Letting God Be Enough

Today on Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman letting God be enough God and God has ordained that God will finish that God will finish raising our children to learn to rest were here along welcome to building relations Dr. Gary Chapman, author of the New York Times best seller. "The 5 Love Languages" struggle with self doubt, you won't want to miss the conversation today with author and beaker Erica Wiggin horn resources. Her book letting God be quite striving to keep shoes and help surrender such love languages.com and before we hear from Eric. I'm interested if you ever struggled with self doubt, did it ever hold you back from doing something good accrue. So I learned rather early on. John 15 verse five Jesus said I am the vine, you are the branches loosely connected the mood to bear fruit without me you can do nothing, but I was.

It was graphically burned in my heart and so through all the years I basically have had the attitude God I can't do without you, but with you I can deposit I can do all things through Christ who strengthens us up there. There many many times and am getting ready to do something a project writing project or speaking of something of this I got.

I cannot do this without you, but I know that you can give me the so I am going through.

Looking back. In which I had a lot of self-doubt is just no I can't do without him out of doubting myself is about to be honest with God, but the other part of that of course is and that's the theme of the book here seems to me let's let's let's let God do we have to cooperate. To be sure excited about our conversation today. I am to because I think there are a lot of people who aren't the place where you have been. They feel a certain thing on the inside that I'm not enough that I can't do this, but they're not good, not fully invested in believing that God can in and through them so were to meet Erica Wiggin horn today she's an award-winning author, founder of every life ministries bringing you the truth of Scripture to transform your life. That's what she's about transformation, not just one little change here and there but transformation in your life and how you do that by digging deeply into God's word every like ministry encourages you discover your unique purpose except God's promises and live by his power. She is the author of three Bible studies released by Moody publishers and unexplainable life. The unexplainable church and unexplainable Jesus is a graduate of an postgraduate of Azusa Pacific University. She lives in Phoenix with her best friend and husband Jonathan and their two children Eliana and Nathan featured resource. Today is her book letting God be enough.

You find out more at 5lovelanguages.com will Erica welcome back to Building Relationships for those who don't know your ministry. Tell us a little bit about yourself and why you do what you do, tell later in my nature when I accepted my pastor Bible.

I word in bright red letters and I remember reading my Bible to follow you when I can't even understand you ever seen a week care share.

For years I really struggled to read and I felt guilty because I enjoy reading I found it to be frustrating to hear other believers talking about you know how quiet time God speaks through the Bible and that wasn't my experience since I felt the same Christian Bible and finally the time came, where dear friends took me kicking and screaming to my first Bible study and sat around the table. Believers who walked me through the Scripture and helped me understand it was like a light really became life experience. The catalyst for me wanting to create resources where even on next to people just coming alongside people helping them walk through the Scriptures understand what it means how to apply their life in the hopes that the light bulb comes on with the word of God the way I was earned and not trying to understand. The book was written thousands of years ago and talked about things they never seem to know my life is get your faith in the book, the Bible and live like it's true because Jesus from our sins by his word will save us from ourselves countless times so I like that. The reality is many people who have not been exposed to the Bible in early age.

Read some of the metaphors that are hard to understand exactly right. Well, this book deals with feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt.

What you think so many Christian women struggle in these areas struggle for a couple of one of the reasons is that when it comes to being a Christian warming. There is sort of this cultural expectation. You are going to be good and a lot of different things to be a good mother and not mean you're going to have good well-behaved children. You're going to be a good wife, which means you are quite successful. You are going to have a good home. It's going to be neat and orderly. You are going to take care of all anyone can enter at any time, and it's going to let you're going to take care of yourself so you can be attracted to your spouse how you're going to be good survey so sign up casseroles for the family and goes around your name on it. We have all these areas of our lives where we are to do well and the reality is this for most of us. We know that there are areas where we are falling short, and our kids are not perfectly well behaved and ugly words happen between our spouse and ourselves behind closed doors and we are resentful that the expectation is that one more area where we need to serve.

We are not a quote unquote good Christian woman and so we tried to keep up side will everyone thinks that we are good Christian woman. But on the inside are worn out.

We are exhausted. We are weary and we are wondering if there's a better way to follow Jesus so expectations well floors is one reason why there is another reason I think the other reason is that this is just very much pervasive lie in a pervasive lie of our culture that we are operating in our goodness. If we are doing the things that God created us to do that we should be full of joy should be easy and we should just be at every turn. Because this is what we were made for. And yet when we left Scripture. Even though this is culturally what a lot of churches are even preaching when we look at Scripture. We look at God's great servants. That's really not the story that I see it all. I see servants with a lot of self-doubt. I see servants with some Alton elements moments of fear servants that were asked to do very difficult things that were beyond far beyond their ability without God's miraculous intervention but yet somehow we live in a slide that we should be able to do all be all to everyone all the time and it's doing a number on Dr. Chapman number in our relationship and our relationship with God in our relationship and our family and with our friends and our faith families? Ask about Christian women but do you think the man struggles would go with a sense of self-doubt. Do I think it's more focused for women because I think the expectation for man is a little bit different citation for man is going to do well in their jobs and going to be able to provide for their family on successfully in a healthy manner, whereas women are much worse.

Spread into a whole lot different.

Example might be if someone were to come over to my home and I have a huge pile of dishes in my sink and there's five loads of laundry strewn all over my couches in my family room. Most often, people are not Jonathan Jonathan E. Sanchez slouched like he doesn't fold his laundry expectation on my Erica Weiser house in such disarray. Is there something going on so women are spread in a lot of different orbits to perform well and to do well where is maintenance much more focused on their career. I think that doesn't mean they don't struggle with it because I think they do struggle with it, especially in terms of their career.for women, Bacons and common tasks with with this and a lot areas not just our work. Thanks for joining us for Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman, author of the New York Times bestseller "The 5 Love Languages" . If you want to know more about our guest or learn your love language website. Five love languages.com today author and teacher Erica Wiggin Horn is with us. Our featured resources letting God be enough.

Why striving keeps you stuck and how surrender sets you free. Find out more at 5lovelanguages.com that's five love languages.com good to talk about the imposter syndrome.

What is and what is it look like and feel like in our lives syndrome. This whole idea that the way people see me out.

I is not really on the side so there is this disconnect between sort of persona that we put out there and how we really feel inside of our own heads are inside of our own and obviously living culture with social media exacerbate problems. Usually the big problem that really occurs, especially about relationships right on when we're feeling like we are imposter we were feeling like we have to continually keep up this is what other people want us to be or expect us to be. It causes a lot of isolation in our relationships because we no longer have any level of authenticity in our friendships or in our meaningful most meaningful relationships. But for me personally what I can share is how it really affects my marriage. While not really knows the real meaty how it will effect my marriage is because I'm living in this constantly striving all the time. I'm so tired and so I don't have the focus and intentionality of building up my marriage and building up my house because I'm so busy trying to keep up outside persona for everyone else and keep my life looking like it's altogether. And so then a lack of intimacy with my husband begins to get further and further away because I'm putting all my time and energy into keeping up Sybase image that I feel like I have to live that you could hear a lot of the birth order. Some some names that indicate a person is striving out of fear, rather than working with a passion in whatever role or responsibility but hold so one of the biggest signs I talked about selection. You know, nobody really knows how you're feeling.

Nobody really knows the fear that you're harboring over your marriage or over your children or over the Chronicle. You just don't talk about that with anyone you feel like you because you feel like people will reject you. If you are authentic about skiers. So isolation is a big one. Another big one is micromanaging hyper control trying to micromanage your your husband all the time you trying to micromanage her kids all the time because you don't want to fail or you don't want people to think that your kids are struggling or you don't want people to know that you and your husband are struggling so your trying to manipulate and micromanage all of these things to keep up the good Christian family and your your dying side because nobody really knows. And so you're trying to do this all by yourself and one of the things that we talk about and letting God how the enemy whole desire is to isolate because if he can isolate us.

He becomes the only one to and so were just listening to lies over and over and over in our minds and this is exactly what he wants because there's no community there's no one speaking the truth into our lives about who we are as children of God, and that everything red struggles and every parent says well I hope I'm doing the right thing for my kid here, but sometimes I don't know. I'm trying to be good. I like I know when we begin to have honest conversations with other people in community and to encourage us and pray for essence truth into our lives. There is great power in analyzing the enemy become silent over the truth of who we are part of God's family and Scotch child, and so on tackling this tactic of the enemy becomes really important because we were not designed to live in isolation designed to live in community, wherever we are in the journey renewed the mood and openness with other people wrote absolutely 100% but you start the book with the story about your first job at the mall Phyllis about the performance review so I grew up in a family where no hardware was the most excellent way. No performance was always a big right and when you performed well you did the right thing and you did things well you were celebrated anywhere upon it. But when you didn't, there is great shame. And so my my first job. I remember going down my first performance review and I was terrified that I was going to hear you're doing the job. It's just not good enough, I was so certain I was told that I was falling short and because that not been the experience of my life you doing good job honey. Not like he could be doing more battery be doing something out something more important something more worthwhile and so as we slid into the booth and you know mice is not my knife under the table but I'm trying to get this golden moment here how to be a better employee went inside dying and she went on and on about what a hard worker. I was and how I was so faithful and showed up on time selling on just getting great accolades and giving array manager and she said that I give you one thing the work as I carried out very well said, you talk too much but all I heard was the one negative thing and I just just Ruminating over and over and over, and I think we do this all the time right like were looking at our marriage is like all great things about our staff all the things that are going well in our marriage but we just ruminate on that one thing that we need to change or needs to be different and so what we do do we let God be enough or do we try to micromanage our spouse, or we isolate that disappointment are not feeling that we have towards them instead of having an honest conversation right this is fear of inadequacy that's coming out and we do the same thing with our kids right like our kids are there so awesome in all of these areas he see God working in their lives. In all of these ways all these wonderful things about this one thing that makes this a little nutty as mom and we just hyperfocus on that one thing we ruminating on that one thing and then we try to micromanage them or we shame them to stop doing that. One thing celebrating all of the wonderful things that they're doing as children of God, especially if their love languages words of affirmation, but here the negative negative is sold in their heart, feeling more deeply than other people do. Sure no other millions of copies of self-help books that are sold helping people gain self-confidence you believe the Bible I believe the Bible holds eternal truths so you almost define God confidence instead of self-confidence is left is that the picture you know when I first really imposter syndrome was a lie that was keeping me in a lot of bondage being a Bible girl first thing I did okay. What is Scripture have to teach about where where can I find Scripture to examine and I came to the life of Moses, whom I now referred to as the greatest self-doubt, or of the Bible because I don't think there's anybody who argued with God over his assignment and over his abilities and feared God's rejection and abandonment more than most, and so I didn't so much focus on Moses like okay get Moses I can relate to Moses, but I really focused on God what is God do with Moses and struggle and what does God want Moses to know and to understand and to experience as he teaches Moses lie that he's renting and when I came across, which was so profound to me was an accident. Three. When Moses is going to God and he's arguing with God will deny God for this season for this assignment, I think we've all sent back to God. At some point or another in our lives. You know who: I do. This kid I don't know how to do this. This at this spouse is struggling with addiction work to do this is beyond me, and what God did for Moses roaming was so beautiful because unlike what the world tells us to do when we're feeling like were not enough for feeling like we're just not the girl for the job they want you to unroll your resume look yourself in the mirror. Give yourself some crops.

Cite your past successes. Look at your educational toolkit. In your experience tell toolkit and give yourself a nice big God did not do that for Moses and all Moses asked God question. In fact, I didn't get Moses crops at all. He simply promised him his presence. Moses three promises. He said first and I'll give you a promise. I presence I will be with you and Moses get your eyes off yourself. This is about saying Dr. to Moses you can do all things through me strengthening you this is about me Moses.

This is about God. God doing the same. So get your eyes off of yourself and remember that I am with you and that brings me so much comfort knowing I'm struggling like with one of my kids and I don't know what to do and I don't want people to think I'm a bad mom and I don't want people to think my kids are back in your with three kids. The promise of his presence. But then he goes on Moses the promise of fulfillment and I loved this part. When I was reading Scripture because he goes on, and he says Moses my presence will go with you when you lead the people out when you finish this circle that word win because I knew what I noticed was God did not say to Moses you know if your spiritual enough to understand my will. You carry out this assignment, or if you're obedient enough that I can keep blessing you will carry out or if you are wise enough to make all the right decisions will carry out or if you are, you know a good enough communicator that the people will listen to you carry out August carry out this assignment God said because God's plans for our lives. Don't depend entirely on our performance.

They rest on God's promises is God and God has ordained it. God will finish is the author and finisher of our faith. And so God will raising our children and God will the work that he started when we stood at the altar and God assignment. We just have to learn to rest and he will do the work we are along for the ride. Thanks for joining us for Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman today were learning how to let God be enough mean and what is it look like to live it out. Our featured resource@ 5lovelanguages.com is a book by Erica Wiggin horn. You can find letting God be enough@ 5lovelanguages.com before the breaker.

We were talking about Moses God's promise going to be with you and when you do this over to really like that. There were, there are people who would so you know okay so God is with us and so anything he has rose to do is go be relatively easy for us because he's with us is that always the case assignment and grumble our campsite so this is really one of the lies that the world throws at us right and when the enemy comes against what you know it. If you are a good wife would have a good marriage. If you are a good mom. Your kids would be good because you're not enough that the struggle is there, and that's a lie that the enemy comes. But the reality is what we see in Scripture is when people are following God and people are doing what God is asked them to do it hard.

Dr. Chapman and so God be with us, doesn't mean it's going to be easy. It's going to be miraculous right we see we see within Moses incredible interest. See that he had with God. Right to the point that his whole face becomes radiant from God's presence because of the deep and the prescription for the inadequacy is the intimacy with God is exactly what you are talking about in John 15 right as we abide in him we get our eyes off of ourselves.

We get our eyes off of our own notations and we realize that we are serving and following and obeying limitless God is big enough to get us to the other side of all that were facing today and we can trust him. We can trust that he will be faithful even where we become less what was so often we feel are two things that we really try the hardest seem to be the most difficult well because I think it's exactly what God wants us to know you can do. You know I love it in second grade 12 men email the Corinthian church is basically saying to Paul like I know that you are the first one. It tells about Jesus and tells about the gospel and all that since last call you a lot of other creatures come through here and you know we just got a whole lot better than you are like you know they're there super apostles. You know they're going on all their great rhetoric kissing you and you can almost hear Paul in his letter, sort of chuckling right like, saying to them, do you think I need your approval to feel like I know that I'm doing what God has called me to do. I don't see my adequacy is coming from myself or from you Corinthian church. I don't need you to invalidate the adequacy comes from God. I know this is what God is called me to do and you and post all the more about the fact that I don't know how to do it perfectly because that means I'm getting invite the power of Christ to rest on me and it's going to be the power of Christ that comes through my preaching there so much freedom right like I don't need your approval for the land. My kids you know I don't need Instagram's approval for the way you know the way I love my spouse and I'm not going to do it perfectly. I'm not going to get it all right but I'm getting invite power of Christ into my home and the power of Christ into my parenting into my marriage and that's going to be where the most profound things happen not when I try to do it in my own strength or do it in a way that I think is going to make other people applaud. Go see such a good mom. So what are some of the practical way to stop responding, inferior, and stood surrender and foodies. When God calls us to serve him. In particular, the prospect of what will become steps we go through to get there. Yeah I know III would so love to say you just do one killing three and there you go, you are surrendered in your free units never struggle again but it's not God that that whole fear of inadequacy.

The antidote is intimacy and it's a process. Now we see You Know, I Surrender All, When We Think about Surrender. It's like This Huge Abstract Right but I Think Most of Us Were to Be Honest with Ourselves and Most of Us Were to Get Quiet for Even 5 to 10 Seconds, and Say to God What Is That Thing in My Life That I'm Hyper Controlling What Is That Thing in My Life That I'm Just Driving and Striving and Striving to Your Outcome That I Want. It Wouldn't Take More Than Five or 10 Seconds for Us to Instantly Know What It Is. The One Thing Today That I Think God Is Saying Were You Surrender It on over to Me, Will You Trust Me with That One Thing Will You Allow Me to Be Faithful Will You Let Me Be and Not One Thing and Stop Feeling like You Have To Be the One to Secure an Outcome That You Want.

Will You Let Go.

So Surrender Is a Process Just like Intimacy Is a Process and so What God Is Calling Us to Surrender Today Will Probably Be Maybe Something Different.

Six Months from Now and the Intimacy with God Is Something That Happens over Time. Just like I Shared in the Beginning of My Life Reading My Bible. Spending Time with God and His Word Was Not Something That I Said Okay Jesus I Believe You Died on the Cross for My Sins, and in My Heart and Then Instantly I Opened up My Bible and Credible Time of Sweet Fellowship Abiding with the Lord. That Was Not My Experience Came over Time.

What You Think God Wants Us to Surrender Because He's God. Surrender the Surrender. See How We Develop through the Surrender Is Were Self-Reliant.

As Long As Were over Here Spinning Our Wheels, Striving and Striving.

There's No Intimacy with God and That Was Really What God Was.

After with Moses. The Whole Time. My Presence Will Be with You Moses I'm Not Asking You to Follow a Certain Checklist. I'm Not Asking You to Help Do ABCD E Asking You for Intimacy.

I'm Asking You to Come and Abide in My Presence. I Want to Be with You. He Was God Tabernacle with His People. That Is What God Is Saying to All of That.

I Don't Want Your Performance, Stop Trying to Perform to Please Me. I Just Want to Be in Your Presence. I Want to Hear Your Heart. I Want to Know the Fears That You're Harboring. I Want to Know the Doubts That Your Wrestling I Want to Know the Questions That You Have Want You to Come and Be in My Presence, so That I Find.

Well, My Life in See You Can Bear Fruit. That Is the God That We Serve. What Was the Bible Bible Study so Important in This Process of Having While I Kind of Equate It on If Jonathan Were to Say to Me You Had a Really Busy Week and Are Spending Time Together. How about Friday Night You and Me. We Go out We Have a Date and That We Just Catch up and of Course If I Don't Have To Cook and Clean up the Kitchen. I'm Bearing on How I Sleep until We Get to the Restaurant with Sliding and Jonathan Starts Sharing His Heart with Me and and You What What the Highlights of This Week Were with the Struggles Are and Get Very Far into the Conversation and My Phone Thinks so I Think in My Purse to Get My Phone out Because You Might Need.

When I Can't Sleep Right so I Get My Phone out and the Phonemes and the Kids. But It's a Reminder of Something to Do so Then I Get out Another App on My Phone and I Start Going to Pay That Bill That I Need to Pay. Reminds Me of Something Else and Then Another Text Message Comes through and Check It Again. You Know, I Don't Know about You Gentlemen, I Can Tell You My Has Been in about Three Seconds, He's Just Going to Stop Talking and He Say to Me Honey When I Have Your Full Attention. I Have Some Things I'd like to Share with You, but in Time Have Your Full Attention. I'm Just Going to Sit Here and Be Quiet and Wait until You're Ready to Be Wet My Husband and the Reality Is Is That We We Do This with Our Spouses, but We Also Do This with God. And We Wonder Why God Feels Far Away and We Wonder Why We Don't Know What His Will Is and We Wonder Why We Feel like We Don't Have Wisdom and Parenting Difficult and We Wonder Why We Can't Communicate with Our Spouse.

And We Wonder Why Were Praying and Praying and Praying and yet God Seems and I Think It's Because God Sitting across the East Reaching out with His Hands Saying to Us Child. So Many Things I Want to Share with You but I'm Gonna Wait until You're Ready to Give Me Your Attention.

This Is Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman, Author of the New York Times Bestseller "The 5 Love Languages" Are Featured Resource Today Is Letting God Be Enough. Why Striving Keeps You Stuck and How Surrender Sets You Free.

It's Written by Our Guest Erica Wiggin Horn. You Can Find out more at 5lovelanguages.com before break, you were talking about the illustration of you and your husband sitting in the restaurant you're entering the phone and responded to, text messages, and the pseudonym waiting a good time to have some things I want to share but I want your full attention to new new parallel between our sitting in front of God and God. We got so much stuff that were doing were doing all this stuff and God wants to talk to us. He wants to share with us but he say whatever you're willing to listen to no one talk to your you were showing the value and the necessity of our taking time to be alone with God reading his word because this Bible is his clearest message to us. You know that's even where we find out about Jesus, but no do you do it with us with the person who struggles to my Bible reading your Bible study or priority. Have you been there work with other people who were struggling with making it a priority.

Yes absolutely shared a little bit of my journey beginning of the program and and the whole idea is that somehow we we believe that as soon as we are Christian then working to open up our Bible and all going to make sense to us were going to just love this book because it God's book and that was not my experience that all and what I found Dr. Chapman what really became a game changer for me was to commit to community to commit to studying this book in the presence of other believers that really enabled me to begin to make sense of it to see how kind and tender and personal God is because we could all be studying the same, yet God would speak to each one of us in a very personal way, regarding our situations and our trials and difficulties that we were walking through and how we would meet each one of us personally on the pages of Scripture and so for the person who really struggles say I get it. And you're not alone. So don't believe the lie that you know everybody loves the Bible but you. Everybody understands that you and for me. I hesitated to go and study the Bible and community because I didn't want anybody to know how dismally small my Bible knowledge was right right so little about the Bible because I didn't read my own and I didn't want people to know and but what I discovered was when I committed to being in God's word and community. It helps keep me on track and I learned as much from my brothers and sisters who are studying with me as I did from reading it myself. So we individually or in the process. Once we come to Christ were pictures but spring babes in Christ can do much of it also took it out through the roof so the pyramids in this case the parents or the community, but no more than the blade member, their processing and helping to hear you say that is true spiritual, but those who have been walking with Christ for a while and studying the Bible, or the like and share with those who are babes and give us some perspective that will help us understand what God is saying the Bible.

That's right that's right, and share their life experience with us as well – how God spoke to them through the Scriptures until this ministered in their lives so if you if you are a young Christian, or if you are struggling but he read the Bible two times a new set just as much sense to me. In addition to being a part of a group in a church or Christian group and studying the Bible with them and hearing others.

Any suggestions in terms of luck.

Where would you start to sell the personal level. If you wanted to be near the textures for your own private time in the Bible, but where would you start reading.

Well, I can recommend a couple of resources out what they go to my website Erica.com have a free e-book bundle on their and one of those books is 52 into the sea with God, so God and spending time in the word is a struggle for you that resource is completely free and it would be a great place to begin.

If you're saying I'm ready to do that. I'm talking about is going to get you yell 5 to 7 minutes a day just like I'm writing a really study my Bible.

I had the right resource the right tools on my study unexplainable Jesus rediscovering the God you thought you knew. It's gonna take you through the gospel of Luke and help you understand all those red letters of Jesus in your Bible. What Jesus actually mean when he talked about how does that apply to our life today and what is the relationship with you that Jesus is really so either of those resources would get you going on a good path think things like helpful tools. What can really help the person who beginning to walk with God. The more time. Of course I spend with the word, the more we get to know God more intimately good with God, and the more we see the Scriptures begin to jump out in our hearts and our minds.

One things up suggestion through the years is when you read a chapter in the Bible. If something really jumps out at you statement underlined it and justify. Could you underlined it that's come strobe of your understudy move you don't fully understand your talk with God about what you just read.

Maybe you're asking them a question so you don't quite get that list go to somebody else about it later, but the other also. Is your son back to God. Thank you that this is true or your your site God do that but myself. I'm going to go do.

I'd like to be that person that I'm just reading about here because it is a person. It's a conversation thing. New sentence with God right absolutely and another great question is do I really believe I really believe what Scripture says here or do I believe something else because there's a lot that needs to be uprooted to write something that you're not believing and so those are all great questions to ask God, or to even say where is this true in my life and where does it need to be true in my life and inviting. This the Holy Spirit to search our hearts right.

Jesus made it clear that he was going to give us the Holy Spirit. Why is going to guide us into all truth, and so we have the Holy Spirit living inside of us to help us make sense of the Scriptures and yet we also have the community of believers to help us make sense of the Scriptures we have both resources so it's kind of like on now. If I were to go to the doctor and the doctor says okay Erica you you're pretty healthy but there is an issue with your heart so I'm I'm going to send you over here to the cardiologist on because the cardiologist is speaking to this issue as well. So then the two of us can work together to get you healthy and I say to my family doctor.

Well, that's okay. Now I got for you, you're a doctor, I don't.

I don't need anything else.

And if I don't get fully healthy, well that's okay whatever you the family doctor that would be pretty right with God. Right like were like okay well you know I have God and God is all I needed so I don't need to be and I don't need to be studying the Scriptures with other believers and I don't need to actually attend church. I can just listen to my preferred pastor online and then yet. And then we wonder why we don't feel fully alive and healthy start of spiritually languished while it's because were not taking part of all the resources that God has given us to live. John 1010 life. We wonder why were not bearing fruit well because we said well I only want justice.

This little part of the buy to flow into me that these other parts of the pie. I don't need you to memorize a particular verse your statement in the Bible that really really is meaningful to all our thing about that very quickly is that we need to be really careful with because as Christians. A lot of times you know we have like our favorite like T-shirt versus coffee mug versus if you well and make sure that were really understanding what those verses actually say and not just what we hope they meet on or what where we know where we've gotten, and maybe a little bit Americanized. If you well and carefully. But when we have come across something in Scripture that is really stood out to us like, like I mentioned, you know the Exodus 310 and when that word when jumped off the page at me and God to save my presence will be with you and when you lead the people out on memorizing that and having that with me becomes a game changer because as I'm going through my day and I'm having a frustrating conversation with my teenager on St. my needle becomes back in the back of my mind go to God is with me and he will help me raise this child. God is with me. He will give me wisdom what to say God is with me. He will show me how to navigate this disappointment with making major well and it becomes the default that we can lean on instead of those lies in the intermediate Commandments like you're not a good mom you're not doing enough for this kid, you're not parenting wow you're not on setting healthy boundaries are making more mistakes on instead of allowing the enemy to whisper those things and hear. I can go back and I can recite Scripture in my ear and I can then begin operating from a place of confidence because I can do all things through Christ. I can do things when walking in truth and I don't operate out of my emotions and emotions can be beautiful indicators that there something that were thinking or believing that's not true, but emotions do not have to be dictators but if were not focused on truth for you for allowing our lives to continue to ruminate in our minds. Those emotions are going to become dictators and no worse in a relationship and worse situation is precisely what Jesus did when he was being tempted by Satan quoted Scripture society have memorize those things you know when the lies come, we can kill them with the truth is you were working on this book was or anything unexpected or surprising that you learned in the process of writing this book. You know what really jumped out to me why I live as I'm looking at God's relationship with Moses and how God works heatedly when analysis is saying to him, I am with you I am for you.

I have a plan. Stop stressing out Moses.

I have this under control. I know what I'm doing right, you reiterate over and over to Moses and Moses. Finally like this at the moment with God right the Red Sea. The moment that the people of Israel site throughout Scripture, more than any other moment. More than creation itself. They cite the Red Sea right after the Red Sea parts and God destroys their enemies get to the other side free from their captors and yell singing or celebrating after that moment of just incredible quote unquote six where God works mightily through Moses. Immediately after God bringsface-to-face with his limitations and I love because I think sometimes we get this very foolish now standard that when things are going well or we've we've got the first kid off to college right this notion that we've arrived at this level of spiritual maturity or this level of success. Now all the sudden we have life figured out and we can just keep rolling along and immediately what God does with Moses is basically brings Moses to the places where Moses can't can't do it. He's not and I love that because it's like God again saying this is about intimacy with me. This is not dependence on me. This is about letting me be enough in all areas where you houses all of the places where you fall short arm. I will be more discussion is credible and think you're exactly right. But when we think we've got it made. Now we can handle this, God does allow things to happen, to show us his notice to so thanks for the time you spent with the stability and also thanks for the time that you have invested in the writing this book on notes going to be a help to those who are loosely and I would encourage them to get a copy for themselves but also for friends maybe will distribute in a study group. For example out to be a small group Bible reading plan and then we walked you through Scripture reading and discussion questions that you can share in a group definitely formatted in a way that it began in 1987. The feedback people love this particular get through a chapter what someone said is through the pick up line while awaiting TIME commitment, but I truly believe that God wants to set us free from this lie in the enemy that is really robbing our joy in causing us to isolate and just really causing a lot of strife in our relationship. Thanks for being with us today. It's been enjoyable conversation thinking when encouraging our world more about the future resource but your horn. "The 5 Love Languages" .com to find out one of letting God be in the striving teacher stuck to help surrender such a good five Loveland which is coming up next week. The music of Christmas is here.

David great celebration heralds we all love big thank you to her with Janice Todd. Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman is production radio in association with Moody publishers a ministry of Moody Bible and thanks for listening