fell in love with and who we had very special very unique relationships with people and I think maybe that's what captured the public's attention. In a sense, because it was realness to them. It was nothing to say to them to those relationships and people felt it and they were very different than wanted to be.

Believe it or not, quiet and not be in the tablet. It was the beginning of the tablet era.

We were kind out there and kind of like I'm a member like stacks of magazines and we were on it like every week and it was it was overwhelming for both of us taking it was it was too much for both of us to handle you reading and thinking I know who I am and this is not absolute and limited their phone number.

Surely the corrected. I did feel like that sometimes but you also feel a little bit helpless. How will I how I counter all of the stuff that's being said you can't. You just have to live your life is what I've learned over the years is lights great to be where I am now and at the age I am now because that stuff doesn't bother me anymore because I know so much who I am and you have to learn like to live my life in a way that I'm proud of and everything to be okay.

People can say what they want to say the other day I go to bed. I have great mom today.

I was great person and I was a great partner, I was loyal I was. People I was kind I was giving tried my hardest and that's all I can do every day that's wise and good. Exactly how you should see 50 it's really hard one was already go through that you talk about it about trying not to let it affect your own self-esteem and self value for a long time. It did because I was you know talked about in a way that discredited any sort of town. I had you know and it was hard because I started digging. Well, maybe I am a fraud and I think most article that arrangement here. I was like it was being magnified on such a big level in the tablet era was such a time where all about like how how do we find that the CD story. How do we bring people down to make fun of people. That's what's selling all of the negative stuff and then it changed changed with American Idol and Internet and being able to kind of talk to my fans directly or being on American Idol which is a reality show where people got to see the real me and realize that this person they were creating in the media wasn't really who I was inside my heart and I think that change things nice. Social media has been a force for good life for sure because you control yeah more of what you let people see and also I don't think it is seriously as some of the kids were born into social media is the be-all and end-all. I'm able to have a balance with it. Where I go, I can have fun with it and share things about my life and let you know what's going on and put up things I'm proud of about my kids and my family and and the things that I'm doing in my work, but also don't take every single comment so seriously again and you get caught up in that part of it. When you're in the public eye is a part is a party, you have to give up you have to give up a little bit of bingo doesn't matter what he says I know who I am and this will have to be and I worked on being the best person I can be every day progress and crazy time is the point is, when there are bad people in the best way to protect good people is to convict final season Millstream